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No holiday this year

36 replies

doglover · 04/08/2015 16:26

Sorry, this is a self-indulgent moan. Please don't take too seriously!

We usually go on holiday - nowhere flash, normally UK - but can't afford to do so this year. Our 2 dds have been away doing musical-type things so they have had a break.

I'm not normally an envious person but have been feeling increasingly fed-up with hearing about friends' holidays etc. This makes me feel like an awful person because I don't begrudge them their well-deserved breaks ...... I just wish we could have one!

I'm trying to keep off FB and to stop feeling quite such a bitch about other peoples' good fortune!

Anyone else feel like this?

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DrDre · 04/08/2015 16:28

We're not having a holiday. I'm still having two weeks off but spending it at home. I'm looking forward to it, not being at work is the main thing!
Try and look on the bright side - you won't have to do any packing!

Crosbybeach · 04/08/2015 16:30

Maybe try and have a holiday at home? Did this with partner and chose different things to do near where we lived. So tried things that we hadn't done before, took picnics, visited new places, tried new walks and started to see where we lived in a different light.

OK, hands up, it's not a holiday somewhere warm with sangria on tap (or whatever your thing is) but it gave us the 'change' we needed, without being too expensive, and in most cases, free.

Glindathegoodwitch · 04/08/2015 16:31

I'm not having a holiday, but I am having a baby and a wedding instead! Fair trade I keep telling myself... but god I would love a bit of sun on my pasty skin!!

Got any positives to look forward to that can be your holiday replacement?

Joolsy · 04/08/2015 16:33

I know how you feel. We went to Cornwall & didn't have very good weather - we normally go abroad but wanted to save money this year. I know I shouldn't moan as at least we got a holiday. But I'm envious of friends who've been abroad. But I try to think of the positives - not having to apply horrible sticky suncream, not having to try & keep out of the sun when it's too hot, no packing & unpacking, no hanging around in airports etc!

Optimist1 · 04/08/2015 16:34

If you had gone on a holiday you'd be counting the pennies and that's always a drain on the joy. Also, you might have over-spent and put a big black cloud over however many weeks it would take to get you back on track financially. You have taken a sound financial decision! Your next holiday will be all the more enjoyable.

Katedotness1963 · 04/08/2015 16:37

We're not having a summer holiday either. We haven't had a family holiday in about five years. Trying to put a bit aside for next year, the eldest will be sixteen in a couple of months and I don't see him being interested in going away with the family for much longer.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 04/08/2015 16:38

We haven't had a holiday for a few years now, finances just haven't stretched that far and other things have taken priority.

I'm feeling it a bit at the moment and wondering when we'll get a break.

Preciousbane · 04/08/2015 16:39

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SnapesCapes · 04/08/2015 16:40

I feel a bit like this; we were due to go glamping tomorrow for a few nights and I'm meant to be going to Dublin next week with friends for a few nights. Yesterday our spaniel suddenly got quite ill and has spent almost two entire days at the vets on an iv for fluids/having blood tests and all sorts. So my money I'd saved for glamping and Ireland is now going towards her vets bill (which we'll probably get back at some point through insurance, just not in time to go away).

One of those things though.

SuperFlyHigh · 04/08/2015 16:43

I'm not on holiday yet... i started a new job at start of June and although I have leave I can take I'd feel a bit awkward taking it now... september or october would be the earliest I'd feel comfy.

then as I'm single I either go with someone or by myself.

SuperFlyHigh · 04/08/2015 16:43

Snapes poor spaniel hope she feels better soon. Smile

LilacWine7 · 04/08/2015 16:44

I haven't been on holiday for about 3 years. Last year I was too busy with work and couldn't get annual leave at the same time as DH. We were planning to go this year (somewhere hot and exotic) but had to postpone it due to HG and SPD. DH is still keen on a 'babymoon' somewhere in UK but I can't face travelling anywhere, seems too much stress and hassle!
I have visions of going on a family log-cabin holiday in spring, somewhere with a hot-tub on the veranda and forest walks Smile

WavingNotDrowning · 04/08/2015 16:50

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bambooyoohoo · 04/08/2015 16:57

I'm with you... I had plans to take the DC away just to visit various friends and family this summer (I work in a school so I'm off with them for the summer). But July was an unexpectedly expensive month for various unforeseen reasons and I can't afford the train fares or inevitable trips/meals out it would involve. So we're at home all summer apart from 1 week the DC are going camping with their dad.

Trying to make the most of it with lots of playdates, picnics in the park, trips to local free stuff like the museum, woods etc. I've exchanged nectar points for cinema tickets and we'll probably have one big day out to the local zoo, but that's all really. The rubbish weather isn't helping Sad

GoooRooo · 04/08/2015 17:00

We had one earlier this year but definitely won't be next year or for the foreseeable future.

I am envious of all the lovely holidays friends and family are booking but I'm very lucky that I live by the coast so we'll have to make the most of staycations instead.

perplexedpirate · 04/08/2015 17:05

There's a thing in the paper today about some study that says that people generally come back from holidays more stressed than when they went. So you can now feel all serene and smug.
I can't bear holidays, so I feel vindicated too.
Grin

CarrieBsManolos · 04/08/2015 17:06

I hear you OP Flowers It hurts to listen to others and be happy for them whilst being so upset inside. YANBU at all.

hiddenhome · 04/08/2015 17:09

I haven't had a proper holiday since 1998 Sad

MintJulip · 04/08/2015 17:13

No!

I don't look at what anyone else does with envy, I spent many years growing up without a holiday I remember my poor mum going away ONCE to her sisters in France, it was a huge deal and she had a really hard life and time.

I think holidays are really important but sometimes we just have to forgo them. I didnt think we would be able to go away this year, but I couldn't bear it - and cut right back on some other things from January, and eeked out £400 to go away for a few nights by the sea later on in the year.

Can you afford one night b and b breaks?

MintJulip · 04/08/2015 17:15

bambo thats a billion more things your dc will be doing that I never did in the hols and I had a good time!

I never got taken away and never got 100 wonderful things to do instead.

Hoplikeabunny · 04/08/2015 17:22

I'm not going anywhere either, and I'm miserable about it! I have got two weeks off work though, so hopefully DH and DS and I can go and do some fun UK based things, although we really should be doing decorating. I am VERY jealous of all the FB holiday pictures Sad

MintJulip · 04/08/2015 17:37

Op are you able to put £2 or £3 away each week ? I have started to do this and it does add, up, £8 a month, £96 a year and add to it when you can, its what I started to do this year.

By December I will already have £72 saved towards a break for next years hols, not much by MN 1000's on thompsons standards but we have never ever had a hols like that anyway. But its something and hopefully if we get any xmas money - we can add to that.

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doglover · 04/08/2015 19:01

I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling a bit hard-done-by!

We live in the south of England and the weather has been pretty good recently. I'm a teacher so have 5 weeks 'off' (am doing school work in the evenings which is fine) which is stretching ahead rather ominously! Our 2 dds have done really well to get summer jobs but this involves ferrying them to and fro each day - no public transport - which curtails what I can do. Previous summers have seen the girls and I doing family stuff but I need to change my mind-set now, to realise times are a-changin'.

I have, however, arranged to see several friends for coffee next week and have booked some local walking trails. I need to be more proactive!

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Spartans · 04/08/2015 19:53

We aren't having one this year.

Think of it this way, there is probably someone you know who feels this way every year, when you go away.

Such is life, unfortunately

PumpkinPie2013 · 04/08/2015 20:19

We are lucky enough to be going to the Lake District for a week from next week which will be nice as we do love it up there. However, I don't think the weather will be that good if the current weather is anything to go by but we'll still enjoy.

We haven't been abroad for 6 years as bought a house and have been doing work on it so we haven't had funds to go abroad. I did look for this year but for us two plus toddler DS the prices were so high! We are teachers so have to go in school holidays.

Still makes me a bit Envy when I think of my parents having 4 weeks in Southern France!

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