Crowned Adolf Hitler

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At the inlaws over christmas we played the rizla game, writing a character for everyone to guess on their crown out of a cracker.
FIL chose Adolf Hitler as my character to guess. BIL and SIL were suitably horrified, and i laughed it off when i guessed correctly, but afterwards felt really upset.

DH said that it was a typical schoolboy joke of his generation - i feel pissed off, since i know FIL thinks i'm too strict with Dc and assertive on the whole.

What do you think?

I think you are making way too much of it.

Were I choosing Adolf, Margaret T, or any universally known iffy character it absolutely would be pointed and funny. Or maybe not so funny.

Bit like picking the child catcher, cruella de vil or wicked witch of west surely?

This kind of game is ripe for pointed jokes. He doesn't like you - but then again, you don't like him much either, right?

Fuck 'im - he tried to embarrass you and succeeded. Just be cool with him, don't worry overmuch - he's just an arse. Sympathies - I'd be pissed off too.

I'd have laughed. I don't see why its a big deal or why it means anything. I play with siblings we would try think of the worse possible people ever.

Have I missed the point of the game? . It's a guessing game, and the name is randomly allocated to you...
I've never known people given the name that "fits" with their character / personality, unless your family introduced a new twist?

KingRollo and salmo I don't think there's anything wrong with Susan Boyle herself, in fact I wish I could sing like that, but I felt it was picked in a rather mean way, particularly given his parents' sniggering and a couple of the comments made while guessing, suggesting I was frumpy or something. Maybe I am being oversensitive but, judging by the reaction of others there, I suspect not.
I felt there was something not particularly nice behind it, just as the OP felt about Hitler being given to her.

Don't think its offensive - unless there's a bit of a back story ( sounds like there is)
Might have been offensive if someone did this to my OH though as he's German!!

Der Fuhrer was a Genius ............What a Painter , one flat two coats one afternoon .....

Next time you play, write the names on post it notes then turn over and shuffle and stick on randomly.

Wouldn't be offended by this in the slightest.

I think you are creating an issue where one simply doesn't exist op for the Rizla game to work it must be a well known character about whom plenty of facts are known so you're pretty limited to well known celebrities or historical figures. The game doesn't imply the person is like the name on their forehead (last time I was Katie Price and as I am male, hairy and bespectacled, I am unlikely to be mistaken for a surgically enhanced 'glamour' model.

Even if he was having a sly dig at what he perceives as your paranoid and dictatorial tendencies, your reaction made the cap fit very snugly on your own head.

Unless he is a very patriotic and xenophobic Brit and you are a German, I really can't see why it would even occur to you that it's a problem.

Why were BIL and SIL horrified?

I hate the types who they are so cool and hip because they can snigger about child sex offenders and rapists (I also hate any other term, that fluffy ups child rape).

Other than that, it depends on the group that you are with.

It's shit, though, when you are targeted at a time, such as Family events, in a way that you cannot challenge and others are aware if it, it ruins it for everyone.

Any joke that was intended was a bit mean and unfunny, but hardly worth getting upset about.

In my experience, this game is usually played with random historical/fictional characters that aren't meant to "fit" the players.

A good proportion of names you could pick are "baddies" rather than "goodies" so you'd narrow the field greatly if you were too eager to avoid causing offence!

Just to be clear - I wasn't offended by someone choosing Hitler in a game - I was upset because it was chosen especially for me. If Fil and I had a good relationship it would be part of an understood banter, but we don't get on well, he never says what he feels, but comes out with underhand jokes like these. I think he thinks I'm like Hitler because I am not at my Dh's beck and call like Mil is with him.
Bil and Sil were shocked because it was directed to me. Next year I will suggest random post-its like as kindly suggested.

Oh good grief, it's a GAME! You're reading way too much into it.

We played this game recently. I got chosen to be a minion. Should I have taken offence that he thought I was a dumpy, yellow short arse?!

It's a game. Last time we played this, I was the panda in Kung Fu Panda

And what did horrified BIL & SIL do SFA?

No wonder he's a bully.

This year, can you think of the name of a lazy, ignorant bully for him?

YANBU, it's hurtful if it's a character they specifically chose for you. Which is why when we play those sort of games, we draw them out of a hat.

I think says says more about how you perceive yourself than how others perceive you.

I've chosen Hitler for someone before and they were the kindest and gentlest person ever. If somebody chose Hitler for me I wouldn't think anything of it.

If you think you have been likened to Hitler for traits you see in yourself then you might have identified something in you that you don't like and it's up to you to change it.

Next time you play this game choose Walter Mitty for him.

I played this game with some friends a few years ago and I got Hitler too. I laughed it off. Simple