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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To put by 7 almost 8 year in bed for 8

19 replies

justme135 · 26/08/2015 22:16

Starting to think about the back to school routine ready for next week.
Before the summer holidays my DD was getting ready for bed around half 7 after the bed time routine probably only settling down to sleep at 8. Towards the end of the school year her friends where still playing out while she was going to bed.
Although they where still out at 10pm on a couple of occasions so I know that my parenting is very different from their mum and dad's parenting so trying no to worry about what her friends parents do.
This is just on school nights and I let her stay up a bit later at weekends but still only 9pm latest unless it's a special occasion.
I'm wondering if AIBU putting her to bed for 8pm?

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coveredinsnot · 26/08/2015 22:19

My son is 7.5 years and goes to bed about 8 or 8.30. You do what's right for your child and don't worry about what anyone else thinks!

CadleCrap · 26/08/2015 22:21

Nope. My DS (7.10) is in bed for 8 and can read for 30 mins. At weekends it can be later.

No way would I let him stay up till 10 on a school night as he is ferrel if he is tid, but gorgeous when not.

NobodyLivesHere · 26/08/2015 22:22

8 year old is in bed for 8 most nights. even my 12 year old is in bed at 9!

Tyrannosaurus · 26/08/2015 22:22

YANBU. Mine (same age) would love to be allowed to stay up later, but it is never going to happen until he can learn to stay in bed beyond 7am.

fermentedvaper · 26/08/2015 22:26

My 12 year old is in bed for 8.30. He would be later but he has to get up at stupid o'clock 6.30am each morning and he needs the sleep. Weekends he gets to stay up later and when he is with his dad he goes to bed at 9ish as he can get up at a more reasonable hour.

flixybelle · 26/08/2015 22:29

My 8 year old is in bed most nights at 7pm, however she now has a class that lasts until 7pm so on those nights shes not in bed until 8pm. She is always very tired the next day.

BastardGoDarkly · 26/08/2015 22:29

During these holidays my DS (8 in two weeks) has been staying up till nearer 9, but this will go back to around 8-8.30 when school starts.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 26/08/2015 22:32

If that is when he flakes, it's bedtime!

6pm was the switch with my ds, until he was about 7/8...

Gatehouse77 · 26/08/2015 22:34

Well, we're known for being quite strict about bedtimes.
At 7/8 years they'd be in bed for 7pm, lights out 7:30pm

In Y6/7 lights out was 8:30pm - if they wanted reading time they'd have to be in bed beforehand.

In Y8/9 9pm
Y10 9:30pm
Y11 10pm, 10:30 at w'ends
Y12 10:30pm on school nights, more flexible outside of that.
Y13 - don't know yet!

That said I know they read with torches sometimes!
Gadgets and phones have to be left downstairs o'night although we might be lifting that rule for the eldest, yet to be discussed with DH.

atticusclaw2 · 26/08/2015 22:39

Both of my DSs go to bed at 7.30 and they are 10 and 8. They then get a story and can read for a bit. Lights out by 8 on a school night or 8.30 if it's a weekend/school holidays.

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justme135 · 26/08/2015 23:03

Thanks for all your responses.
I was will stick to what has worked so far for us so half 7 to be and lights out for 8.
It seem like a lot of parents do some thing similar which is reassuring.
Just need to get DD ready for the change back into the school routine and no more going to Nanny's in her pjs because she isn't ready in time for me to go to work!
Thankfully Nanny doesn't mind getting her washed and dressed.

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ouryve · 26/08/2015 23:05

My 9 year old took himself off to bed just after 7, last night. He normally goes between and 8:30, so 8pm isn't unreasonable at all.

mumofthemonsters808 · 26/08/2015 23:06

Sounds good to me, I'm a stickler for bedtime as both of mine need lots of sleep. Ds is often going to bed when the kids in the street are still playing out but I need him to go to bed for my own sanity. Even Dd 13 is in bed for 8.30, we all have to get up early and although our routine has lapsed during the holidays we will be back on track next week.

DisappointedOne · 26/08/2015 23:11

Christ. My almost 4 year old isn't usually in bed anywhere near 8pm!

fabuLou · 26/08/2015 23:14

I've been sending all my dds (6-13) to bed by 9 in holidays when I've had enough

Lonecatwithkitten · 26/08/2015 23:18

Disappointed it becomes more important when they go to school as they get ridiculously tired.

DisappointedOne · 26/08/2015 23:33

My DD is at school. She started full time a year ago aged 3.10.

Lurkedforever1 · 26/08/2015 23:54

Suppose it depends on how much sleep they need, we're all different. That would have been way too early for dd at that age, it was usually about 9 but she'd read till half past. And usually awake at 6. Although tbh I've never been one for times set in stone, dd went to bed when she was getting tired and read till she felt like stopping.

catrin · 27/08/2015 00:53

Dd is nearly 10. She now goes to bed at half 8 on a school night, though can read till 9. She rarely lasts that long. I have told her though (dreadful mother emoticon) that if she feels she must, when others at school discuss bedtime, she is welcome to contribute last and with a (realistic) answer that she sees appropriate, as apparently they all go to bed at midnight/have no bedtime/roam the streets with wolves etc.

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