To only take half the family to a wedding?

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Sorry title might be misleading....

A good friend of mine is getting married in the summer, she has invited all 4 of us to the whole thing (church and reception). Would it be rude to just accept for me and my youngest?

As to not drip feed the wedding is on a weekday so DP would miss work (self employed will lose a days money) and DC will miss pre-school (they've given him a full time place early so I don't want to him just missing days). It would also mean buying a suit for DP and something smart for DS... added to the expense of the actual wedding / losing a days money we just can't afford it.

I wanted to gauge opinions here before mentioning it to my friend.

Could dh and elder dc come to the evening after work?

They could do but it's still the added expense of smartening them both up, getting them to venue etc... also it finishes quite early (it's on a Tuesday!) so isn't really worth it?

I would just accept on behalf of you and your DC. Don't worry about it!

Course it's ok to just reply there will be two of you! Not rude at all. You don't need to explain why.

Tbh B&Gs are often happy to have a couple of drop outs to either save costs or to invite other people on a reserve list

Also anyone who has a week day wedding has to accept that they will get a larger than normal percentage of people who can't go. That's the perils of palming the costs off on your guests (as in expecting them to take annual leave so they can get a cheaper wedding)

Yes just take yourself and your one dc if that is what works for you as a family.

I'm sure the Bride will understand.

Not rude at all. Sounds very sensible and cost effective

Accept for the two of you. DH wouldn't need a suit for the evening do, still he could join you then.