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To be really undecided and nervous about returning to my slimming class?

31 replies

mameulah · 09/02/2015 00:02

So, a month ago I joined a slimming class for the first time. The first 13 days of being a member were amazing. I have never felt so good. Not in years! Then I returned for my second weigh in and I was delighted to find out that altogether I had lost six and a half pounds. I could not have been more pleased.

Then...during the 'feedback chat' part of the meeting it became apparent that the weigh in woman had told me the wrong weight. I had in fact only lost half a pound.

For those of you who have not battled with your weight I don't expect you to understand. I cannot express my disappointment.

So, in true me fashion I fell right off the wagon and have eaten everything and anything for two weeks.

Now, I paid three months in advance. So I really feel as though I have to go back. But I am so, so worried about the huge amount of weight I am bound to have put on in the two weeks I have missed class. Even the thought of it is embarrassing.

Please, please, say something that makes me want to go back. And not make some bullshit excuse and end up in putting on another stone.

OP posts:
WilburIsSomePig · 09/02/2015 00:08

Go back! I joined SW last week and I have my first weigh in on Tuesday so am nervous about that but I need to do this. They are not there to judge or embarrass you they're there to help you.

Sn00p4d · 09/02/2015 00:15

You're first problem is seeing it as only half a pound! You can't lose loads every week, you just can't, if you expect to you're setting yourself up for a fall straight away. Any loss is an achievement, even staying the same is good, better than putting it on!

Weight loss is all about mindset as I'm sure you know, if you don't have the right one, if your heads not in it it won't work. It's going to take time and effort, you'll put on weight some weeks, if that's going to be enough to make you quit then I'd just save your money. And I have battled with my weight all my life too and know how hard it is, I've done every diet under the sun and only succeeded when I persevered. Easier said than done! Good luck!x

MightyMightyToros · 09/02/2015 00:22

So you screwed up. I do that all the time on my diet.

Does it make you a bad person? No.

It makes you human. Welcome to the club - theres seven billion of us Grin

I know the disappointed and my god have I self sabotaged fucking countless times, but I realised nothing it ever going to change unless I make an actual change.

You can do this Smile its true they are there to help not judge.

Dontdothatplease · 09/02/2015 00:30

The second week of SW I stayed the same having lost 6lb in my first week. I left immediately in a huff and had a good cry in the car. Then I went to McDonald's and ate two meals.

I didn't want to go back, but I did, and Im really glad because I've lost two and half stone now.

You can do it- you need to get back into tht class next week with head held up high and tackle this. Go for it!

goodasitgets · 09/02/2015 00:33

Self sabotage like that is like dropping your phone and then stamping on it. Or getting a puncture and slashing the other three tyres. But onwards and upwards Smile go back, you will be absolutely fine

snowglobemouse · 09/02/2015 02:46

go back! if you'd gained a 1/2 lb would you think of it as 'only a tiny half pound'? no you wouldn't, you'd beat yourself up for gaining that huge amount! YOU LOST WEIGHT! Something is by far better than nothing!

lornathewizzard · 09/02/2015 10:33

Yep, you need to tackle it I'm afraid. If you don't you'll continue to self sabotage and end up feeling more crap. So go in, head held up high and start afresh.

TheListingAttic · 09/02/2015 10:49

OP, everyone in that room has struggled or is still struggling with their weight. They've all had bad weeks where it all went to hell, and they all know how it feels to be beating yourself up about putting on/not losing/not losing much. For this reason, they're the best possible support for understanding how you feel and helping you get back on track. They get it. Get thee back in there!

millionsofpeaches · 09/02/2015 11:02

I had a similar thing after Christmas. Had actually lost 52 lbs the weigh in before christmas (stealth boast :-)) but totally lost it over the holiday and haven't really got back into it since then. I have gained 6 lbs :-( And I felt embarrassed and silly to have got myself into that situation, but I went back last week faced the music and am now back on it and focused.

Every half lb counts. Keep going. Good luck

popcornpaws · 09/02/2015 12:47

I dont understand why people go to slimming clubs, if you want to make a change in your eating habits then do it, don't put yourself under pressure to be weighed every single week.
If you know your eating healthily you will lose weight, you don't need to pay someone to weigh you!
You need to be able to do it on your own for yourself, these clubs wouldn't exist if they worked long term.

SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit · 09/02/2015 12:54

I beg to differ, Popcorn. I would not have kept weight off without the support of my slimming group.

popcornpaws · 09/02/2015 13:07

But why would you not have kept the weight off yourself?
Why do you need support, if you've lost weight you obviously know what to eat, so why can't you carry on by yourself?
Genuine question, I'm not looking for a fight!

editthis · 09/02/2015 13:50

Go back, OP. Otherwise you'll be sitting here in a year, or five years' time, thinking, "That was two weeks of overeating that led to xx pounds on. Now I'm xx stone heavier because I didn't pick myself up and try again." I speak from experience; sort it out NOW so that you're not in the same position - or worse - months and years down the line.

They're not there to judge you, and even if they did, pffffffft, they're strangers, who cares? I can bet no one is judging you as harshly as you're judging yourself. Good luck.

editthis · 09/02/2015 14:01

popcorn, it's like needing to hear your husband say no, the baby's definitely not ill, she's just crying; or people on here say you're not being unreasonable; or crying down the phone to your best friend. It's a network, it's support - and if you've been eating and eating to make yourself feel better (which is anathema to anyone who's never done it) you might need some support to drag yourself out of that ditch.

Plus, the OP has paid for three months' membership so she'll be losing money if not weight; she might as well go back. Do they do talks about nutrition and inspirational stories like they do at WW? That could a reason to go back, too.

Davsmum · 09/02/2015 14:17

I can understand popcorn point. I have quite a few friends who have been going to slimming clubs for years who are still overweight. They lose weight and reach target and then 'come off' their diet and gain again and then start the whole thing over again..and again and again!
I think they like the socialising aspect of it.
None of them have changed their eating habits for life. So, I am not sure these clubs really re-educate you properly. I lost weight and kept it off by changing to a healthy diet as a lifestyle change.
I would love to hear of people who have joined a club and once slim, stayed that way...

Purplepoodle · 09/02/2015 14:34

Completely understand how you felt and how you fell off the wagon. Best thing to do it go back, face your weight and tell leader that you got completely discouraged and ask for tips to help you.

This is going to happen, you will have obstacles, best thing you can do is put it behind you and move on. Try and think how good you will feel two weigh ins time when you see a little more weight coming off.

I try to set small goals like only aiming for 1/2 a week, any more is a bonus. Perhaps something visual will help you like a jar of pebbles or marbles. Everytime you loose 1/2lb pop a marble in the jar.

editthis · 09/02/2015 14:46

Davsmum Actually I agree - I don't think the clubs work in the way that a total shift in attitude and lifestyle definitely does. This is why I say you might need that support to drag yourself out of that ditch - once you are feeling less horrible about yourself you are on the road to long-term success, which is better achieved without a crutch. But that first step can be hard to take alone when you're not thinking straight (and can always start 'tomorrow' rather than today). So I do think they can be helpful to some people in that regard.

I like the idea of pebbles in a jar.

Davsmum · 09/02/2015 14:46

I really don't think having targets or weigh ins too often, helps. You feel a failure if you don't lose what you expect. Just stop eating junk food and buy a healthy eating book. Increase your activity and just decide that is how you will live. The weight will come off. Just aim for long term not a quick fix.
You really do have to change for life otherwise you will yo-yo forever.
It takes time to adapt to a change but once it becomes routine you do find you don't want to go back to unhealthy eating.

Davsmum · 09/02/2015 14:49

editthis yes, I take your point. Just don't get caught up in the treadmill of it.

BeautyQueenFromMars · 09/02/2015 14:50

Go back. Every single person in that slimming class will have done exactly the same as you at some point.

BeautyQueenFromMars · 09/02/2015 14:53

Davsmum You're right that it's rare for people who lose weight via a club to keep it off forever. It is very hard to change bad eating habits for good lifelong eating habits alone though. And although slimming clubs don't help change habits, they do help you to lose weight. Sometimes you need to just lose a chunk of weight first, and then concentrate on making lifestyle/ permanent diet changes.

I see I'm pretty much saying what editthis has said, just much less eloquently!!

Davsmum · 09/02/2015 16:17

Yeah, I can see that. Better than nothing,..or a place to start.

editthis · 09/02/2015 17:31

BeautyQueen Not at all, I think you explained it very well!

Original poster
mameulah · 09/02/2015 19:03

Thank you so much to everyone. I love the pebbles in a jar idea, and the poster who said that if I don't go back then in a year I will really regret it . I already regret it . I am sick of wearing ugly clothes and making excuses to not do stuff because I feel so gross . Being fat fills up my whole head . Anyone else?

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chocolatemademefat · 09/02/2015 19:12

Slimming clubs are businesses set up to make money. The person weighing you won't really care about your weight gain. It's her job. If it's helping you go along and be prepared to take the good with the bad.

In my case it was always a lot more bad than good! Good luck.