To ask what we should do regarding stomach bugs and SC visits?

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I had a call at work today from DD 's nursery to tell me that she had been "violently" sick and had a runny nappy. I left work early to pick her up and on my way back home I had to pull over to be sick too.

DD has been sick again and I've been sick several more times and we're both feeling pretty shit. DSD (5) is due to come tonight, she comes every weekend and stays until Sunday afternoon. DP doesn't know whether she should come or not.

I'm thinking that if DSD lived here then we couldn't ferry her off elsewhere so yes, she can still come but DP thinks different and is saying that he wants to avoid her having this sickness bug And doesn't see the point in putting her through it if we can contain it and avoid it. WWYD? We've never had this problem before, of course there have been the odd coughs and colds but we've just got on with it.

I think you should ask dsds mum, as she is unlikely to want dsd to risk picking up a stomach bug

If you can, Id cancel the visit. There is absolutely no point in sharing an avoidable sickness bug.
Hope you feel better soon.

Def don't let her come! If she lived there it wouldn't be a choice but if she can avoid it she should. Bugs like that are horrible!! And she could continue to spread it around even if she didn't actually come down with it herself.

I think you're probably right, it doesn't want spreading around the school either I suppose, he's rand DSDs mum and she said she's happy for her to stay with them this weekend.

Stop her coming. It's a no brainer.

I would discuss with dsd's mum, but would think it best to cancel.

We've always let dh ex know when any of us have had a sickness bug that way it's up to her. Tbh I doubt she'll want to risk dsd catching it and bringing it home with her. I would be really annoyed if dsd came to ours just after a sickness bug and infected all of us.

I can see your point in that if dsd lived with you then you couldn't ship her off elsewhere if you've had a sickness bug but she doesn't live with you so it's different.

If it were me as DSD's mum, I would be glad you warned me and would keep her at home with me. However, if DSD's mum has to work or has paid for tickets for something over the weekend, she may decide the risk is worth it. Is there an alternative you could offer mum if she can't have her daughter for the weekend for any reason - grandma? aunt? uncle? There is nothing worse than being let down if you have something planned.

Agree with fedup.

Its good that your DP gave his ex an option. It was his contact time, not hers, so she might have made plans. He and you would have to suck it up or make other arrangements if she could not cancel her plans.

Well I've now been accused of lying about a sickness bug because I don't want DP's DD here this weekend, even though he's seen me being sick and nursery rang to send DD home!

I think I'd be tempted to say 'In that case, I hope YOU get this bug next. Then you can re-evaluate whether I've been lying'. Twat. You did the right thing to contain the bug. Hope you and your DD feel better soon.

I'm so pissed off, I feel like crap DD seems to have made a miraculous recovery, I think that's why he's questioning me. I won't say anything next time if this is the reaction I get! Grrrrrr

Your DD will still be infectious. Rather mean of yourDH to think you are lying. How is your relationship with DSD normally?

I would have asked the mum, explained the situation and asked if she wanted dsd to still come over or to visit next weekend. My mum would have kept hold of me because I had 2 siblings at home So she would not have wanted me to come home with a stomach bug.

Anyway if your partner is that fussed about it, why doesn't he pick up dsd for a few hours tomorrow and take her out for a couple of hours?

I get on really well with DSD. I mentioned the other week to DP that it would be good to get out one Saturday night if we arranged a baby sitter for both of the girls so maybe he thinks that's what I'm after but, a night out, when I feel like this?? Hmmmm rather not

He's been up all night spewing, I'm not a liar anymore . . .

Hope you told him so?

Good!

I don't want to sound malicious (even though I probably am) but I hope he feels like shit.

I hope he feels like shit too! I'm quite upset that he has such a low opinion of me!

It is onvious that the sc should not come because you have the option of someone else to care for them. Why put them through sickness when you don't have too?
Ah, just seen update. So you're good enough to care for his kids but don't actually like them. What a shame he's now sick. Don't be running round after him!