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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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running bore/yoga bore

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Toxicity · 19/02/2016 15:41

Do any of you have any friends that constantly talk about their hobby/sport of choice?

I have a friend who is obsessed with their new found sport, it's all they talk about and post about on social media. Now I should say I am happy they have found something they love but I just have no interest in constantly talking about it myself. I try and steer the conversation onto something else but somehow it ends up back on the sport!

AIBU?

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Lottapianos · 19/02/2016 15:44

Not unreasonable at all. Its deathly boring when a friend talks endlessly about anything that you have no interest in, whether is a sport, their children, their partner or their job or whatever. I'm a pretty devoted runner but I never talk about it unless someone asks me a question or I find out that they are a runner too or whatever.

Do you feel like you could say what you have written in your post here - that you have happy they have a new passion and that's lovely,but that it's not something you are interested in hearing the details of?

CaptainCrunch · 19/02/2016 15:47

It doesn't matter what it is, if someone bores on about themselves and their lives and interests with absolutely no interest in yours. People going on about their DC, DH, pets, job, hobbies and never letting you get a word in edgeways are dull as.

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Toxicity · 19/02/2016 16:00

Lottapianos, I think you are right and I need to find a way of gently saying that I am so happy she is enjoying her sport, its not something that really interests me.

CaptainCruch, that's it, when someone talks endlessly about something it can get pretty dull.

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lastqueenofscotland · 19/02/2016 16:18

I'm probably a bit of a running bore....

NinaSimoneful · 19/02/2016 16:35

I ran pre pregnancy and will run again post pregnancy but how do you become a 'running bore?' Like, what is there to say other than 'I run' or 'I like to run' or 'I enjoy running'

I suppose you could tell people where you run or for how long maybe. Other than that I'm stumped.

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Toxicity · 19/02/2016 16:57

NinaSimoneful, exactly, I am interested in the basics, like where my friend runs and what distance/time etc. However she tells me about all her runs throughout the week, the clothes and trainers she uses, the people she has met through running, the runs she intends to do, which are her favourite medals.....it goes on and on!!

I swear I am not exaggerating either!!

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NinaSimoneful · 19/02/2016 17:12

Sounds mind numbing!

RudeElf · 19/02/2016 17:14

You know what i love? The ones who post a map of today's run on FB. wtaf is that about?

glueandstick · 19/02/2016 17:17

I like the ones who map rude pictures on their runs.

Eastpoint · 19/02/2016 17:19

DH expects me to listen to his talks about his runs, his Wattbike rides at the gym, his bike rides, his workouts & his windsurfing. I should win an Oscar - we've been together 25 years and I still don't care.

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Toxicity · 19/02/2016 17:24

Eastpoint, do you just switch off when he talks about it whilst still looking interested?

RudeElf, yep she does that too!

Glueandstick, now that sounds interesting haha!

NinaSimoneful, it is, I have tried to take an interest but I am just not interested in the finer details!

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LisaMumsnet · 19/02/2016 17:31

Ha, ha, my husband calls my incessant wittering about running 'the mating call of the running bore'! But I do try to reign myself in when I'm around non-runners. When you discover a passion it's really super-hard to keep quiet about it, so just gently steer your friend round to talking about other things (and maybe just join her for a run one day to see what she's on about?!) But beware if she starts emailing you about her heart-rate as someone I know did to me - then you've got a 'situation' on your hands, and better just run away...

LightDrizzle · 19/02/2016 17:41

I have more cycle bores on Facebook than anything. Mostly bloke friends of the Bloke, in their late 40's and older who have undergone a Damascene conversion to the health benefits of cycling and post maps of all their rides, leavened by the occasional selfie of their sweaty selves adorned in Lycra.

I could easily be a running bore - Couch to 5k graduates anybody? - but I am very stern with myself.

ThursdayLastWeek · 19/02/2016 17:45

Ah, I often post my runs to FB

I have a lot of 'running friends' on there who actually are interested honest - and I figure it's pretty easy to ignore or hide it if you don't!

I don't really talk about running with people who aren't runners though. I mean, sometimes they ask and I tell them if I've a race coming up or something. But there isn't really much to say!

I guess we need to help you find a tactful way to say as such OP.

ThursdayLastWeek · 19/02/2016 17:47

Could you just sort of ignite it and start wittering in an equally boring manner about your cat or something?
See how long it takes her to twig??

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp · 19/02/2016 17:53

I find the people who complain actually have nothing to talk about themselves! Nothing of any interest at all

What would be your subject of choice op?

Brainwashed · 19/02/2016 17:59

I might be a bit guilty of this...a lot of my fb posts are exercise related . However I decided to become a personal trainer do I can get paid to talk about and do what I love

weaselwords · 19/02/2016 18:02

Horsey people. We are only interesting to ourselves and other horsey people. Others run screaming from us. Or cry. Mostly run.

Wigeon · 19/02/2016 18:04

In what way is someone's run route interesting? I honestly can't find anything at all interesting in knowing that Freda ran for 38 minutes, I covered 5.6k and burned 200 calories. You might as well post that you had two slices of toast for breakfast, margarine, honey on one slice and marmalade on the other. With a cup of tea. I DONT CARE!

I do go running but would never ever post my route on Facebook.

Eastpoint · 19/02/2016 18:11

Mumontherun How rude! I could talk to him about films, books, my runs, my Pilates classes, my yoga classes, the children, what we are having for dinner, the Archers, dogs etc etc etc. I pretend to be interested as it is important to him, which is important to me.

Katenka · 19/02/2016 18:30

I think, since your social media is your own page, it's up to you what you put on it. If you want to post endless kids, food, yoga, gym stuff. It's your page, do what you want.

If other people don't like it they can unfollow.

And tbh I find the opposite. People talk about my sport and I don't really want to.

People have a lot of misconceptions about it and generally tell me how I will die doing it, or will turn my kids into mindless thugs.

I spend 10 hours a week at our club and don't fancy having to justify my choice to people who don't have a clue.

OVienna · 19/02/2016 18:40

I have a relative who speaks of nothing but marathons. Yes it's dull after awhile.

Spandexpants007 · 19/02/2016 18:42

It's fine for her to post on social media. Far more interesting then boring selfies. However it's not ok for her to endlessly talk about it.

Jibberjabberjooo · 19/02/2016 18:43

I have a fb friend who is a tough mudder bore. They spend all their spare time doing these events and posting selfies of every single one on fb. Before and after pics, the medal etc etc. All the time. I'm so bored of it I'm thinking about deleting them as I just don't care.

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Toxicity · 22/02/2016 11:19

Thanks all for your responses, I think that's it Thursdaylastweek, I just need to find a tactful way to let her know that whilst I bit of running chat is fine I don't find it that interesting!

MumontheRun - blimey that's a bit harsh! But to answer your question, I like to talk about mutual friends, our respective work, our families (both of us have had bereavements recently), gigs, film, music, books we've read, holidays we are planning - all sorts really, everything and anything.

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