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AIBU?

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To be worried about going to this christening?

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Givinguph0pe · 17/10/2015 17:47

I'm 25 weeks pregnant and not immune to chicken pox, I also have a pre-existing medical condition which lowers my immune system.

It's a family christening and I'd like to go, however one of the children there came down with chicken pox ten days ago. He is now recovered but has had close contact with many of the other children who are attending the christening meaning they could well be incubating it.

I know the risk to the baby is at its lowest point now but tbh I'm pretty concerned about catching it myself as I think it could make me very ill which obviously in turn would be bad for the baby.'

Aibu to be concerned? Am I overreacting?

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Seriouslyffs · 17/10/2015 17:53

How difficult would it be not to go? Are you a Godmother? Would your partner go without you?

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Givinguph0pe · 17/10/2015 17:56

My partner could go without me, I'm not a godmother or anything. It's in dh's side. They will probably think I'm overreacting and not be very pleased with me.

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AnyFucker · 17/10/2015 17:58

Who cares ?

I wouldn't go

Chchchchangeabout · 17/10/2015 18:01

I wouldn't go.

LemonBreeland · 17/10/2015 18:02

I wouldn't go. If you are worried about what they think then come down with something on the day or just before and don't tell them the real reason you aren't going.

FadedRed · 17/10/2015 18:08

You should stay away from the risk of communicable disease, and CP is very very infectious, when pg and know you have no immunity. No brainer. Incubation period is up to 21 days so other children could be incubating CP and be infectious without yet showing symptoms.
I would hope that the 'Christening' parents would fully understand and respect your reasons for not attending, and it not cause any ill feelings. [hope for common sense to prevail emoticon]

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Givinguph0pe · 17/10/2015 18:15

The trouble is other people don't seem to realise that chicken pox can be dangerous. I've met loads of people who have a very blasé attitude towards it, even towards an adult catching it.

I really really really wish I'd had it as a child!

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FoxesSitOnBoxes · 17/10/2015 18:19

I'd stay away but I really hate conflict and am a bit pathetic so I'd pretend to be ill rather than explaining the real reason. You are totally right to avoid though!

coconutpie · 17/10/2015 18:21

I would not be attending. Fuck them if they are not pleased. It drives me crazy how some people can be so blasé about CP.

multivac · 17/10/2015 18:22

Don't go. Feign illness if that will make life easier for you and your partner - but I think you are right to play this one safe.

KP86 · 17/10/2015 18:26

Agree with multivac. Tell them that you're unwell and can't attend.

HackerFucker22 · 17/10/2015 18:27

I wouldn't go but then I'd be grateful for any excuse to get out of a christening. Surely you can just be tired tomorrow and DP can go without you? He doesn't have to say anything about CP.

CalmYoBadSelf · 17/10/2015 18:27

I would pretend to be ill too. Nausea and diarrhoea is usually a good excuse

pigsDOfly · 17/10/2015 18:29

Another saying don't go. Why put yourself through the worry and stress just to please other people.

Develop a sudden nasty cold that you would feel really bad about spreading to everyone else.

ThreeFrazzledFandangos · 17/10/2015 18:32

YANBU, just tell them you have the runs. No one ever questions the runs.

MummySparkle · 17/10/2015 18:36

Don't go. I was signed off work for two weeks when pregnant because one of the students had slap cheek. Work were not impressed, especially as it was at a low risk stage in my pregnancy, but midwife thought it was better to be safe than sorry x

saucony · 17/10/2015 18:38

I am immunosuppressed and you're right, people don't realise the risk of chicken pox. Please don't ever think you're overreacting, your health and your baby's health comes first. I agree, make up a short illness to save explaining yourself. Whatever is easier. :)

herethereandeverywhere · 17/10/2015 18:44

Pretend you came down with an upset tummy. You'd be so stressed going and wondering if you were going to catch it - it's just not worth it.

TheWatchersCouncil · 17/10/2015 18:51

I wouldn't go. Can you say you asked your MW and were told you should stay away? Thus shifting the blame onto someone else? (Not necessarily suggesting that you do ask your MW....)

Whippet2 · 17/10/2015 18:51

I agree with herethereandeverywhere, pretend you're ill! Better safe than sorry!

YoniMitchell · 17/10/2015 19:02

Yup! I'd feign illness and stay away.

Bing0wings · 17/10/2015 20:04

yANBU. Def just say you are ill. Catching CP could affect you and your baby forever.

minimalistaspirati0ns · 17/10/2015 20:11

I would tell them that your midwife has concerns about you attending what with you being vulnerable/the chicken pox

minimalistaspirati0ns · 17/10/2015 20:12

You could always talk to your midwife anyway

Lurkedforever1 · 17/10/2015 20:15

Yanbu. My attitude to risk of catching things for myself is generally 'fuck it, it will be fine'. But with no immunity to cp there is no way I'd be going anywhere near a group of kids who are highly likely to be carrying it whilst pregnant. Definitely not an ott or paranoid reaction to stay well clear.

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