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To keep think maybe I'll have another baby

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notnow2 · 04/01/2015 17:05

Because I won't Hmm I have 3, they are 7,5,2. DH absolutely against another. To be honest I don't think we could manage, but oh I long to do it all again and a little part of me lets me believe that I will. I am 35 and could i suppose have another in 5 years but I know DH still won't so why wontbi let go?

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notnow2 · 04/01/2015 17:38

Id rather get pregnant than win the lottery.

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Gem124 · 04/01/2015 20:34

Things change, maybe baby number 4 will be meant to be :-) x

Clobbered · 04/01/2015 20:36

If you had another though, do you think you would secretly hanker after no 5? I think there is always a feeling that one more would be nice, and you do have to draw a line eventually. Why doesn't DH want another?

Loletta · 04/01/2015 20:49

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Bulbasaur · 04/01/2015 20:58

4 kids! Shock

That's a lot of responsibility and financing. I'd think of the logistics of it, and how you'd be able to afford a 4th. Will you have the emotional resources for 4? If you have a 4th in a couple years, you'll be potty training and dealing with an emotional preteen at the same time.

Are you sure you don't just want baby cuddles?

There are hospital programs that need volunteer baby cuddlers to come in and cuddle preemie babies so they still get the development and contact they need while the parents are working and nurses are busy. Maybe you could do that instead and at the same time get your baby fix?

Loletta · 04/01/2015 21:35

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GokTwo · 04/01/2015 21:41

Well it's entirely up to you and your partner. I wouldn't want that at all but you clearly love having babies and enjoy having a young family. Yanbu at all to want another. Is it that unfeasible to think that your partner won't change his mind in a few years?

CheeseBuster · 04/01/2015 21:45

It's a big difference. You'd need an ugly people carrier car thing.

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notnow2 · 05/01/2015 18:25

DH doesn't want to go back to the baby stage and isn't his favourite part. Understandably he his happy with our 3. I don't think he will change his mindHmm. Maybe if I agree to move to the countryside! Shock

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GokTwo · 05/01/2015 18:56

Just playing devils advocate on your behalf op but obviously all stages of childhood are transient so he may be more keen when your youngest is a bit older.

LiquidCosh · 05/01/2015 19:56

Well I had 3 and was very happy to stay at that as 3 is enough for anybody but I got pregnant with number 4 which was a complete surprise as I was on the pill and I can honestly say It was the best thing that could have happened. I don't think you'll ever regret having too many but you might regret not having another. It's hard work but if you can afford it then I would say go for it Smile

WillWorkForMoney · 05/01/2015 20:09

I'm the same, 3dc: 11 next month, 6.5 and nearly 5. I really really want another, but dp is adamant there will be no more. It doesn't help that my brother has a 3 week old baby so i get my nose rubbed in it (though i am enjoying as many baby cuddles as they will allow me Wink )

I keep hoping for a pill failure, but unfortunately doubt it will happen with no sex happening Hmm

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notnow2 · 05/01/2015 21:16

Yes hoping for a contraceptive failure - but failure of coil is less than 1%! Hmm

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loudarts · 05/01/2015 21:22

I think some women just always feel that way. I have 6dc and although it is hard work and dh insists we are done and I agree we would struggle to cope with another there is a part of me that would love to do it again

BingBong36 · 05/01/2015 21:35

I feel like you except I have 2 DC.

Dh is a definite no to having another but I just feel like I will and I cannot stop thinking about it - I am 36 so it needs to be soon

Pregnantagain7 · 05/01/2015 21:40

I've just had my fourth and it's bloody hard work I've found the jump from 3-4 huge. However even though it's hard work there is a part of me that things just one more I won't though because I know it would be selfish to do so. For me I have reached my limit. Dc4 is only 12 weeks old and I only have 13 months between dc3 and dc4 I'm hoping it will get easier but from experience I know it will just become different.

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