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Am I being unreasonable here - sick child

34 replies

SometimesItRains · 26/07/2015 16:46

We are staying in a group of holiday cottages for in laws birthday party. One child was sick Friday night, yesterday morning and yesterday night. In between its parents and grandparents keep bringing him into the joint area with everyone else. My eldest has now been violently sick for the past hour. I go downstairs in a break from it to get a glass of water and find said child eating cake at the table with his grandmother. I mentioned politely that my son was now I'll and that perhaps her grandson should go back to his own cottage away from the other people. She stropped off with him. I am left feeling like the bad guy. Was I being unreasonable? I just want to avoid the spread to my other child and my two nieces.

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woowoo22 · 26/07/2015 16:48

A bit. Should they have been quarantined?

swisstruffles · 26/07/2015 16:50

"Its"?

Libitina · 26/07/2015 16:53

Should they have been quarantined?

Yes, they should and for 48 hours after their last episode too.

happymummyone · 26/07/2015 16:56

I would feel the same! You keep sick kids isolated surely?! Why is it fair for other kids to get ill?

CoogerAndDark · 26/07/2015 16:57

YANBU. It's a shame his holiday was spoilt, and that of any adults who had to stay with him apart from anyone else but they could have taken it in turns and done plenty of preventative measures to stop it spoiling everyone else's holiday.

RiverTam · 26/07/2015 17:03

Yes, they should have attempted to keep him isolated as much as possible. Some people are just idiots.

LIZS · 26/07/2015 17:03

Yanbu . Presumably you are taking such precautions yourself although I would suspect it is all too late.

Theycallmemellowjello · 26/07/2015 17:06

Agree swisstruffles - I can't really get past the use of the pronoun 'it'.

DoreenLethal · 26/07/2015 17:14

I guess it means a break from it being the sick. Not the child. And of course you aren't being unreasonable to suggest quarantine.

MadamArcatiAgain · 26/07/2015 17:17

I doubt it made any difference.he probably infected your DC before he was even sick himself, and his parents and grandparents are probably carrying it too.

Anon4Now2015 · 26/07/2015 17:18

Just to be different..... Sorry but I do think you are being unreasonable. This is a child on holiday with family (unless I've misunderstood the situation). If you had a group of parents and siblings and one was ill would you confine them to their bedroom for 48 hours until the quarantine period was over? I certainly don't and would let them come and join in with the rest of the family if they felt up to it. If we were with extended family I would do exactly the same.

Marcelinewhyareyousomean · 26/07/2015 17:23

Maybe 'it's' was an attempt at anonymity? It may be the way op speaks and isn't necessarily a harsh way to refer to someone.

Horrible for all the dc to be struck down with a vomiting bug. I can't figure out the logistics. Is it separate cottages or a large one with shared bedrooms?

SisterOfTheVicar · 26/07/2015 17:46

Yanbu at all

It is utterly selfish behaviour and I can't believe some posters on this thread think that it is acceptable! No wonder bugs spread so fast!

Daisygarden · 26/07/2015 17:52

YANBU. Sickness bugs are very contagious.

Anon Personally I don't think it's fair to other guests to spread a sick bug around, yes it would mean the child should be quarantined.

IHeartKingThistle · 26/07/2015 18:06

YANBU. If it was my child I would have taken them home early. It is not on to pass these bugs around. I would be fuming if I were you.

But I say that as someone who caught a sickness bug from a child and ended up with health problems for the next 5 years. I might just be paranoid about these things. But I don't think so Grin

Edenviolet · 26/07/2015 19:16

Yanbu

48hr rule should be stuck to wherever you are it's selfish not to

AuntyMag10 · 26/07/2015 19:20

Yabu what do you expect the parents to do, keep the child shut away. The preciousness around sick children these daysHmm what would you expect to happen when a sibling gets sick?
You can pick up a bug anywhere.
If your child is 'violently' sick, maybe needs to see a doctor.

Nanny0gg · 26/07/2015 19:27

Yabu what do you expect the parents to do, keep the child shut away

Yes.

IHeartKingThistle · 26/07/2015 19:28

Aunty mag if one of my children was sick they would be in their room, using a specific bathroom (I appreciate not everyone has more than one bathroom though). Zero contact with sibling bar talking from doorway. Everyone else religious handwashing.

I certainly wouldn't think 'fuck it, might as well let the rest of the family catch it' FFS Hmm

This is not how I'd be with a cold btw. But I would do everything in my power to stop a sickness bug in its tracks, yes. And I would judge you if you didn't.

Daisygarden · 26/07/2015 19:32

Yabu what do you expect the parents to do, keep the child shut away.

Exactly that. In the scenario the OP describes.

LadyPeterWimsey · 26/07/2015 19:42

Anon4Now and AuntyMag:

Too right my kids get quarantined when they've been sick. Room on their own, sole use of bathroom, only allowed out after 48 hours after last episode, a shower and a change of clothes. Everyone else is instructed to wash their hands very regularly.

We've not passed a sick bug on within the family for years now, as they've got older and can obey my strict quarantine instructions.

OP, you are totally NBU.

AuntyMag10 · 26/07/2015 19:44

So what do people do when a sibling gets sick while on Holiday? Get them their own room then?

MadgeMak · 26/07/2015 20:00

I would imagine if a child was sick in holiday in a shared hotel room then there isn't much you can do. But in a situation like the OP describes then it's perfectly feasible to quarantine sick child.

What scenario are you going to come up with next in order to justify not bothering to quarantine, sick child in a car? Are you going to incredulously ask if the sick child should be abandoned on the hard shoulder? Of course it's not going to be possible to quarantine in ANY given situation,
But it's perfectly sensible to do so if practical to. Common sense for gods sake.

Daisygarden · 26/07/2015 20:07

AuntyMag you do what you can to keep the bug contained!

In the case of a sibling on holiday, then you can't help the contact. In OP's case, you can.

Why would you want other people or children to catch a sick bug? That's not being precious.

DaddyPigIsMyParentingGuru · 26/07/2015 20:19

People that don't make any attempt to prevent sickness bugs spreading are SO annoying.
Do they not give a shit they could pass it on to someone with a health problem that could get much worse from getting a sickness bug?

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