to find the playground dads so attractive

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(blushes...) they're just more attractive than other men! Is this some kind of "oh look, good daddy material, potential mate there" evolutionary thing?

Does anybody else get this or am I a throwback to early man?

P.S. I'm not a homewrecker.

Hmm depends.

Are they actively playing with the children or sat on their arses with their phone and giving the kids an occasional nod when they shout "watch me daddy?"

Actively playing. This is the better kind of area

Then yanbu

They are much more attractive yes. Probably is an evolutionary thing.

If they're being decent dads then I would say that's why they seem so attractive. But they could also just be attractive. I've been so let down by partners in the past that I find myself thinking about a lot of people in an attractive light though. I'm having to force myself to be picky and have time alone.

Ex DH got given a phone number by another mum a few months back in the playground. He picks the kids up with step mum some times so not sure what she thought she was doing!

Caused much hilarity between the kids.

Lol imagine actually doing that

I have a crush on one of the teachers I think it's because he's so good with the kids and very caring! he isn't like the sort of look I would normally find attractive, he isn't ugly or anything but you know what I mean hopefully!

I think it must be the caring thing

Definitely normal.. Seeing a man being soft with his kids is so attractive, same as if they are cuddling a kitten or puppy! I think it's evolutionary as biologically we're here to make children and looking for the best mate. It also goes against a lot of stuff we're fed about what makes a stereotypical man (unfeeling, tough etc) so stands out. (Which I don't agree with btw, most men I know have a huge soft side!)

There's one at my DC's school that I swoon over like you cannot believe. He's probably mid thirties and he has an Italian mafia look, you know like I can imagine him being a part in a De Niro mafia film . He has slicked back kinda quiffed hair but he also wears trilby hats sometimes. I'm not selling him very well here . He's just very suave and naturally stylish. Always has nice trainers on which sells it for me and raybans when it's sunny.

He comes with his OH sometimes and she's really dowdy and frumpy. sorry I know that's harsh but I'm envious of her . He's lovely.

*envious of her because she has him, not because she's her. They're not well matched. He looks like something out of a Hollywood mafia movie and she's just, well, normal .

One of the teachers in an older year is gorgeous. I'm praying he's still there when my DC reach that age.

Yes there are a couple of nice looking ones in our playground too.

I've been so disappointed in this area. Living in Italy, I was kind of expecting to see an Adonis picking up every Lorenzo and Viola. Instead I see very very average, probably below average blokes. DH causes a stir when he walks through with baby in the sling (he is hot to be fair... not even attempting the stealth boast). Luckily I have a building site round the corner. They all look like they have fallen out of the Diet Coke ad. The mums on the other hand are 95% slim, 50% beautiful and 30% stylish. Boo. So much more eye candy for DH at parents evening.

We went to Spain when DD was10 weeks old where DH discovered, for the first time in his life, what it was like to be, in his words, "A babe magnet". Who would have thought through all those years of dating disasters that all he needed was a cute child.

Bless, he's lovely but strictly average in looks.

ha ha Slug, similar experience for my SAHD DH! Baby in sling had the greatest effect!

I was reading a psychology research paper recently on stay at home dads. One of them was quoted as saying "it's like being a rock star"

There are a couple of attractive ones at DS's school but the one thing that puts me right off them is the fact that they have kids.
Definitely not good boyfriend material.

Depends which way you're looking at it. I married one second time round. Watching him there was just no better dad. So fantastic and loving that he was unable to say no to them whatever they asked. They're now adults and it's not pretty. Be careful what you wish for...

I see it as a trap to lure you in.

Fell for it once, not falling for it again.

YABVU

DP is a SAHD to our 2 DSs, and often to be seen being awesome and attractive at playgrounds.

Eyes and paws off.

We have a male childminder locally who goes to all the groups and everyone loves him. He's like a local celeb haha

Going to try and see GP to check for lip tie

Whoops wrong thread!

Do you get to see any other type of men regularly?

I can kind of understand it if you don't, but otherwise, no, they are not hot! They are just ordinary looking men in the main.

A French one came into the Dr's waiting room the other day with his baby twins. He sat cooing at them and tending to them. It was ridiculously hot

I've got a bit of a dad crush

He's a tall dark and handsome sort who loves his Dd immensely.

I only noticed him when I saw how good he was with her.

It's defo an evolutionary thing.