To feel frustrated & annoyed

[Hegsy]

that despite 2 'early nights' in a row one of which included lots of snuggling and watching a film we have still not have sex as DH has fallen asleep. Last night was at 9.30

I'm so fed up of this, fed up of being rejected and discussing it, agreeing to try more and then nothing changing.

So today I feel absolutely pissed off and I dont know what to do cant really get angry at him for falling asleep but Im only 28 we have no children my life isnt meant to be like this

Have sex earlier?

Do it at weekends when you have all day?

Being tired after work and going to sleep at 9.30 or 10 is ok.

Sounds like you're miffed at your relationship in general

is he depressed?
Could you have counselling?
Do you love him?

Do it on the sofa after tea? First thing in the morning?
I have to say...as soon as my head hits the pillow I'm out!

Sex is restricted to the bedroom due to cat and kitten who have no sense of boundaries

I leave before him so AM is out - he's not even up when I leave

He is undergoing CBT at the moment to do with work stress, he says he is happy with us and how we are and there is no issue with us.

FABULOUS one of nights was Sunday and the whole point of us going upstairs had been to have sex and watch a film. We watched the film......

I'm a bit fed up of life at the moment, works bad for me and there are issues with my brother and his dad but in times like this I crave closeness.

I do love him, can't imagine my life without him, he just seems to lack ooomph a lot of the time and I think its bringing me down.

Maybe he's having physical difficulties (either due to the stress or something else) and doesn't want to confront the issue? Perhaps he feels as though pressure to have sex is adding to the stress of his job? How long has it been since you did have sex? And how long has he been suffering from stress?

Also (and this might sound very shallow, but...) what kind of film were you watching? Something which could be conducive to a sexy atmosphere or something which could (however unwittingly) have the opposite effect?

It seems a bit regimented TBH ie- we went to bed to watch a film and have sex. Perhaps he feels under pressure as there's no spontaneity?
YANBU to feel frustrated, annoyed perhaps a little BU. DH is very much the same and I have sort of eventually slipped into a pattern that suits both of us (and I am by no means a raging nympomaniac :o)

That has to be the worst excuse ever for restricting sex to the bedroom

Get shagging earlier and do it all over the house!