to ask DS's nursery teacher to

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...give me the names of the children in his immediate group (i.e. not the whole class) and then ask her to distribute invitations to his birthday party?

It feels so cheeky - I know how busy she is and how hard she works. DS can't reliable give me all their names and would probably just draw on the invites.

I can't do it because I only very rarely do drop off/pick up (childminder does it because I am at work...)

Can't you ask the childminder to do it for you?

Our nursery wouldn't have given out names. Could you leave the envelopes blank but ask her to give them to the group.?

Our nursery would do this with no hesitation. The teacher would hand them out at group time with any letters or at pickup. They usually have 'a list' of names for party invitations and Xmas cards that they give if we ask. It's only first names.

The key worker for my DD did this for us, it wasn't a problem at all, she said they were often asked for it.

Childminder would potentially be able to hand over envelopes to teacher, but wouldn't be able to distribute to individual children.

I could leave them blank - but then the invite will say Dear........
please come to my party. They're those pre printed ones from a softplay place ....isn't that a bit weird?? Not putting a name?

I manage a preschool and we do this all the time
We do lists but just first names
Every child has a drawer so we put the invites in there
What we won't do however, is chase up invites

Oh, really Gaston? Maybe mine does that...

You can't give put blank invites!
How are you diodes to know who you've invites?

Cool. So I should be able to get a list, and the teacher won't mind.

Thanks you!

Gosh, my auto correct is on overdrive

No. Not cheeky at all. Hasn't your DS mentioned who he plays with?

I work in a nursery and we would do this no worries! Takes only a moment to scribble down a list of closest friends! Don't worry about asking them, honestly I'm positive they will not mind! X

Yeah, he plays mainly with one little boy who he used to go to the CM with and 2 girls from his keyworker group. I thought I'd invite the 9 from his key group, the little boy he used to go to CM with and a few others who go to nursery the other end of the week (but who go to his CM)

I've always started a list and given it to nursery to check and and see if all friends are on there/whether any who are randoms from the baby room or whatever can be removed. They've always been happy to help.

Once you've done the list and the invitations are our make sure DS knows it's final. My DD had form for telling anyone and everyone they could come up until the day before.

I have given out blank invites before. Dc moved school and too close to birthday to get all names. I put my mob number on and asked them to tell me who their DC was . Worked out fine. Some schools will give a list and some won't.

Our nursery were happy to do this. They have pigeon holes for messages from nursery, we just put the invites in there.

Our school nursery would do this. They give put lists of first names at Christmas if you ask as well. It's only first names, maybe first initial letter if there are two with the same name. We have to sign out child in and out so see their group's names every day anyway.

No harm in asking.

DS's class don't release names, so his invitations had to go out blank. I'd get names out of 007 easier than DS. It's proving tough to work out who his friends are!

DD's school won't give out invitations unless every child in the class is invited. It's not the teachers'/staff's responsibility to explain why some are invited and not others.

My school won't do this either, for the reasons BrokenVag mentioned. And also, because there's enough to do without managing social lives outside school as well.

Oh crap..I thought this was going to be easily sorted...

I'll just have to see what they say!

Ring them on Monday and just ask them what the etiquette is