To want the neighbours to STFU?

[TwllBach]

I have a nearly week old DC

Next door but one are renovating. They have a dog. Last night they were still banging at gone midnight and they've just started again. Their dog has just started barking. AGAIN. They let it bark all day even though they are in the garden with her as they are also 'doing' the garden.

My DC does not care, he sleeps through it fine. I care. It gives me the rage. AIBU to push a note through their cunty door asking them to have some fucking common courtesy?? IM FUCKING TIRED YOU GOBSHITES

They are selfish gits.

Wait until you are feeling a bit less murderous, then go and have a quiet, polite word. Also maybe have word with the inbetween neighbours, if its hell for you it must be worse for them, so a joint approach might work.

I think I'd rephrase the note! These people are going to be close by for a long time.

Could you drop by and ask a favour instead. Explain that your DC can't sleep (OK, so lie a bit) and ask if they could stop earlier. They are hopefully reasonable people. Good luck.

Hi pretty sure that any heavy DIY has to cease at 8pm in the week and even earlier at the weekend x

They are not reasonable people. Or apparently not anyway... They have disgruntled their neighbours on the other side for similar reasons. The woman is also a super fit athlete type who will only talk to people who are similar. She loves DP who does ironman comps and triathlons etc but won't even look at me because I am... Erm... Slightly rotund at the moment. She has genuinely ignored me the three times DP has tried to introduce me to her - he's lived in the street two years and I moved in around 2 months ago.

She's quite funny really. But also fucking inconsiderate.

We had this and it was hell! The guidelines are (for our council anyway) that noisy DIY work hours should be 8-8 weekdays, 8-1 Saturdays and nothing on Sundays. Might be worth investigating just in case the friendly approach doesn't work. It really is infuriating!

You have a week old baby. You'll be giving it back in spades in no time at all. I'd let it slide, as there will be times when you are cringing (toddler DS1 screaming blue murder at 3am about being escorted back to his own room, for e.g.; the years of 5am starts; primary age door-slamming strops) when you will be grateful for retaining some goodwill with your neighbours.

Send your DP round then.

If that doesn't work, council for noise abatement and dog warden for the dog.

Tell your dp you are going to move back out if he doesnt sort it, since she respects him so bloody much. Why isnt he doing something

Actually DIY after midnight is fucking inconsiderate. Send your DP around for a quiet word as she's only deigning to talk to him.

Regarding giving t back in spades when DC is older, I do think it's a bit different. For example, I also have a dog. I never allow her to sit out in the garden all day barking like they do. I don't expect silence, sometimes mine will bark sometimes if there's a knock on the door... Just you know, stop your dog constantly barking.

DIY as well, DP does DIY but he doesn't start at 8.20 on a Sunday morning or carry on into the dark hours.

Toddler noise is expected/unavoidable but there is a difference I think. I don't have a problem with them running chainsaws all day long during daylight hours or the occasional dog bark, I just think there are reasonable expectations of consideration involved as well c

DP gets irate about the dogs so I am tempted just to let him lose. He is, however, upstairs asleep because he needs his sleep more than me and I get baby cuddles

This is next-door-but-one!! I highly doubt they'll be able to hear a baby/toddler unless in the garden.

The impact they are having on their neighbours is huge and if they are unreasonable (and reasonable people wouldn't be like it in the first place) then go to the council.