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Original poster

AIBU in not wanting my guest to use my personal shower?

206 replies

TillHammerZeit · 27/08/2014 11:14

I suspect that I may be,but we'll see.

I'm going to have a guest staying overnight,on her way to another destination.

She informed me that as she doesn't like showers in baths,that she'd like to use my en suite shower. I'm not really happy about this. Perhaps unreasonably so,but it's my space,and I'd prefer her to use the main bathroom to shower. It has a 'real' shower fitted in there. Yes,she has to step over the bath to use it,but that's easy,and she has no mobility problems,or issues that mean it'd be difficult for her. I would of course allow it if that was an issue.

So WIBU to say no?

OP posts:
thegreylady · 27/08/2014 11:17

Is it worth the hassle of saying no for one night? Just tell her not to wee in your shower and you are sorted :)

Greyhound · 27/08/2014 11:17

I think you are being a bit precious about it - sorry.

squoosh · 27/08/2014 11:17

You both sound as odd as each other.

BerylStreep · 27/08/2014 11:18

I agree with Squoosh.

How strange that you have even had this conversation.

Original poster
TillHammerZeit · 27/08/2014 11:18

I think my main issue is that she'll be in my bedroom,and that's somewhere i dont like others to be,unless invited.Plus she's known for snooping around.

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EarthWindFire · 27/08/2014 11:20

All seems a bit odd to me, on both sides.

Cardriver · 27/08/2014 11:21

I think she's a cheeky mare for even asking to begin with. If the bathroom didn't have a shower in it then I could understand her asking but what kind of princess 'doesn't like a shower that's in a bath' Hmm

jackydanny · 27/08/2014 11:22

You could say you are not comfortable for guests to use the en suite.
Fair enough.
But why entertain her if she is known for 'snooping'

KissMyFatArse · 27/08/2014 11:22

Tillhammer I kinda agree with you. If there's a perfectly good working shower elsewhere I wouldn't want someone to be in my bedroom etc especially of they have form for snooping!

Yanbu

Pastperfect · 27/08/2014 11:22

Odd as each other.

Sorry

BlueBrightBlue · 27/08/2014 11:23

www.bondara.co.uk/rampant-natural-suction-dildo
Leave this in the shower:

SilverStars · 27/08/2014 11:23

How about of course but you will be in your bedroom during that time so why not use your bathroom - she then gets shower if needed and you get control of your bedroom!! Or stand by bedroom door at all times!

Hakluyt · 27/08/2014 11:25

"You could say you are not comfortable for guests to use the en suite".

Well, you could.......

If you wanted to look as bonkers as the person who asked to use it......Grin

NoArmaniNoPunani · 27/08/2014 11:30

Do what brightblue suggests :)

Castlemilk · 27/08/2014 11:31

'Sorry - my shower is leaking at the moment, so I'm trying not to use it at all! The one over the bath is good though, hope that's ok.'

And get a tiny lock for your bedroom door. 'Oh yes. I wanted to keep the kids/dog/ghosts/guinea pig out of there...'

Original poster
TillHammerZeit · 27/08/2014 11:31

She mentioned that she was going to destination X,and needed to find a hotel,as she didn't want to do all the travelling in one day with a baby. I felt it'd be rude not to offer to put her and her dd up for one night,as my home is ideally situated for a stopover.

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RhiWrites · 27/08/2014 11:32

It sounds as though you're doing her a favour letting her stay. I think you can say "sorry, my bedroom and ensuite aren't fit for guests to see". She's being precious to dictate what kind of bathroom she prefers to use, you aren't a hotel. And if you were most hotels have showers over the bath anyway!

Crinkle77 · 27/08/2014 11:32

Or say it's not working

ooerrmissus · 27/08/2014 11:33

Eh? She doesn't like showers over baths so she wants to use yours? Tell her to feck off. If she doesn't like what is offered to guests she can either not shower at all or go to a premier inn.

If she decided she didn't like the bed linen in the spare room would you let her sleep in your bed? Course you wouldn't. It's no different.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 27/08/2014 11:33

I'm failing to see why a shower over a bath is objectionable.

Tis well odd. Confused

IntheYear2525 · 27/08/2014 11:34

I would just keep cheerfully repeating that the bath-shower works perfectly and she will be fine with it. If she keeps insisting, just cheerfully repeat that there's no need as the bath-shower works perfectly and she WILL be fine with it, or would she be more comfortable staying in a hotel instead? I bet she doesn't dislikes baths enough to actually pay for a hotel, which usually have a shower in the bath anyway. I definitely wouldn't want someone with known snooping tendencies hanging around in my bedroom and bathroom.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 27/08/2014 11:35

Just say no if that's how you feel.

Numanoid · 27/08/2014 11:37

Couldn't your en suite shower be conveniently "broken" on that day?

PenisesAreNotPink · 27/08/2014 11:37

Stay in the bedroom tidying while she's showering - she can get dressed in the shower room

Notso · 27/08/2014 11:39

I agree with squoosh