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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To want to go out?

17 replies

QuaverQueen · 28/05/2015 19:08

I can't remember the last time DH and I went out. We no longer need a babysitter.
We were supposed to go on my birthday a couple of months ago but he was unwell and couldn't.
I'm on holiday this week, we've had a difficult day and I'd really like to get a drink and something informal to eat but he says No.
He's not ill, he's not in pain (as he often is, due to a long term condition), he just doesn't want to. It's really getting me down. AIBU to want to kick him up the arse?

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formerbabe · 28/05/2015 19:13

Is it just tonight or does he never want to go out?
Have you got some girlfriends you could call up and go out with instead?

Royalsighness · 28/05/2015 19:15

I'd love to go out also.

Snozberry · 28/05/2015 19:15

Go out with someone else? It wouldn't be any fun with someone who'd rather be at home anyway.

ItsTricky · 28/05/2015 19:21

Can you maybe compromise this time and get a takeaway and a bottle of wine and dvd? Then catch him when he's relaxed and plan a meal out next weekend?

Talismania · 29/05/2015 01:31

I'd go by myself!

NerrSnerr · 29/05/2015 02:41

If he doesn't want to go out I'd find someone who does.

NerrSnerr · 29/05/2015 02:42

(As in a friend, not a new husband)

championnibbler · 29/05/2015 08:37

i'd go on my own.
or find some friends to go with.
and i wouldn't ask him anywhere again in the future.

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QuaverQueen · 29/05/2015 14:27

Update
I decided I'd had enough, we'd both had a terrible day and I just felt trapped, not helped by the fact that I'm unable to drive at the moment.
I put on my heels and my lipstick and asked him if he'd like to give me a lift into town, or if I should call a taxi, because I was going out on my own. He gave me a lift, then asked if he could join me.
We went to a lovely tapas bar, which I knew he'd like and had an enjoyable time. We then had a little walk and he thanked me for dragging him out and said it was just what we needed.
When is he going to realise that I know best?

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purplishclouds · 29/05/2015 14:29

That's great OP.
Glad it worked out in the end .

Fatmomma99 · 29/05/2015 14:34

i love a happy ending! (sniffs)

GnocchiGnocchiWhosThere · 29/05/2015 14:36

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DoJo · 29/05/2015 14:51

Glad it worked out - hopefully he will remember this and the fact that sometimes, when you don't feel like going out, it's just what you need!

SewingAndCakes · 29/05/2015 14:54

I'm glad it worked out. Is he a bit depressed? I get like this a bit sometimes; takes a lot of pushing to get me out of my comfort zone.

ClawOfBumhead · 29/05/2015 15:02

I don't like going out, but would probably enjoy it if DP dragged me out like this.

Glad it worked out for you

Lucy61 · 29/05/2015 15:08

What a lovely result!! Sniff

Fluffcake · 29/05/2015 16:08

Well done op. Glad you both had a lovely time

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