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AIBU to think that this is bloody unreasonable???

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FrenchFleurs · 21/10/2013 02:54

Has anyone seen Kate's flat stomach and washboard abs just three months after having Prince George??? Envy

HOW?

www.express.co.uk/news/royal/437652/I-ve-got-the-wrong-shoes-Duchess-Kate-flashes-flat-tum-as-she-slam-dunks-at-Olympic-Park

I'm sorry but this is very unreasonable and I am extremely flummoxed as to how she has managed this. Confused

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Bogeyface · 21/10/2013 02:59

Same way my BF did (and I didnt). She was skinny to start with, only got a baby bump and is just one of those lucky cows who dont get saggy or stretchmarked.

Its a pisser, but I doubt she has starved herself. I am more concerned about the shoes tbh!

CoolaSchmoola · 21/10/2013 03:01

Pre and post natal yoga apparently.

Bogeyface · 21/10/2013 03:01

My BF btw was 4 days overdue when her dentists receptionist insisted on seeing her maternity exemption certificate to prove she was PG. She had a 7lb er. Go figure!

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FrenchFleurs · 21/10/2013 03:01

Is it OK to be upset over this?

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FrenchFleurs · 21/10/2013 03:02

Pfft. Yoga. Not buying it!!

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Rosesarebeautiful · 21/10/2013 03:04

I definitely am.
Basically, it's jealousy on my part. I've never had and never will have a stomach as flat as that before or after children. And it's been years since my last baby, not weeks

Bogeyface · 21/10/2013 03:05

I dont think it is ok to be upset by it, no. But it is ok to be v v jealous and wish you had her body type/genes/self control/ etc as I am about my BF. My cousin went from a size 8 to a 6 when she had her youngest and is a veggie who does yoga, as is BF so either there is something in it, or they dont mainline Pinot. One or the other!

TaraKnowles · 21/10/2013 03:09

Sorry I just think if you are a bit thin before and don't put on shit loads of weight eating carrot cake in the big bed oops. Then you will probably be just as thin afterwards.

StuckOnARollercoaster · 21/10/2013 03:24

As someone so much in the public eye, who is going to be scrutinised and will be thought of as a role model I wish she had kept and shown a bit of her baby belly.
But before my pregnancy I also wouldn't have thought it possible without lots of private trainer type help but I've ended up looking thinner within days - combination of stress, breastfeeding and not putting on a lot of weight during the pregnancy. I don't exercise and haven't been holding back on the biscuits now. I feel really lucky but unfortunately wider family don't like the slimmer me and I am getting alot of nasty comments, so I suspect Kate is going to need a thick skin.
But YANBU to be upset at it and the pressure it puts on mums that don't lose the weight so quickly...

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FrenchFleurs · 21/10/2013 03:29

I don't know why the breastfeeding thing gets touted so much? I didn't find it helpful to lose weight at all! It may burn 500 calories, but it made me so hungry that I ended up consuming around 1000 extra calories just to produce the breastmilk. Breastmilk is 50% fat and you can't do it if you're dieting. As soon as I stopped breastfeeding, I was able to diet and I had time to exercise (before that I could never get away as the baby constantly wanted to be fed). I don't advocate breastfeeding to lose weight at all!

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TaraKnowles · 21/10/2013 03:30

But stuck why would you wish her to have kept more weight on? In the public eye she would be like weightyKatie or something. You lost your weight through the normal stress, why can't she?

rootypig · 21/10/2013 03:45

YABU to describe another woman's body as unreasonable. No reason to think she's done anything particularly special (though I can understand it if she has, the scrutiny she is under) - I went straight back to my pre pregnancy shape after DD (well, within two weeks). I'm not tall and willowy like Kate, but I am slim and had an active pregnancy. My stomach went right back, no sags, no stretchmarks. It does happen for a lot of women.

YANBU to be pissed off at the press for fetishing the pre and post pregnancy shape and women's bodies in general.

rootypig · 21/10/2013 03:47

And I thought she was quite brave actually, Rollercoaster, appearing outside the hosp after she had him still looking 6 months pregnant. She could easily have concealed that and chose not to. It is totally U to expect her to keep or show a baby belly that she doesn't have Confused

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FrenchFleurs · 21/10/2013 03:48

rootypig I don't recall describing her body as unreasonable Hmm
I know that some women do go back to pre-pregnancy shape rather quickly, but they are the exception and not the norm as you seem to think they are.

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rootypig · 21/10/2013 04:20

"I'm sorry but this is very unreasonable" Hmm

I didn't say it was the norm, I don't think it is. But it does happen for a lot of women. Which is what I said.

rootypig · 21/10/2013 04:21

^^ I am not sure what "this" can refer to, other than the state of her body?

grounddown · 21/10/2013 04:44

I was the same when I had my first, but then i had my second child and 9 months later I'm still tucking my tummy into my pants Grin

PoopMonster · 21/10/2013 05:03

After the OP I was looking for "washboard abs" in the photos but couldn't see any...(DD is nearly 4mo and I'm having issues with my abs not working!)

With both DDs I've BFed and contracted back to a normal "flatness" fairly quickly, just with a bit of a squishy blanket covering the lot. I reckon if I made the effort to exercise with the help of a nanny/physio/private chef it wouldn't be impossible to look like that.

She just looks like a normal thin new mother, not like she's been obsessively body-building or anything...YABU

bigwellylittlewelly · 21/10/2013 05:07

I did yoga throughout my first pregnancy, proper stuff! Made piss all difference to me ppst baby, every extra pound hung on in there until I quit breastfeeding. Admittedly once I dropped the ppunds then I had my almost flat tum back. Until the second baby was a CS.

Biggest issue for me was finding time and energy to exercise, and eating healthily. As soon as I cut down on carbs and fats then milk supply nosedives and baby tries to boost it by 24/7 feeding.

Everyone is different. Kate is younger than me too which helps - but I suppose I'm just better at the brached whale look.

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FrenchFleurs · 21/10/2013 05:15

"She just looks like a normal thin new mother".

And how many of those do you see around?? I don't think I've ever seen one in real life- at least not someone with a flat tummy 3 months after giving birth!

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Cavort · 21/10/2013 05:17

I had my DD 15 weeks ago and it has quite unexpectedly happened to me. Confused Not that I am complaining, obviously. I am a size 10/12 though so nowhere near as stick-thin as the DofC.

I put on 2 stone while pregnant and had a reasonable-sized bump. I have eaten whatever I liked since the birth and have made no effort whatsoever to lose any weight or tone my stomach (other than EBFing if you buy into that theory).

Maybe she has been working out but I would say for the most part it's down to genetics and bloody good luck.

If it makes anyone feel any better, I may have my pre-pregnancy body back but I also have a baby who doesn't like to sleep at night so you really can't have everything.

Lottiesmama312 · 21/10/2013 05:30

I also had this happen to me.....

I have always been a size 8-10, ate normally (plus extra cake) in pregnancy.
I had my daughter (7lb 13oz) then less than a week after giving birth I had a guy doing work to the house, look at me in my skinny jeans and then look at my DS and say "she is not yours is she"! I did lose the weight very very quickly - I believe through breastfeeding! I did no exercise beside lots of walking with the pram.

If it makes you feel better I stopped breastfeeding and have put on 5lb! Wink

I think some women do lose weight quicker than others, I think mine was due to genetics - my mum was the same. She even looked amazing after having twins!!!! Shock

CreatureRetorts · 21/10/2013 06:23

It does and did happen to me with my first. In fact I didn't eat enough after ds and by 3 months was too thin.
Similarly after dd I lost a lot of weight.
However since going back to work I've piled it on and weigh more than I did before I got pregnant with my first (I was a size 8, 8st ish now a 10/12, 10 stone)

everlong · 21/10/2013 07:02

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tethersend · 21/10/2013 07:07

She may have just pinged back.

She may have had a strict diet and exercise regime.

She may have had a tummy tuck.

None of the above make her any more admirable than she was before.