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AIBU?

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Should I woman up?

23 replies

Skiingmaniac · 27/03/2016 19:21

Just had a rubbish birthday - a big one with an 0 at the end. Was on holiday (single parent with dcs) and had big plans for the day, including daring extreme sport, fab restaurant at lunch and fun night out. Night before one of the dcs came down with V&D and I spent all night mopping up bodily fluids. On actual bday I had to stay in isolation (holiday company rules) with sick dc, so had a cuppa and piece of bread for lunch and spent the day alone (apart from sleeping sicky Dc)

Anyway, I have returned from holiday and just been with my parents and siblings.....only one of them said happy birthday and no gifts from any of them - and yes I do give them and their families bday gifts.

Can I feel justified for feeling crappy and sorry for myself? I'll be over it tomorrow but for now I just want to wallow in self pity 😔

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mrsfuzzy · 27/03/2016 19:41

(flowers) (cake)(wine) poor you, hope all is better soon.

Dommylee · 27/03/2016 20:04

DolphinsandDinosaurs · 27/03/2016 20:15

Oh OP that is rubbish! Can you treat yourself to something nice? That is awful of your family. Having a wallow seems like a reasonable reaction.

imeatingthechocolate · 27/03/2016 20:21

practically my entire family and friends ignored my 40th yadnbu treat yourself to something nice

UterusUterusGhali · 27/03/2016 20:22

Oh. :(
My sympathies.

My family are shit with birthdays etc too. They don't realise the only gifts/cards I get would be from them so I might actually appreciate it.

I didn't get anything on Mother's Day either.

Come and snuggle up on the Pity Sofa with me.

Happy Birthday!

AlleyCatandRastaMouse · 27/03/2016 20:22

Wallow away.

Very disappointing. I hope you get the chance to make up for it.

wheresthel1ght · 27/03/2016 20:24

Happy Birthday

greenbloom · 27/03/2016 20:24

That is utterly rubbish. Save up and treat yourself/ but yourself something really lovely/memorable. Have another birthday with cake etc later in the year when D.C's are well.

2016ismyyear · 27/03/2016 20:24

Id be really pissed off too.

In fact i suggest that next week after any opportunity has passed for them to celebrate it id tell them you will follow their lead and dont indeed to celebrate anyones birthday from now on.

Buzzardbird · 27/03/2016 20:25

That's really shit, and they are shit, and you should tell them.

They really need to up their game.

ScarletForYa · 27/03/2016 20:28

I agree, you should tell them. That's abysmal. Happy Birthday OP.

Missdread · 27/03/2016 20:31

Oh OP poor you, that really is crap! Kids with sick bigs are a total nightmare but for it to happen on your birthday is especially horrible! Can you arrange for your family to have the kids overnight and arrange to go to a nice spa with a friend for some pamper time? Sending you a ((hug)) and some

Hassled · 27/03/2016 20:32

Blimey - wallow away - that sounds truly shit. And yes, call them on it. There's no excuse to ignore your birthday when you make the effort for them - but if you don't tell them it's upsetting you, they're clearly too thick to work it out themselves.

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Skiingmaniac · 27/03/2016 20:32

Thanks for all the 💐 And 🍰🍫
Unfortunately, I think I've now got the lurgy and that most of this evening will be spent on the loo 👎
I am planning a night out with friends soon as a bday celebration and I won't be inviting my family! 😤
Thanks again 😊

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iwillbemrsminty · 27/03/2016 20:34

and and for you OP.

LindyHemming · 27/03/2016 20:40

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stubbornstains · 27/03/2016 20:45

You are totally allowed to wallow!

This last birthday was the other way around for me. My parents had come to visit, so they took me out for a meal, and got me a present for DS to give me .

And then I tried to organise a night out for my birthday. I invited 12 people, and every single one cried off with a proper, legitimate excuse. As in, "running a half marathon tomorrow", "got suddenly called into work", "just had a baby" (I mean, what kind of a shite excuse is that? ).

I still felt shitty and needed a good wallow billy no mates

HermioneWeasley · 27/03/2016 20:45

Poor you. But it's just a date in the calendar - you can plan your celebrations for another day with people who care.

Enjoy!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 27/03/2016 20:48

Oh you poor thing. I was going to suggest but that might not be a good idea now.

hermione has the right idea, celebrate another day.

Happy Birthday

Fluffycloudland77 · 27/03/2016 20:56

I would buy myself a treat after all that. No woman-ing up required. It's shoddy behaviour.

WizardOfToss · 27/03/2016 21:06

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miraclebabyplease · 27/03/2016 21:35

Celebrate another day and we will celebrate with you. That is really s*. Sorry you are now ill.

BlueJug · 27/03/2016 22:06

Sorry OP - it's horrible.

BUT a birthday is just another day. I have just spent mine on my own with major flu/chest infection. Felt so ill.

A couple of weeks later and I felt ok and had a nice Easter. In the end it is just a day.

Hope you get better soon.

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