To buy or not to buy....

[oldguygirl]

Last Christmas my DH was out of work (as he was the year before- bloody recession) . Two weeks before Xmas my (D)SIL sent a text to everyone say that as they had bought their first house this year and they wanted to spend all their money on this so they wouldnt be buying ANYONE a present.
We had broken our necks to get presents for everyone despite having no money due to lack of job. She is so brass necked that even when we said that he hadnt got a job but had still bought them presents (they have alot of kids) she was just so oblivious to everyone other than herself she didnt care.
I'll be damned if I am buying them a present this year ...
AIBU??

Maybe just buy the kiddies presents? I don't know if it's fair to stop them having a gift because their mother is selfish.

Tbh I think I'd feel the same as you and say fuck the lot of them, but I wouldn't want to make a fuss over this, it may cause unpleasantness well into 2015.

What does you husband say about it all?

he was fuming last year. He doent say anything to her as its not his style. But as she didnt buy my DS a birthday present or card and has absolutely slagged us off to his Dad then I dont want to . I did however buy the kids birthday presents but if I bought them Xmas presents it would be the cheapest thing I could find - so I think I just wont bother and just send a card.
I dont care if their is unpleasantness

My friend did this a few years ago. She told everyone what she wanted for Christmas, waited a few weeks and then announced that she wasn't "doing" presents that year as she was saving for a car.

YANBU, it's so rude on your SIL's part. Her new house will still be there in the New Year, she can't just cancel Christmas. She sounds really selfish.

YANBU at all, your SIL sounds a real piece of work. Just give her any random reason you like for not gift giving this Xmas. You said you don't mind any unpleasantness so she'll have to suck it up. It was mean of her to not bother with your DS on his birthday too.