To ban the grandmothers from visiting post op?

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My 3 yr old is having his tonsils out soon. In the letter it says to mix with as few people as possible in the two weeks after the op, for infection reasons I assume. Both grandmothers will be busting a gut to visit. Aibu to tell them they can't?

YABU IMO, Grandma's visiting is completely different to going out to toddler groups or Tescos. They love him and of course was not to see him.

What is the other parents opinion?

I think if you're going to have to be more or less housebound for two weeks then you'd be pleased to see the grandmothers, especially if they can stay whilst you go out. For the first 48 hours or so after he is home, he may be a bit groggy and wanting to be curled up watching DVDs but after that, he will probably be as active as ever and desperate for fresh company, particularly if he can't have a change of scene or see any of his friends.

DS1 had his done when he was 5 and both sets of Grandparents came and spent time with him, played endless games with him and, essentially, saved my sanity. They were fabulous. The only stipulation was that they mustn't visit if they felt poorly, but Grandparents aren't stupid.

The first few days we had no visitors simply because he wasn't up to it. But two weeks is a long time and if your DS is anything like mine, he'll be leaping about like a gazelle 4 days post-op and you'll be glad of anything by way of help.

YABU, they're his grandmothers, not some randoms off the street with possibly a whole host of unknown germs. Just make sure you tell them that if they're sick then for his sake not to visit. Is it really about you not wanting them to visit for other reasons?

Of course they will be busting a gut to see him, he's their grandchild and they love him/will be worried about him.

"As few people as possible" doesn't mean banning everyone other than you from seeing him. You just have to be careful that he isn't seeing too many strangers, or being around kids who might have picked up bugs.

As long as you can trust them not to come if they are unwell. I know most people would be sensible and not pass on infections to vulnerable children, but not everyone is responsible. MIL had some kind of terrible respiratory infection requiring numerous doses of antibiotics and still turned up to see newborn DS (and we only found out afterwards ) FIL just turned up last week with a bad dose of something to see three month old DD....

YABU and very over dramatic.

The guidelines are there to keep children out of nurseries and schools where there are all sorts of germs.

I'm pretty sure he will be safe in his own home with his grandmas

Grandmas will be ok op!

I think you are paniking a wee bit they are his grannys unless they are unwell why would you ban them are there other people living in your house they might be coming and going and be in contact with people. The advice is for crowded places like schools not visiting grandmas.

As long as they are healthy grandmas will be fine, and by day 5 you will be really glad of their visit!

Only on facebook could you write such a low key and emotionally neutral post and be told you are being very over dramatic and panicking
I'm neither of these, pretty chilled about it but read "as few people as possible" to mean "as few people as possible" but obvs don't want to offend the grannies who are both very nice!

Other parent happy to go with whatever I think is best, garmingirl. Which is both helpful and unhelpful in equal measures

You put this on Facebook too?

I think they just mean don't take him to soft play/parties or anywhere that there are likely to be lots of other people.

Grannies should be fine to visit.

Let them visit. If he was in hospital they would allow them to visit, so allow them to visit him at home. In my experience, Grandmas have the cleanest hands in the world! ( although that's just my experience).

yeah - fucking Facebook !

Wait...

Only on mumsnet. The grannies are on facebook!!