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To be a bit hmm? about this? Facebook related

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ginmakesitallok · 18/08/2015 21:27

A mum of dd's friend in school just popped up in my "people you might know" thing.

She has a pic of her dd with my dd as her profile pic and cover photo. Don't know why this is annoying me? Should I friend request her and message her that I like the photos in a typically passive aggressive way? Is it weird?

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UrethraFranklin1 · 18/08/2015 21:28

Probably she likes the pic of her DD. She doesn't care whether your DD is in it.

You don't own it, she can use it if she likes.

MyLovelyFriend2015 · 18/08/2015 21:29

No its not weird

Her dd is in the pic with one if her friends

firefly78 · 18/08/2015 21:29

that would piss me off.

LunchpackOfNotreDame · 18/08/2015 21:30

Unless there are particular safeguarding issues around sharing pictures of your child yabu

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ginmakesitallok · 18/08/2015 21:31

I guess I just wouldn't post pic of a child without letting their parent know. Just think it's bad manners. Must be just me!

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ginmakesitallok · 18/08/2015 21:32

There aren't any safeguarding issues, but she doesn't know that.

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MrsMcColl · 18/08/2015 21:34

I wouldn't do it myself. I know that lots of parents don't share pics of their kids on fb, and it's good manners to check.

Squishyeyeballs · 18/08/2015 21:34

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MrsMcColl · 18/08/2015 21:36

That's what I meant, Squishy - I wouldn't post without asking.

Spilose · 18/08/2015 21:42

I would never do this and would be irritated if someone else did. I wouldn't say anything though.

DeeWe · 18/08/2015 21:44

If you message her saying you like the photo she'll surely take it as that: you like the photo.
I think you'll have to spell it out to her that you intend this to be passive aggressive unless everyone round you take the expression "I like..." to mean something totally different to the expression I know.

Iamatotalandutteridiot · 18/08/2015 21:44

I wouldn't post a picture of any other child without checking with the parent and NEVER use them as profle or cover pictures which are open to all. Just not SM etiquette.

RJnomaaaaaargh · 18/08/2015 21:45

I think it's bad manners too.

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ginmakesitallok · 18/08/2015 21:46

I know Deewe, I won't say anything. Will just continue to be Hmm

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ArendelleQueen · 18/08/2015 21:49

YANBU. I'm quite relaxed about photos and social media but I do find it a bit weird. I'd just crop out the other child.

rookiemere · 18/08/2015 21:49

I wouldn't do that. I don't post pictures of other peoples DCs unless a) they are friends of mine on FB ( the parent that is) and b) I know that they post pictures of their DCs on FB already. I don't post group birthday pics for that reason.

I think it's a bit weird that your DD is in her cover photo. It's obviously the best photo that she has of herself, but not polite to have other peoples DCs in it.

You can't say anything though as you'll sound a bit weird.

Mintyy · 18/08/2015 21:50

No, you are not being a bit hmm at all.

Some people are just fucking DENSE if they think this is ok.

Mintyy · 18/08/2015 21:51

Why wouldn't you say anything Spilose?

chablisfan · 18/08/2015 21:56

No
I don't think it is ok at all if your child is 16 or less
i would not like this.
Am sure it is unintentional ( as in she just didn't think ) but as a cover photo .. .. No way.
I would ask her really nicely would she mind swapping it as you hear so many horror stories ( stuff does happen ) about posts of kids on Facebook .
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