Being made to feel guilty

[Anydrinkwilldo]

Staying with DParents tonight, they have heat on and stove on. Told them it's too hot for ds, his eczema will play up. Lo and behold he started scratching shortly after. DFather opened windows and went out to turn off heat. While he was out DM told me I should have said nothing. So I'm sitting here feeling like shit now. Also I'm 8 months pregnant so it's way too hot for me too. So WIBU? Do I deserve to feel like crap now?

Just ignore them - if they're happy for your son to be uncomfortable and sore then they can't care that much about him. Why should you care about her opinion?
Stop feeling crap, right now!

On what basis should you have said nothing according to your DM? Yanbu...

Why should you have said nothing? She should have said nothing, but it seems she doesn't mind looking selfish enough to make a child potentially really bloody uncomfortable.

Hope your DS is feeling better.

YANBU to ask for heat to be turned down, esp for reasons given (Separately, I assume you asked in a reasonable way, of course)

Wondering if temperature is a bit of an issue with your parents and your DM fears (and I hope that I mean that not literally) repercussions, or that it will seem like you are conspiring...

Why would your mum stir things up tell you that?

Is he going to sulk or take it out on her?

Even if he was there's no reason to make you feel like crap.

I was absolutely boiling when I was 8 months pregnant in December, they're your parents, why wouldn't you say you were uncomfortably hot??

Why are you there? Why not leave it's ridiculously hot? V silly to feel guilty, just go home. Cannot understand why you'd feel actual guilt commenting on a temperature?!

Feel guilty about what? Are they suffering for having the heat off now?

as form now on I really don't give a shit about other people, i refuse to feel guilty.

you are hot, your son is not comfortable and i will say dont fell guilty about ensuring your son is not having a flare up.

If they're hosts, they should want to make you comfortable. YANBU

Thanks all, was asleep!! It was the face she made and the way she said it. I'm unable to drive r the mo so unable to leve when I want. Felt sorry for my dad as he was just trying to make place cosy but went too far. They don't ubderstnd how much hear affects eczema unfortunately. Hopefully last night helped as the saw it appear our if nothing!