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AIBU/WWYD about this delivery?

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deliverydilemmas · 29/01/2016 22:12

I've got a delivery coming on Mon, 2 hr time slot. It's a big item, has to be signed for, and (so far as I know) they won't deliver it to neighbours not that I get on with my neighbours, but that's another story

I have to be at work on Mon, all day. I can sometimes work from home, but I absolutely can't on Mon as I have to deliver a presentation for a roomful of people. I also work an hour from home, so it's not like I could pop back for it either.

My DC is at college at that time, and I don't really want to encourage them to skip lessons to stay at home.

No family, and all my local friends work, so couldn't help.

The only other person is my OH (we don't live together). He isn't working, so would be at home. But I'd be asking him to drive 25 miles each way (about 45 minutes in traffic) to sit around at my house for a few hours. - and I know he doesn't like being stuck at my house anyway. Is it asking too much? We're not getting on great at the mo, if we were I prob would have asked, but I feel a bit uncomfortable about it. Although maybe I'm being oversensitive?

I don't really want to cancel as what's being delivered is needed to finish a job at home, and it's taken 3 weeks already.

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SweetieDrops · 29/01/2016 22:17

I'd ask your OH and offer to pay petrol money and leave some nice snacky treats for when he's there.

BinaryFinary · 29/01/2016 22:28

Rearrange the delivery for the following day. One more day won't make much difference surely?

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deliverydilemmas · 29/01/2016 22:34

It can't be rearranged for the next day, it would probably be at least another week (I did contact the company to enquire, they couldn't give me another date because the item is already out for delivery), and that would make a difference.

I could offer petrol money (how much would that be - £10? £15?) if that might sweeten it. He does normally do a sports activity on a Monday afternoon which it might conflict with.

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Saz12 · 29/01/2016 22:39

Ask OH, and leave him some treats in the house for whilst he waits - dunno what - snacks, a book /DVD, dustpan and brush/loo cleaner.... (OK, p'raps not that).

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deliverydilemmas · 29/01/2016 23:00

He doesn't really read or watch DVDs. Could get him some snacks.

I just don't want to ask and him ay yes, because he feels he has to agree but be all mardy about it

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Squiff85 · 29/01/2016 23:02

Ask OH! Surely if you mentioned this predicament he would offer anyway?

HoneyDragon · 29/01/2016 23:03

Do you have anyone local enough to leave a key with and have the driver ring them with an eta so they can whizz over and let them in?

BeaufortBelle · 29/01/2016 23:06

It seems as though you have two choices. Either you ask the OH or you rearrange the delivery. I think it's up to you to decide which is the better of two evils.

Do you know any local teenagers (over 18) who would be prepared to spend a couple of hours at your house for a tenner. Or even local grow ups who could do with a few bob.

ridemesideways · 29/01/2016 23:09

Ask your DP, or failing that, someone local who does house sitting / pet sitting would be trustworthy surely, for a fee?

cheeseandcrackers · 29/01/2016 23:10

Can you not pick it up from the depot yourself? They must have some provision for people not being in when they call.

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deliverydilemmas · 29/01/2016 23:21

Collection isn't possible, I already asked about that.

The only teens I know are my DC's friends, they'll all be at college as well.

Normally I'd ask OH, but like I say, it's not great between us, and I'm not sure if I told him he'd offer.

I don't want him to say yes while thinking 'f'ing hell, another thing I have to sort out for her'. That said, I'd do it for him.

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MardyGrave · 29/01/2016 23:42

Can't your other half stay over on the Sunday evening? Have a nice meal and stay the night, so at least then it isn't a request purely to do a task.

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deliverydilemmas · 30/01/2016 12:16

I could suggest that, but that would mean him bring stuck at my house all day Mon which I'm not sure he'd be happy about, he isn't free til the evening as he has his DC on Sun daytime.

Wish I had someone else to ask, really.

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ZiggyFartdust · 30/01/2016 14:13

You don't live together, you're not getting on, and you won't ask him to do a favour you would ask of any family or friend is such were available?
How exactly does that add up to him being you "other half" exactly?

No, I wouldn't ask him. Because I'd have already called time on the relationship.

pasturesgreen · 30/01/2016 15:09

Personally I don't see the harm in asking your DC. It's absolutely a one off that won't be repeated, and I can't see it setting a precedent.

It's an item for the home, so something that will benefit DC as well, I imagine. I'd have done that to help my parents at that age, it's exceptional circumstances.

Alternatively, try asking your OH, as PPs have suggested.

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deliverydilemmas · 30/01/2016 15:33

I only used OH because I feel I'm too old to be referring to a boyfriend.

We've had a few ups and downs (very) recently, one of the downsides of us living apart is we can only see each other a few times a week (that's not the issue btw) and so it means we haven't really had a chance to properly clear the air, so I don't want to be asking a favour right now, when things are a bit strained.

I'll have a word with DC, and see if they're prepared to do it if he won't. At least then I know if there's an alternative.

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