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AIBU?

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to be annoyed with PILs?

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ShadowStar · 01/08/2015 10:00

PILs live about 3 hours drive from us, which means that we don't see them all that often. DH and DC are very fond of PILs.

PILs have just been on holiday. This morning, MIL rang up at about 9am and said that they were at the airport hotel (about 45mins drive from us), that they'd thought about going to local attraction (about 20 mins from hotel, but not on their way home), and they'd sent DH an e-mail about this at midnight last night, so was he going?

DH was still in bed, but I told MIL that DH was planning on going to attraction today, and woke him up so he could talk to PILs.

Great, I thought. We can take DC out to attraction, they get to see their beloved GPS, it's not too far out of PILs way or they wouldn't have suggested it, everyone's happy.

Wrong. DH came downstairs and said they weren't coming Sad Apparently they were only planning on going to attraction if DH was physically there waiting when they rang. The attraction doesn't even open until 10am. They said that as DH wasn't there they were just going to drive straight home, and, well they did e-mail so he should have known about their plans.

I'm glad I hadn't mentioned this to DC, but I'm really annoyed, and upset for DH, who said he feels a bit rejected now. I can sort of understand why they might not want to detour to see us on their way home, but to actually ring us up, suggest meeting locally today, and then retract that within 15 minutes is just bizarre and annoying. AIBU?

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cleanmyhouse · 01/08/2015 10:01

YANBU. Very odd behaviour.

ecuse · 01/08/2015 10:04

Do they need to be back for a particular time?

Coconutty · 01/08/2015 10:07

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aprilanne · 01/08/2015 10:08

shame for your hubby .But at least you never told children why go at 9 if it does,nt open until 10 weird .

ecuse · 01/08/2015 10:09

Also - can't work out from your post whether DP had actually seen their email from last night?
In a scenario where he had seen that they wanted to meet at 10 and he was still in bed despite planning on attending - I'd be a bit huffy too.

In a scenario where the first he had heard of it was them calling at the time they were planning to meet you then saying if he wasn't there already they didn't want to - that's a bit odder. But it depends if they were saying "oh that's a shame but we wanted to be off at x time so it's probably not worth it" or just having a pointless huff.

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ShadowStar · 01/08/2015 10:12

They're usually busy on Sundays, but there wasn't any mention of things on today that they'd need to get home for.

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ShadowStar · 01/08/2015 10:16

excus - no, DH hadn't seen the e-mail until after he got off the phone with them. He was in bed at midnight when it was sent.

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Only1scoop · 01/08/2015 10:16

Had he seen the email.

Seems strange to say you emailed someone at midnight and where are they basically?

Seems a bit as if they never intended to actually meet.

Birdsgottafly · 01/08/2015 10:32

Plan and have a nice day together.

Could your PILs have started arguing? Is one of them the type that needs plans to be put in place, well before time?

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ShadowStar · 01/08/2015 10:56

All is forgiven - PILs have just turned up on our doorstep! Luckily just before DH left for attraction. I'm making cups of tea for everyone now.

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MyPelvicFloorTrainsItself · 01/08/2015 12:45

They sound totally nuts.

wafflyversatile · 01/08/2015 12:49

Does sound a bit flakey but we all have bad organisational days sometimes.

BarbarianMum · 01/08/2015 12:51

They do sound a bit potty but if they are lovely with it just nod and smile and enjoy the good bits.

Bejeena · 01/08/2015 18:15

You are not unreasonable at all! They sound like my inlaws and good grief they drive me potty sometimes!

rollonthesummer · 01/08/2015 18:24

DH was still in bed, but I told MIL that DH was planning on going to attraction today, and woke him up so he could talk to PILs.

I'm confused. DH hadn't seen the email but was planning on going to that same place anyway?

Only1scoop · 01/08/2015 18:52

I was a bit confused with the 'attraction' bit

Glad they popped by though

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ShadowStar · 01/08/2015 19:34

The "attraction" is a visitor touristy attraction near us that I've not named because that might make this too identifiable if someone I know reads the thread. They've got special events on both days this weekend that DH was keen on going to see. It's very possible that DH mentioned to PILs that he was planning on going to this attraction this weekend because of the special event.

DC loved seeing PILs so we're glad they stopped by.

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