To just want to start walking and never look back

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A year ago I made the decision to move 240 miles away from friends and family to start a new life in a beautiful part of the world. Initially all was great I moved to be part if a business that was just taking off. Things fell apart when the individual I was working with showed her true colours. I pasted over several opportunities to progress my career during this period as I thought I was working towards my bigger dream. Following on from this relations have fallen apart further I've lost my job and many of my local friends. I can't afford to move back to my hometown and I can't afford to stay here. I deal trapped with no where left to go and nobody to turn to. Friends and family back home are doing their best but can't realistically help. Just want to start walking and never turn back!

There is a way for you to be in a better situation, you just haven't found it yet

Start planning and looking at how it might be possible to move back home, if that's what you want.

It doesn't matter that things didn't work out (and what you've been through sounds awful) but keep it boxed up in your head to think about /work through at a later date. Just focus on what you want to do now and how you're going to go about it.

Even if you can't afford to go right back, could you find work nearer to where your family/friends are?

Do you have any children?

What country are you in? Are you renting?

I'm in uk moved from midlands to the south west. Single and no kids

What kind of things have you thought of doing but discounted?

If you're renting, are there any areas which are less expensive around where your family/friends are?

Are you able to contact the people who offered you the opportunities to progress your career? Maybe they have something for you still?

You don't have to answer, but how did you lose your job? What are you living on now?

Lost my job as I was working for a local woman through an agency she's had her social care funding cut due to budget cuts so has had to stop using agency as no longer has the funds. Agency could offer me other work but have no transport at present and public transport here is almost non existent. Can't move as no way of funding actual move deposit in new place ect

Are you claiming any benefits if you're out of work?

Maybe you're entitled to a budgeting loan?

What about back up savings or things you can sell to generate cash?

Any other agency work about?

Sell all your things and move back to hometown into a furnished room in a house share - minimal deposit needed and just take a suitcase of clothes with you, ditch everything else.

Once you're there, get a job you like, see your friends, build up to living somewhere more private if you prefer it.

Not claiming benefits as technically still employed I as was zero hrs contract . Can't sell up and move back unfortunately as have animals in tow. Before anyone says rehone ect that is not an option I would consider. I can't have kids so my animals are my life.

why does having animals stop you selling up and going home?

The cost element of getting them back home is the problem.

Why did losing your job mean you also lost your local friends?

cost element of getting them back home is the problem
would any charities be able to help?
what animals do you have?
how did they come with you?

Would a bicycle help you to get to the agency work location? You might be able to pick one up cheap through the local rag/gumtree.
If you have a zero hours contract you won't get JSA but should get help with housing benefit and council tax. Ring the council.

Too far to bike unfortunately as it's 11 miles each way. I'm in a very hilly area and I'm not very fit. Lost my friends due to former friend discovering I had financial problems (she was my landlady too) she told lots if people who have been incredibly judgemental and now treat me like I'm infectious. I lost my home but managed to find a flat but 3x the price I was paying. (Was in house share) but is cheapest in town . Will ring council on Tuesday.

Where in the south west are you? Can you speak with adult services in your area and get them to bear you in mind when they are assisting people with direct payments? I know we are always stumped in certain areas for self employed carers for people with DPs (it sounds like this is what you were doing before, apologies if I've got that bit wrong)... then you can save up with a view to moving back?

In on dartmoor

Wheels to Work can help you with a moped or scooter to access work.

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