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AIBU?

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AIBU to expect chocolates I like for Valentines Day?

23 replies

mostlyconfused · 14/02/2014 09:36

My husband and I don't really buy gifts for valentines day, we just get cards. I'm fine with this as I feel we have enough to buy without throwing in something else.

This year I also got a box of chocolates. However, they are the chocolates my husband loves, not me. I actually said at Xmas time I didn't like them and thought they were a complete waste of money at £20 a box!
I won't mind too much, as it's the thought that counts, but he done something similar at my birthday 2 weeks ago. He bought me a birthday cake he loves when again I had said in the past I didn't like it. I didn't make a big deal out if it on my birthday but now that's it's happened again I feel very angry.

I feel like he doesn't listen to me and doesn't really know the things I like. We have been tighter for 10 years. Surely it's not too much to expect him to know what chocolates I like?!

AIBU? Should I just say thank you and smile?

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LadyAlysVorpatril · 14/02/2014 09:38

Yanbu. Get him something he doesn't like but you do and see what he does.

DameFanny · 14/02/2014 09:41

Yanbu. That's pretty rubbish of him - better nothing than something that wrong

Sandiacre · 14/02/2014 09:44

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Sammie101 · 14/02/2014 09:46

I must know what these chocolates are, disliking ANY type of chocolate is a new concept for me

Unless they're horrible Turkish delight chocolates

He probably plans to scoff the whole box himself, I would be quite pissed off at him!

pricklyPea · 14/02/2014 09:48

Yanbu. I was prepared to say you were ungrateful but if you've said numerous times that you don't like them then it's a bit odd.

ThursdayLast · 14/02/2014 09:49

I would FOR SURE but things I liked that he didn't for him for the foreseeable celebrations
It's not a deal breaker, but he is being a bit of a pillock when you're clearly into him!

ThursdayLast · 14/02/2014 09:49

*onto

MsAspreyDiamonds · 14/02/2014 09:50

My dh does this, buys stuff that he likes as a gift for me. However, he was most irritated to learn that somebody left some heart shaped chocolates on my desk at work. I went into great detail about how they were really tasty & one of my favourite brands!

HesterShaw · 14/02/2014 09:53

Yes you should just say thank you and smile and grow up a bit

Chocotrekkie · 14/02/2014 09:57

Take them to the food bank/give to a friend/put them in the bin/whatever right now.

Then don't mention it.

Tonight/tomorrow when he says " where are the chocs" you can say " well I don't like them so I gave them to xx"

MorrisZapp · 14/02/2014 10:00

OP doesn't need to grow up, how rude. I'd be hacked off with this. I'd expect a child to buy gifts that are geared to their own likes, but not an adult.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/02/2014 10:00

So buy HIM the chocolates that YOU like and swap?

Did you buy him chocolates? What did you buy him? If you celebrate Valentine Day then you both get a gift don't you?

livelablove · 14/02/2014 10:01

I have to tell my bad valentines gift from a few years back. Dh bought me The fat pigs diet book by Micheal Winner.
It is not as bad as it sounds I had been looking at it in a shop and said it looked funny, but still not the ideal valentines gift.

ScrambledSmegs · 14/02/2014 10:09

My DH does this. I think it's the result of desperation. You know, it's 20 minutes to valentines day, all of his office are talking about Valentines/showing off amazing romantic gifts they bought, and DH just goes and buys the first thing he sees that looks vaguely romantic, which happens to be the very champagne truffles that he knows I can't stand but he loves.

Apart from this year. This year I took the piss out of him at Christmas for buying them again, in a nice way, and we laughed about it together. Today I have a lovely card and a box of beautiful macarons which the girls have decimated already. Seems to have sunk in.

ipswichwitch · 14/02/2014 10:12

My gran always bought DM a box of Ferrero Rocher for Christmas every year. DM can't stand them. Gran was told this many times. I can only assume she either hated DM, or most likely just heard the words Ferrero Rocher from that conversation and filled in the blanks. It was a bit of a win situation for me as DM would pass the chocs my way :)

BeckyS321 · 14/02/2014 10:14

*Take them to the food bank/give to a friend/put them in the bin/whatever right now.

Then don't mention it.

Tonight/tomorrow when he says " where are the chocs" you can say " well I don't like them so I gave them to xx"*

^This

Binkyridesagain · 14/02/2014 10:15

My MIL always bought my DH a Toblerone for xmas, he's allergic to nuts, which she knows. She only stopped when I told her they go in the bin because no one eats them.

picnicbasketcase · 14/02/2014 11:05

£20 for horrible chocolates? What kind are they?

specialsubject · 14/02/2014 11:15

how very entitled. It is a gift. Say 'thank you'.

cory · 14/02/2014 11:16

If you get him the chocolates you like and then eat them together, it works out all right

gamerchick · 14/02/2014 11:19

just regift them.. someone will want them.

I would do what was said upthread.. if he knows he's not going to get a sniff of them then he might pack it in.

livelablove · 14/02/2014 11:34

Tbh as its valentines day I wouldn't want to make bad feeling. I would tell him again nicely they are not your favourite and let him share. Next time it gets close to a day when you might get chocs remind him then not to get them.
Alternatively chuck them over here and i will take them off your hands.

bluebeanie · 14/02/2014 12:49

Does he eat the chocolates then? Hide em!

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