I moved to a new place when my dd started nursery and she's now reception. Lots of the other parents knew each other from the pre school my dd did not attend.
So that my dd got to know the other children and to be friendly I had a whole class party for my dd in nursery and reception and then invited some of those children to my ds third birthday with their younger siblings.
I always try to be friendly and have invited 3 or 4 children for play dates (along with their parents).2 of those play dates have been reciprocated.
I'm finding out from different sources ( completely accidentally, I'm not fishing) that there have been 6 or so parties that my dd has not been invited to. I'm not expecting her to be invited to every one but I'm upset and sad for her that a couple of them have been children that dd plays with lots at school and in the playground before and after school. It feels worst when dd best friend has been invited to every single one, even the children who she is not obviously friendly with.
I'm sat in the cafe near school listening to these mums talking about the forthcoming party, one with their back to me so obviously freezing me out. I'm friendly with one of the mums and asked her if I'd done something to offend anyone and she said no, it's not personal but it feels like it. I stand with this group and they barely acknowledge me and it hurts.
My dd is a good girl, she's never been in trouble for being horrid to other kids and is friendly to people.
I guess I feel so sad for her as it feels as though she's been excluded socially and that's how it was for me at school.
Any tips would be much appreciated. Please be kind.