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To think this photo was inappropriate for Facebook?

76 replies

ThereWasOnceAGirl · 22/11/2013 21:32

(Yes sorry Facebook)

My friend was walking to work this morning and witnessed a car accident, the man in the accident had been texting and crash, he was trapped in the car and she held his hand through the car window until emergency services arrived.

Once they arrived obviously they got everyone to move far back.

My friend then took a photo of the emergency team at work which she then posted on facebook with the story behind it.

Aibu to think this was bad taste? Obviously what she did initially was amazing and I'd love to think I would have done the same, but I think taking a photo of it and posting it on FB is just .... odd.

I'd hate to think someone I loved was in an accident and having their photo taken by a stranger and put on FB.

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Joanne279 · 22/11/2013 21:33

I think its a bit inappropriate tbh x

MyPrettyToes · 22/11/2013 21:37

YANBU. This man was in vulnerable position, it seems a violation of sorts. I would actually tell her it is very tasteless and/or report to FB.

YellowCanary1 · 22/11/2013 21:37

Completely agree, very inappropriate

humphryscorner · 22/11/2013 22:12

Very inappropriate ! What is she expecting , around of applause for her effort !

MadameDefarge · 22/11/2013 22:15

gross invasion of privacy. really disconnected attitude to take a photo and then post it.

BuzzardBird · 22/11/2013 22:17

Reporting to fb is a futile effort ime

HaroldTheGoat · 22/11/2013 22:22

Yeah thats really bad, she might have been in total shock afterwards and not thought it through at all. I would mention it.

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 22/11/2013 22:28

I think it's a good reminder that texting and driving is dangerous.

caketinrosie · 22/11/2013 22:30

It's shocking but sadly not unusual. I work for the emergency services and we had to waste time recently racing after a motorist who had taken a picture of the corpse in a recent car crash! I kid you not. It was the saddest day. Strangely he couldn't understand why we were so angry with him. Tell your friend to take it off fb and delete it. Sad

YouAreMyRain · 22/11/2013 22:32

Tasteless but people process trauma in different ways. I guess it was stressful for your friend but maybe its her way of dealing with it and sharing her stressful experience in a way that words cant express.

Canthaveitall · 22/11/2013 22:36

YANBU but then I am old fashioned. People are odd though and I think FB and the like have altered boundaries. I was Shock recently when I saw people videoing a funeral I was at on their phones. One was the daughter of the deceased who videoed the coffin going into the church and posted it on FB. How odd. And why.

azzbiscuit · 22/11/2013 22:39

It isn't just face book, media outlets like the BBC actively encourage people to go out of their way to take pictures of tragic events and send them in so they can be broadcast in the news.

intitgrand · 22/11/2013 22:50

a fb friend of mine posted a photo of her son on a stretcher being rushed by ambulance to a&e!!

AKAK81 · 22/11/2013 23:02

caketin surely there's no law against photographing the recently deceased in public. I hope he told you to fuck the fuck off.

BookFairy · 22/11/2013 23:03

Such a violation. Why would someone think that is an acceptable thing to do? Confused

FrameyMcFrame · 22/11/2013 23:08

Agree, it's inappropriate.

When ex DP died some idiots posted photos of his coffin at the funeral on Facebook.
I felt it was so wrong. Surely some things are sacred?

caketinrosie · 22/11/2013 23:10

Akak81 actually there is a law. And no he didn't.

ReluctantBeing · 22/11/2013 23:11

It is wrong, but it it might just shock people enough to use their phones when driving.

BackOnlyBriefly · 22/11/2013 23:12

erm isn't that essentially what newspapers do?

I think it is tasteless personally and that journalists shouldn't do it either, but it's actually perfectly normal behaviour in the UK and most places.

caketinrosie, I have no idea on what basis you were chasing the person. perhaps you could explain what part of the emergency services. What law were you acting under?

Goldmandra · 22/11/2013 23:12

I can understand people wanting a visual record of funerals just because it's a day they might take comfort in remembering later on or they might be sending it to someone who was unable to attend.

It's vile to photograph the distress of others and to put it on FB is appalling IMO.

Sallyingforth · 22/11/2013 23:13

The picture was inappropriate and disrespectful to post in a public place.

As far as FB is concerned, nothing seems to be inappropriate.

Canthaveitall · 22/11/2013 23:17

AKAK81 - If someone you loved has just been killed in a road accident would you want someone taking a photo on their phone of their body? I think most people in that situation would not want that. It's just common decency.

Floggingmolly · 22/11/2013 23:21

Shockingly poor taste. She's an attention seeking idiot.

MrsOakenshield · 22/11/2013 23:23

hold on, you said she took a picture 'of the emergency team at work'. Not the victim?

Floggingmolly · 22/11/2013 23:25

It's still shameless attention seeking, MrsOak

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