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To think he deserved the hidden alarm clocks?

40 replies

TheHouseThatJackBuilt · 26/05/2016 15:14

Namechange although might be recognised - please don't out me if so! Been living with partner for 6 months or so. All is not well really for a number of reasons but a big bug bear of mine recently has been his alarm clock in a morning.

Basically he has to be at work for 6am. He sets his alarm for 5am. It goes off and he drags his carcass up, sits on the edge of the bed and stares at the fucking alarm while it continues to screech. When we first moved in together I told him this irritated me as it just wakes everyone else up and is annoying. He says he can't help it as he needs a few minutes to "come around". He stopped doing it for a while but has now continued - 5am - RING RING RING RING ........ he sits there staring at it being a Baloo for ages. This is on top of him getting up a million times a night and making a racket for stupid reasons such as "I can't remember where I put my glasses" and "I can't remember if I flushed the toilet or not" etc etc etc. I'm so fucking tired of it. Ive not slept properly since we moved in together.
This morning it was his day off so I set 6 alarm clocks - all for 4am and hid them all around the bedroom. Funny how he managed to get up straight away in search for them all isn't it.

OP posts:
KatharinaRosalie · 26/05/2016 15:15

He did.

Also, couldn't he get a fitness tracker that vibrates for alarm and therefore only wakes the wearer up? He can sit and let it vibrate for as long as he wants to then.

Pinkheart5915 · 26/05/2016 15:17

Why would you do that? It was his day off and you woke him up at 4am for no reason.

If your not happy with him for whatever reason your under no obligation to stay with him.

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/05/2016 15:17

This is on top of him getting up a million times a night and making a racket for stupid reasons such as "I can't remember where I put my glasses" and "I can't remember if I flushed the toilet or not" etc etc etc. I'm so fucking tired of it. Ive not slept properly since we moved in together. Why is he waking you up with this shit? If I wake up in the night, I creep out of the bedroom and try to be quiet.

Newmummyneedsadvice · 26/05/2016 15:19

Why act like a child? I wouldn't wake my dp up at 4am when it isn't needed.

If your not happy leave

NeedyGoat · 26/05/2016 15:20

What a douche, serves him right!

Original poster
TheHouseThatJackBuilt · 26/05/2016 15:20

Because he doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself. I didn't notice it so much before we moved in together but he honestly is one of the most selfish people I've ever met.
Pinkheart - it might have been his day off but he thinks nothing of waking me up on MY day off so why should I feel bad for it?

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Sandcastlesiloveyou · 26/05/2016 15:21

IMO it was unreasonable to do that. I understand from what you say you might have problems in your relationship but you don't have to stay with him I wouldn't want to act like a child

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 26/05/2016 15:22

i would have killed him or the alarm by now!

it's so rude to set an alarm and then allow it to disturb the entire household

Dh still looks a bit worried if I come padding down the stairs after he has got out of bed early, alarm or not. I am scary when sleep deprived! Sometimes I am just awake so I get up, mostly I do not even hear him getting out of bed, as he is so considerate.

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/05/2016 15:23

When are you leaving? Because you can't carry on with this if you really think he's so selfish.

MajesticSeaFlapFlap · 26/05/2016 15:24

Its clearly not working out

Mive out and be happy

Sparklesilverglitter · 26/05/2016 15:24

Appears a silly way to deal with it.

Agree with other posters if not happy either break up or go back to not living together

CurlyBlueberry · 26/05/2016 15:25

YANBU. That kind of behaviour would seriously piss me off. Hopefully this is the "wake-up call" (ha ha) he needs.

Beepbopboop · 26/05/2016 15:29

YANBU
Hahaha I did this to someone once 😂

Geillis · 26/05/2016 15:35

YANBU. He totally deserved it, what was his reaction? Did he get your point?

DaveCamoron · 26/05/2016 15:49

Just leave him.

Goingtobeawesome · 26/05/2016 15:53

There's no love in your posts. Stop moaning or move out. You don't have a nice thing to say about him so why are you with him?

LadyV90 · 26/05/2016 15:53

I think this is hilarious but I'm quite a fan of revenge and am fairly aggressive if you disturb or deprive me of sleep.

letthefundusbegin · 26/05/2016 15:55

If you're already loathing him over alarm clocks and his night time movements then this relationship really isn't worth bothering with.

You sound as bad as each other tbh

DuckAndPancakes · 26/05/2016 15:58

DP used to have songs as the alarm on his phone. He'd sleep through nearly the whole thing before it auto snoozed. Then it would go off again 9 minutes later. Drove me fucking NUTS.
He still has some mornings where he will continually snooze his alarm and then not get up until after me, but I've been woken by his alarms an hour before I need to. I may or may not get back at him for this by being relatively noisy at the weekends. Ahem.

Homealonedance · 26/05/2016 16:04

If your not happy after just 6 months living together then it is actually quite easy to end things.
Got to be better than doing silly little things like this don't you think

blueskywithclouds · 26/05/2016 20:21

Is he a sleep walker/talker? Is that what you mean when he wakes you up looking for glasses? I'm a sleep walker...i wake my husband up every night because I'm searching under the bed for the baby (or other equally mad things). He tells me firmly to go back to sleep and it normally works. I'd get him to change his alarm tone to something less jarring.

3littlefrogs · 26/05/2016 20:25

Well - now you know that he is selfish and inconsiderate, you are not compatible, you have had a lucky escape, so part company asap and be thankful you found out in time.

SaucyJack · 26/05/2016 20:29

He sits there staring at a beeping alarm for minutes at a time?

Why have you not garrotted him with the alarm clock cord?

Griphook · 26/05/2016 20:38

Oh yanbu, my ex used to do this, set his alarm for an hour before he needed to get up, and press the snooze button 50 times, then he'd say stuff like, I'll get out of bed once you've had a shower, or can you call me in ten mins. 1 1/2 later and he's up swearing that he's going to be late

19lottie82 · 26/05/2016 20:40

YANBU, and PMSL at all the "you're not compatible, just leave him" comments....... Only on Mumsnetters!

But in all seriousness, YY to buying him a Fitbit, it vibrates to wake you up.