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Original poster

to not do any more ironing after this?

41 replies

MsWilliamTheBloody · 17/10/2013 14:08

I don't mind ironing.

If I'm in the mood and have plenty of time I'll stick a film on and get on with it quite happily

DP asked yesterday if I'd iron his shirts because he'd run out. I said okay.

Today, as I'm ironing I notice something in a shirt pocket that I've ironed over. Obviously I take it out.

It's a bit of bent, broken paperclip. Really fecking hot. Hot enough to leave a blister on my finger and painful enough to bring tears to my eyes.

Angry

He rang earlier and I told him what happened and if he could not do that again - surely you check pockets before chucking stuff in the laundry anyway?

He hung up. He's now in a mood.

Hmm

He'll get over it.

However, is this a legitimate excuse not to iron his stuff again?

OP posts:
MortifiedAdams · 17/10/2013 14:09

I would reply "you have run out as you haven't ironed any"

Why is it your job?

DwellsUndertheSink · 17/10/2013 14:10

absolutely. My DH once told me he didnt like the way I ironed his shirts. I didnt iron another for at least 7 years.

IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 17/10/2013 14:12

Mortified some people don't actually mind doing their OH a favour.

He was BU to hang up, and yeah he should have checked his pockets but it was probably just a daft mistake.

Original poster
MsWilliamTheBloody · 17/10/2013 14:14

A daft mistake I can understand.

I don't get an apology though, I get hung up on.

Hmm
OP posts:
Feminine · 17/10/2013 14:15

I agree with ifyou regarding favours.

Storm in a teacup IMO.

I hope your finger is okay though.

CoffeeTea103 · 17/10/2013 14:15

Mortified not everyone is your stuff your problem, some people actually like doing things for their partners.

Op, he was being unreasonable to hang up. I had the same types of issues, now I just check the pockets before I iron, cos he never remembers!

Feminine · 17/10/2013 14:15

is your DH at work?

BlackeyedSusan · 17/10/2013 14:16

ha, befoe we were married, I told him that I would not be ironing his shirts and if he wanted ironed shirts he could do it himself. he got custody of the iron when we split up. my new one has not been out of the box. (nearly 3 years later) I did iron for a funeral, but that was at my mums.

(I have a sticky r key. nearly posted ironed shits!)

IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 17/10/2013 14:17

Maybe he is just having a bad day at work. It's not an excuse but it could be a reason.

bigbluebus · 17/10/2013 14:21

Only 7 years dwellsunderthesink. My DH classes the day he criticised the way I iron the collars on his shirts as one of the big mistakes in his life. I have not ironed another shirt of his since the day he passed comment and it was met with the response "well you know what to do then" Grin. That was more years ago than I care to remember - we have been married for 25 yrs.

He currently has a large pile of shirts awaiting ironing and is doing one each morning for work as he spends every evening on twitter/facebook hasn't had time to do them all. I however am currently ironing everyone else's things.

OP - let him do his own shirts.

Davsmum · 17/10/2013 14:22

Maybe he hung up on you, not because of WHAT you said,.. but they way you said it?
My OH has done that if I have started getting 'shouty' :-)

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 17/10/2013 14:24

If he is at work and you ring up and rant though, he isn't going to respond well.

I did this to DH once, it is a mistake I shan't make again.

flipchart · 17/10/2013 14:30

Why is it your job?
This load of nonsense always crops up when it comes to chores.

Do you know what - it isn't my DH's job to fill my car up for me ..but he does.

It isn't DH's job to do my banking for me...but he does

It isn't my job to make DS's butties before work but I do

It isn't DS's job to peg my bedding on the line when I have gone out but he does.
but you know what, as a family we are a team and we do stuff for each other so fuck all this bullshit of 'why are you doing it!!!'

YouTheCat · 17/10/2013 14:31

I haven't ironed anything since 2006. If OP's husband can't manage to check his pockets before he throws his shirts in the wash then that is a sad state of affairs. I'm presuming he's a grown up? Hmm

My ex got the iron when I left. I never looked back.

CoffeeTea103 · 17/10/2013 14:48

Well said flipchart!

I completely agree.

cantspel · 17/10/2013 14:49

Are you all so perfect that you never make a mistake? never miss a tissue or penny in a pocket?

It is a burn from a hot paperclip. She is not going to die of it or her life be marred forever. I dont know why she even felt the need to mention it let alone reenforce the message of the need to empty pockets. She spoke to him like he was a child so i can see why he hung up.

MortifiedAdams · 17/10/2013 14:50

He asked "will you iron my shirts as Ive run out", not "can you do me a favour and iron me a shirt, as I havent got time"

OP does he do.his own shirts usually¿

flipchart · 17/10/2013 14:51

If OP's husband can't manage to check his pockets before he throws his shirts in the wash then that is a sad state of affairs. I'm presuming he's a grown up?

Again, a bit of give and take doesn't go amiss.
No one is perfect. DH checks the pockets before things go in the wash and so do I.
He has asked my if I wanted my ipod doing on a 40 degree wash before now, when I said no he said don't leave it in your pocket then!! oops
( i thought I'd checked, clearly not well enough!)

ladymariner · 17/10/2013 14:56

I think the op is just looking for an excuse not to do his ironing and has picked up on this.....and I also agree with flipchart.

Davsmum · 17/10/2013 14:56

He asked "will you iron my shirts as Ive run out", not "can you do me a favour and iron me a shirt, as I havent got time"
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Even that does not imply he thinks its the OPs JOB!

Perhaps he was just giving her the reason for the request. He didn't say 'Iron my shirts!'

You cannot assume someone's intent from what is posted on here - you cannot hear their tone of voice or how they said it?

CoffeeTea103 · 17/10/2013 15:01

Assumptions are being made due to how the op's husband made this request. For people who truly work as a team In a relationship this does not matter as you know the intent behind it. He might have had a few seconds to ask her and it came out that way. No need to analyze everything.

Floggingmolly · 17/10/2013 15:05

Mentioning this to your dh is one thing. Ringing him at work to take him to task is ridiculous. Couldn't it have waited?
He was presumably busy working.

WorraLiberty · 17/10/2013 15:08

The OP didn't ring him at work...he rang her.

But honestly OP, if you simply told him what happened and asked him not to do it again, then hanging up was a very OTT response.

I'm guessing you weren't perhaps as calm as you sound now?

MrsOakenshield · 17/10/2013 15:14

if it sounded like you were having a pop at him for what was no doubt a mistake (I'm guessing he didn't think aha! I'll leave that paperclip in there so that when DP does my ironing it'll get red hot and give her a blister), he just didn't want to continue the conversation - perhaps you sounded more accusatory that you thought - I can understand if your finger was still smarting you may not have been too rational yourself?

Kiss'n'make up later.

valiumredhead · 17/10/2013 15:51

Completely agree with flip chart's post.

Ouch OP!Sad