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to have given her a doo doo?!

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Bogeyface · 08/07/2014 21:00

Aka Soother/Dummy

DD4 is just 3 and is being a pita about giving up her doo. She was a very poor sleeper as a baby, constantly feeding, then throwing up as she was full. Gave her a doo doo and she was fine.

Been trying to get rid for a while, and tonight she agreed that big girls dont have doo doo's, that we can give it to the doo doo fairy etc. Anyway after about 20 minutes she started shouting for it

Me - But big girls dont have doo doo's do they?

Her, reluctantly - No

Me - DD2 and DD3 dont have doo doo's do they? :)

Her - ...........they dont sleep in my bed too!

Cue determined look and "My doo doo please mummy" :)

Fecking smart arse!! What can you say to that?! :o

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Bogeyface · 08/07/2014 21:00

Had kind of given up on the doo doo removal anyway because we are away in a month so didnt want to keep the whole apartment block awake if she regressed, but thought we might have cracked it tonight! WRONG!

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Trills · 08/07/2014 21:03

YABU to use a euphemism for "poo" to refer to a dummy.

RabbitSaysWoof · 08/07/2014 21:04

I think if it were gone she would not be asking.
As you say she is smart.
In the good moment in the day when she agrees they are for babies that's when you get rid so she knows its not there any more.

ILiveOnABuildsite · 08/07/2014 21:09

Doo doo is the common name for a child's comforter in French. So that's fine.

As for the doo doo itself I wouldn't worry about it, she will eventually give it up. I had one as a child which I took everywhere, eventually it was for bedtime only and eventually I didn't need it anymore. I still have it though, somewhere but I don't sleep with it anymore. I still slept with it until I was about 12 though, for comfort but I wouldn't have been unable to sleep without it, iykwim.

I wouldn't worry.

gobbin · 08/07/2014 21:14

don't sweat it, she won't still be using it when she's 25. There WILL come a point lol

Iggly · 08/07/2014 21:16

You need to make a clean break - bin the dummy and give her something else instead eg a little comforter or something?

Sounds like you're dragging it out so not surprised she asked. In a month she would have been fine!

It sounds like she was a refluxy baby so needed it - fair does!

chesterberry · 08/07/2014 21:31

Unless you have concerns about her using it (eg: if it's effecting her teeth) I wouldn't worry if she's just using it at night. I had a dummy until I was five or six as, like your DD, every time my parents tried to get rid I would just kick up a fuss and beg for it back.

I gave it up in my own time, without any 'dummy fairy' etc stories - it did come to a point where I realised none of my friends at school had them and that I wasn't a baby and didn't need it (my siblings and wider family (grandparents, cousins etc) all teased me about it too, it was gentle teasing but it embarrassed me and helped persuade me to give it up) and I decided to get rid of them myself.

I chose to throw the dummies away myself and my parents bought me a well-done toy, I do remember regretting my decision soon after throwing them away but it was too late and, although I was upset, because it was my own decision (and I'd seen them go in the bin and knew they were gone) I did get over it.

As said up-thread, she won't be using it when she's 25 so I wouldn't worry about it too much if she's comforted by her dummy at night.

DenyDenyDeny · 08/07/2014 21:34

Meh let her have it, wind it down to just night time then after a while use -bribery 'rewards'.

Im slowly stopping breast feeding my 3 year old this way. He'd feed til he was 6, given the chance.

firefly78 · 08/07/2014 22:00

my three year old gave it up suprisingly easily considering how much he loved it. Wait until shes absolutely exhausted and so id easier for her to fall asleep without it.

Mrsjayy · 08/07/2014 22:25

Dd was near 4 when she finally gave hers up she just had it for bed I started getting to leave on her pillow they do eventually give it up depends how strict you want to be really I dont see the problem for bed, dd2 had a sookie (label) she still played with labels after she started high school

DoJo · 08/07/2014 22:44

I agree that comfort items, unless they are actively inhibiting or restricting a child's development, might as well be left alone. I know so many people who have tried everything, relented, felt awful about it, tried again, ended in tears all round and then their children have given the blooming things up out of the blue when they were ready. It does no harm to plant the seed and encourage them to, but unless she's setting herself up for real problems, then the chances are all this heartache could be for nothing and she will take it upon herself to get rid of it when she's ready.

Mrsjayy · 08/07/2014 22:52

In fact I'm sure she was over 4 was a long time ago,

ILiveOnABuildsite · 09/07/2014 08:51

Just rereading through and I think I might have got the wrong idea here, is her doo doo a dummy or a comforter blanket type thing. Because doo doo in French definitely means a comforter blanket or little duvet not a dummy and that's what I thought op meant.

I didn't sleep with a dummy until I was twelve, my doo doo was a little teddy holding a blanket.

I have no experience with dummy so my advice up thread doesn't really apply, sorry.y

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