I have been friends with someone for years and she recently spoke to my ex when she went to retrieve a DVD for me. While she was there, he told her something that she then passed onto me and when I mentioned asking him some questions about the thing she told me, she practically begged me not to mention anything to him about what she had told me because he would know that I found out from her.
Her and my ex were never friends, and only knew each other through me. When I was still with him and our relationship was going downhill, she was constantly telling me I should leave him and that he's horrible. Don't want to go into detail but things became unbearable between us.
So AIBU to think that she really shouldn't care that he knows she's being a loyal friend? And that she should either be loyal to me and not care that he knows or decide her loyalty lies with him and not tell me anything he says?
My ex honestly would probably expect that she would tell me that stuff anyway and he wouldn't care either. He definitely wouldn't confront her about it so there would be no consequences for her if he found out she told me something.
This friend is never the kind of person to stick up for me in front of anyone. If I am at odds with someone and she is there, she would just stand there and not say anything rather than give someone a reason to like her less. It just annoys me that she says all this horrible stuff to me about him and acts as if he's the worst person and yet still seems to want him to like her even though they are not friends and don't ever speak to each other.