I should start by saying this is a general moan. When for example x has been super rude to y (unfounded stupid comments) and you can't help but jump in and defend x, then you find out that y apologised to x as they basically realised they were indeed being a dick, but they never think to apolergise to you, even though you got some of the dickish crossfire. Happens to me quite a bit. Maybe I should just shut my big mouth and not stick up for anyone any more. Moan over.