Dispute. DH, the dogs, diahorrea and AIBU?

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Our 2 dogs live mainly in the kitchen/diner area of the house, and are outside in the gardens a lot of the time. They are not allowed in the rest of the house.

Last night they were frightened and scratching at the internal hall doorway because of the fireworks. I let them into the living room with us. Tonight was the same. They are terribly noise sensitive and were hyperventillating.i went upstairs and heard DH shouting at them telling them to go to their beds. We then had an argument.

DH says it is my fault they are scratching the door because I let them through to the living room. I said no, they were scratching because they were scared and I let them into the living room because of that. Anyway he sent them back to the kitchen and one of them has had diahorrea all over the floor and wet everywhere. They are able to get outside, they just didn't because they were terrified of the loud bangs.

Next week they won't be bothered about coming through. I know this because they are 8yo and it is the same story every year.i am very cross with DH and I told him so. I made him come and clean up their "protest" poo. We are now not speaking. AIBU?

If it's the same story every year, YABU not to make some effort to desensitise them to fireworks so you don't have to let them in to the living room and they don't have to shit themselves with fear.

I think you are BU to have 2 dogs that can't go in the house :( and live mainly in the garden/kitchen to be blunt

They are scared of loud noises so he shouts at them - that is not kind

Well we all spend most of the time in the kitchen areas. Think living kitchen/dining room, plus two other rooms. They are not allowed in the smart living room, with polished wooden floors and cream sofas, or upstairs. They have the run of the garden and can come in or out as they please, we don't shut them out.

They are and always have been ultra sensitive to noise. Even the oven being on. There is a name for it- I forget, but we have trained as much as we can and have used the hormone plugs with little success.

Smelly pooey dogs in a kitchen. Gross.

Are they Alsatians?

Could you ask your vet for a mild sedative next year - doggy Valium, or similar? We are considering this for ddog2 who freaks out at the noise of fireworks.

Oh - and your dh is being unreasonable and should clean up the poo.

Think its nice they can be in kitchen rather than just being stuck outside.
Theyve pooed in the kitchen because they were scared. Not their fault. Ywnbu op.

Poor dogs. What about a chat with the vet about getting something to help them stay calm.

YNBU. That's a very sad post.

Your dogs were so scared they shit on the floor?
Poor things, you and your husband are both unreasonable.

YAbothBU - why the fuck do you have dogs if you don't allow them to actually be with you?

I am with gordyslovesheep are they not house dogs ?
Seems odd that they have such limited amount of house space .
To shout at them when they are scared is, nt going to help much .
Good for you for making him clean it up , I hope he didn,t make them feel bad for doing it :(

YANBU, and your DH is being mean.

Poor dogs:( why have them if they can't be with you in the living room?

I'm with Gordys as well, and I hope things go better on the 5th.

Poor dogs!

Those poor dog's. I feel so sad that there not allowed to sit with you of an evening. This has really made me sad. You are both U.

They are with me nearly all the time. They follow me around all day. They are just not allowed in the, to put it bluntly, the proper sitting room. It is a big house and the areas they are allowed in are very large, believe me. I didn't really want to say but we have a rambling, old house with gardens which are fully enclosed. Its in a small village, countryside really. I'm sure lots of people don't let their dogs into the smart room.

They are also only small dogs. But not lap dogs by any means. Terriers.

Ohhh do you ahve room for a pony? So they aren't even big dogs - i love my dogs, i love them sitting on my lap in the evening, in fact that is where one of my boys is just now, curled up on my lap - hes a terrier too, and at bed time, he will be in my bed, the other one chooses the floor, he doesn't like when we fidget. i don't think its the size of the areas they are allowed in, its being with you - but hey, maybe im just over sentimental, i love my dogs very much as much as my children

Poor little buggers :(

My little dog was ill and had diaorreah in the living room while I was out. He looked so sad and guilty when I got home but it wasn't his fault so even though it was horrendous to clean I would never shout or tell him off.

I agree that dogs are family and should be with you , not shut in the kitchen

No we don't have ponies. See I knew it would go this way if I said much about the house.

So I have more than one sitting room. As a family we spend nearly all our time in the family/living/kitchen/diner. I'm here now. With my dogs. They are not on my knee, they don't come in the bedrooms either. It doesn't mean I don't love them, or that they are treated badly. But as they are terriers through and through they spend a lot of time digging in the garden, so no, they do not get to sit on the furniture or to scratch the floors in the music room. I hardly ever sit in there either. I prefer the kitchen too. DH is a bit anal about them being animals though and I think he needs to loosen up a bit.

It's not about how much space they have access to, its about them not being allowed to sit with you of an evening. Dogs like companionship.

Glad they are with you now. Hope the fireworks stop soon for them soon.

Look I'm coming across all hyacinth Bucket now! See what you've done.

The dogs are sat with me.

Good - just make DH sit in the kitchen instead

Wonders if I can come to tea