To be worried about partner being late home?

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We were supposed to go to a mutual friend's birthday party this eve but I've stayed home with our poorly toddler.

It's 1:30 am and I'm suddenly very worried as my partner is still not home. The party was just a dinner for 8-10 people at our friend's house and started at 7ish. It's a 30 min drive away but OH is a fairly new and inexperienced driver. Would you be worried?

There is a helicopter doing the rounds and it's making me nervous and keeping me awake. Would you be worried?

Yabu

Phone him OP, or phone the friends he was with tonight. Put your mind at ease. Don't feel bad, I'd worry too.

He'll be okay. Probably just having a nice time!

Can you text or call him just to put your mind at ease?

I've texted but no reply. Didn't want to ring and be a pain of I'm just being silly - hence the looking for second opinions.

It's just so out of character

Give him a call. They will all understand at the party. It's better than sitting worrying.

If the helicopter is circling it will be police rather than medical

You're not being a pain, it was a small dinner party that began in the early evening and your DP wasn't drinking. If my guests hadn't set off home by now I'd be shoving them out the door! Also, if he hasn't replied to your text he's likely on his way back. Phone the host if he doesn't answer his phone.

Ring him to just put your mind at ease. I am a crazy worrier if dp had gone to pick dd up from school and was 15 mins late because of a missed bus or something i would be imagining she had been kidnapped and dp was trying to find the ransom money - and its horrid to worry so just call. Its not unreasonable at nearly 2am.

Better to feel silly than worried. Quick call and put your mind at ease.

Any news OP? I would ring him too and then your friends if you get no reply. Hope he's ok

Not being silly at all I'd give him a ring and I hope he's home soon.

So I rang in the end and just got voice mail. I've just seen the car pulling up outside so drama over. I think I must be turning into an old worry wart. Mind you it is nearly 3!

I would have been frantic by now if I were you OP. Very glad to hear he's home. I would definitely be having words in the morning about keeping me informed if he planned to stay out to the wee hours. (Not to ask permission of course, just to let me know.)

Glad he is home ok OP

I'd be furious with him. Don't ever be made to feel silly for worrying about things like this. It takes a few seconds to make a phone call or send a text to let you know how late he was going to be. 3am for a dinner party where you're sober is not normal, especially when he knows you couldn't go because your toddler is too unwell to be left. Your DP has behaved very badly here.

Yes I agree with robin. A quick text to say 'we're playing cards, it's looking like a late one' takes seconds. DH is an experienced driver but if he was out till 3 when I'd expected him back at 11 I'd be really worried.

Glad everything was ok OP. Guessing he had a good night. He probably thought you'd have gone off to bed hours ago! Next time one of you needs to stay at home with a poorly child, it's him!

Why is 3.00am not normal if you're sober? Don't get that at all. If you're out, you're out. You may as well relax and enjoy yourself.

We've made a plan for next time. OH just needs things spelling out quite literally sometimes otherwise they are oblivious to everything.

God I'm so out of practice with the idea of either of us having a social life now that it's pathetic!

I'm glad I could come on here for a reality check though. AIBU is ace!

I'm glad he's okay and I hope you gave him a kick up the arse for worrying you so much