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She picked my baby's cradle cap!

28 replies

fishcake84 · 05/01/2016 14:44

Friend round for lunch, she kindly played with 10 month old DS while I did a few quick bits round the house. When she was leaving I picked DS up to bring him to the doorway to wave her off and had a good look at his noggin - an area of his cradle cap (where it was thickest and most exciting!) has been meticulously picked off!

AIBU to have been looking forward to doing that myself?! Surely as his mother that is my prerogative?!

yes I know you are not supposed to do that in case it gets infected but ffs

OP posts:
duckyneedsaclean · 05/01/2016 14:45

Sorry but cradle cap belongs to whoever gets there first. YABU.

StackladysMorphicResonator · 05/01/2016 14:47

YANBU! And she was playing with fire, I'd never dare to do something like that do anyone else's baby, there's a high likelihood of the mother going apeshit!

hairylittlegoblin · 05/01/2016 14:49

ducky is right. If you'd wanted to do it yourself you should have struck by now.

Although tbh I would never have picked it off someone else's baby's head. Just in case it got infected or they were very anti-picking or something. But if I'd thought I could have got away with it I'd have done what your friend did. Sorry.

outputgap · 05/01/2016 14:51

Ooh. I'd forgotten about the joy of cradle cap picking. I shall use the prospect to get me through the labour for currently gestating dc3.

No, of course she can't pick your baby's cradle cap. Have her own baby if she wants that. Disgraceful.

duckyneedsaclean · 05/01/2016 14:51

She probably only meant to covertly do a little bit and got carried away. It's an easy mistake to make.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 05/01/2016 14:52

gosh she is brave. if it is someone elses child surely you only do a miniscule bit that will not be noticed don't touch

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fishcake84 · 05/01/2016 15:01

She has definitely seen me having a little go at it in the past so knows I'm not anti-picking. In fairness, the picked bit is probably about the size of a 10p coin, so plenty left for me Grin but she did get the most luscious looking bit, which I was saving for myself.

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LaContessaDiPlump · 05/01/2016 15:14

My mother carefully combed out all of DS1's cradle cap one afternoon - she was meticulous about it and proudly presented him to me afterwards. Bitch.

She got her comeuppance though - she walked into Boots the next day and announced loudly to the attendant that she needed a cream for cradle crap Grin

highinthesky · 05/01/2016 15:17

Most of us save it for our downtime, like when you've just got the baby off to sleep and are comfortably parked in front of the TV.

It would have quite ruined my evening 😤

coconutpie · 05/01/2016 15:20

Who picks at a baby's cradle cap that is not their baby? What a weirdo.

Dollymixtureyumyum · 05/01/2016 15:32

It a weird pleasure and a bit like peeling skin a few days after you have been out in the sun. I must admit thought everything Ds has a scab I have an urge to pick it, don't worry I do resist. I am weird arnt I Grin

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 05/01/2016 15:34

I expect she just couldn't help herself.

Flumplet · 05/01/2016 15:35

one time my ds had a glorious piece with hair growing through it that i had to thread along the hair it was amazing. good times.

Aeroflotgirl · 05/01/2016 15:40

Oooh I would distance myself from her immediately, the brass neck of her Shock. That shoukd have been for yiu. Dd never had cradle cap, but ds did and used to sleep on my whilst picking his cradle cap 😋

Boogers · 05/01/2016 15:40

Dolly - if you're weird then I'm weird! I love picking scabs and squeezing spots, and I wouldn't be able to resist with a big juicy fleck of cradle cap! DS has a massive scab on his elbow that me and DH have been desperate to pick, but DS hasn't let us. Ditto squeezing the spots on his chin. He had a MASSIVE one on his chin over the weekend, looked like a cream-filled raisin, and I begged him to either let me do it or do it himself! He eventually did it himself in the shower yesterday morning! Spoilsport! Grin

finetonive · 05/01/2016 15:42

Aren't you supposed to let it come off naturally?
If the cradle cap isn't ready to come off, the skin underneath can be red and raw.
You can damage the hair follicles unless you do it properly.

If your ds starts to go bald earlier than most, blame it on your friend.

Skullyton · 05/01/2016 15:43

my 6yo still gets it... i love picking it.. she's not so enamoured. I've had many joyful evenings sat picking it off her head.

finetonive · 05/01/2016 15:43

Should have read - Starts to go bald as an adult Smile

Nicky333 · 05/01/2016 16:01

Ooooh, something to look forward to!

My DH had a little nag nail thing yesterday and as we were watching a video on the ipad, I just reached across and pulled it off. I'm also allowed to pull all the protective plastic bits off anything that comes into our house.

So if my baby has cradle cap, it's all mine Grin

StarlingMurmuration · 05/01/2016 16:04

My DS didn't get cradle cap, much to my disappointment, but he was born with a massive head of thick hair which got all matted with blood during the birth. This then crusted over because the midwives wouldn't let me wash it out on the first day, in case he got a chill. Seriously one of the most exciting things about being his mum in the first couple of days was teasing that scab out of his hair.

InQuiteAChristmasPickle · 05/01/2016 16:09

Ugh, I couldn't pick any baby's cradle cap. Looking at their fontanelle makes me feel sick, which is weird because I'm such a picker/squeezer normally Confused.

MatildaTheCat · 05/01/2016 16:13

Block her. She's no friend of yours.

Come on OP have some boundaries. Grin

Topseyt · 05/01/2016 16:14

I used to spread baby oil through it with my three, leave that for a couple of hours and then just comb it out. I wasn't a picker.

pictish · 05/01/2016 16:19

That's what I did Topsey. Don't get me wrong, I love a good pick, but soaking the head in olive oil then scraping it off with a comb is damn satisfying too.

syne · 05/01/2016 16:19

I would suggest that you forgive her and grow a beard, the pleasure from scratching and pulling hairs is very similar :)

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