To think it's ok that I'm on my phone?

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DP has just stormed off in a massive huff cos I won't come off my phone in bed, he says the light is keeping him awake. I'm not doing anything noisy, I'm laying perfectly still, I have the phone on the lowest brightness setting.
This is the man that fell asleep for 2 1/2 hours this afternoon in the bright sunlight, after I'd been out of his way with DS at the park for 4 hours. I'm 41 weeks pregnant and could have done with a nap my self!

AIBU to think if he can sleep soundly with the sun in his eyes or half the night on the sofa with the telly blaring, surely he can put up with a little back light from my phone?

Honey, at 41 weeks, you should do whatever the hell you want!

Btw, congratulations on your soon to be here baby!

I was doing that alot towards end of pregnancy. If you cant sleep, you cant sleep! Now am doing it through night feeds with 12 day old but H in spare room so he cant complain..

YANBU

Oooh. Ex used to do this to me. It used to drive me batshit. I am very light sensitive. I despise summers as I am up with the birds no matter what time I go to bed. OTOH in winter, ain't no waking me up until Mr. Sun has his hat on, even if I'd had 12 hours.

On behalf of your DP, please for the love of all things good and holy leave the room until you are ready to try to sleep.

Agreed you can do whatever the chuff you like

I went overdue 12 days. Sucks.

for you!

Thank you :) it does suck! I expect I've got another week left in me if it's anything like my last pregnancy.

Dooin, see I get that and I'm the same. I can't stand going to sleep unless it's pitch black and have one of them sleep mask things for my eyes in summer. DP can sleep with the telly on loud or with the sun shining in right in his face though. If he was light sensitive then of course I'd leave the room.

I couldn't fall asleep with any kind of noise or light if I was utterly shattered, been awake for 24 hours+ I might snooze through light and noise but would always be semi awake and aware.

I get what you are saying but ex and his phone were worse than sunlight. Sunlight couldn't be helped. He could, and even though he said he turned his volume off, I could still heat him tap, tap, tapping away. The fact that he could choose to stop the light and the tapping made it a million times worse than sun or traffic.

It used to make me fantasise about slitting his throat in his sleep (I maybe slightly over protective about my sleep [blush[ )

Please turn your phone off.

I have to go to sleep with tv on, I think your dp should count himself lucky

I came off and made him come back upstairs in the end. Been trying since then to get back to sleep but all I was doing was tossing and turning so being even more disruptive than sat quietly on my phone

Sat downstairs with a cup of hot chocolate watching trashy telly now. He owes me a nap later today!

On another note, why do most pregnant women go through this?! It doesn't seem fair that we're going to be having countless sleepless nights with a newborn soon, I should be making the most of sleep right now!

You will never sleep soundly again!

Oh I will, but I might have to wait a good 13 or so years for it!

Actually I had to ban exDP from bringing his phone into the bedroom for this reason, really pissed me off! But then you do have a good excuse, he was just always on his bloody phone!

I hate this ... It drives me nuts when I'm trying to sleep and DP has his phone on .. The light keeps me awake ... I don't see why anyone would go to bed if they're not ready too .... I do totally get where he's coming from

I have Dolphin browser and it has a night time setting, MN is a black background with pink writing.

Oh and he is BU.

I was going to say YABU but you are 41 weeks pg, that trumps everything!

But I don't do it often and I did go to bed when I was ready. I let him have a nap that evening and kept DS out the way so he wouldn't get disturbed. I was laying very still and being very quiet, not even typing anything in case it woke him.
I still think I wasn't BU.

Sucks to be him now though, I've taken myself off to bed and left him with a grumpy DS and housework to do :)

Partner has just said that the blue led light emitted from mobiles is the worse kind of light to fall asleep to because it tricks your brain into thinking it's morning. I mentioned the sleeping in the sunshine for 2 and a half hours ,lol ,and he said it made no difference.

I agree with elvis!

Dh does this and overall it doesn't bother me, but every now and then for some reason the wee screen needles me in my unrest.

at 41 weeks nothing (that isnt breaking the law)is unreasonable.... I thought that was a rule!

Ha! Im with the others! 41 weeks and you can do as you please.

Hope you dont stay pregnant for too much longer, I was overdue with both of mine.

Even if you werent really really pregnant then I would say YANBU.

I'm with secretwitch! At 41 wks do what you like!

You can download a screen filter app that helps against the blue light keeping him (and you!) awake. I highly recommend it. The blue lightl beaming into your eyes won't help you sleep.

And it's not just for now. Once your baby is here you can check your phone (for time or to log a feed on a baby tracking app) without feeling like you've just burned your eyeballs. I really recommend it. You can get ones that switch to low screen (dimmer than you can set it on the phone now, and battery saving to boot) at at times.

My Ex used to have the bedside radio on while in bed. He was one of those who goes to bed late and gets up late (except work days) whereas I was the opposite and get up early. With the radio on, I couldn't sleep. I nagged persuaded him to get one of those headphone things (like you get on an aeroplane) so he could plug it in and have it silent. Bliss.

100 x Further bliss after I'd got rid of him.