to think dh has just defined 'entitled'

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I'm ill with stinking cold. Been up with 2yr old ds since 6.50 am. I've done few chores, popped to shop. Dh woke couple times whilst I was getting dressed etc. Told him time.

He's finally appeared at 10.30 and complained because I didn't bring him coffee to help him wake up.

This was met with swift ffs! He's now complained I'm being 'agressive' and had I woken him up he could have helped me tidy up as apparently house is a mess. (never been known to help before!)

Hand over ds and take yourself off to bed/ couch/ off out/ whatever you fancy.
What a twat !

Go up to bed. Take yourself a flask of hot water and some teabags and milk, leave him to tidy/cook/toddler wrangle. Don't make a big scene - just say you're obviously too ill to be awake and cope with the day in the manner he expects.

Leave him to it. Back to bed for you. DH can clean up the take DS out for a while. Hope you get better soon.

Arsebiscuits to him. Present him with list of things you were going to do chore wise and go back to bed with a

.... And don't forget to take the iPad with you so you can keep us informed every time he comes in with a question like ' what does our son eat?' Or 'where is the supermarket?'........

Not sure why you're surprised if he's 'never been known to help before'.

Did you expect that he would magically change one day? That's not going to happen I'm afraid. Ill or not.

Yes, he's entitled.

I'm going against the grain here - I suspect the thinking was, "no point in you moaning at me now, once I've got up, if you wanted me up earlier, then you should have asked".
Before you all fly off the handle, that would apply to whichever partner was having a lie in. When you are both tired (as sort of goes with the territory with a 2 yr old) then there is simply no point in both people being out of bed if there's an opportunity for one to be catching up with sleep. If you felt that it was your turn, or that you were more entitled to the lie in due to your cold, then before you both went to sleep last night, you should have made that clear that it was his turn to get up and your turn to lie in.

Make yourself a brew and go back to bed.

If you stay up you are a martyr.

Why didn't you tell him to get up and take over earlier if you don't feel well? Surely that would have been better than stewing? I mean, don't get me wrong, he sounds like an arse (do you always make him coffee to help him wake up properly?), but I think it's more of a problem that he doesn't help out normally than just that he is carrying on doing what he always does today.

Thanks for replies. Enjoyed ohwhat and beck especially

I really wasn't stewing. I am beyond expecting lie ins or help and yes I know this needs addressing. I didn't want a big serious thread about the wider issues or I'd have posted in relationships. I'm not a matryr.. There is a lot going on here... I was just having a mild rant as he actually told me off for not waking him with coffee! I thought he'd already done well with nice lie in.

Anyway felt better for quick vent and am now enjoying a lie down which will be followed by chippy tea, hoorah!