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AIBU to think I won't bother helping out next time?

77 replies

Pancakesforbreakfast · 18/09/2013 15:52

A friend of mine was ill,not seriously so,but enough to make her feel terrible,so yesterday I had her twins overnight,to give her a break,and said I'd take them to school for her.

This morning before taking them to school,I gave them breakfast. Neither wanted the cereal I had,so I made banana pancakes for them,admittedly because I had a craving for them,though I almost never eat breakfast. They had the pancakes with cashew but butter,yogurt and fruit,and ate the lot.

I then took them to school,collected some items from Boots,and dropped them off to my friend. She asked what they'd had for breakfast,and I told her. She was not happy that I'd given them 'sweet foods' for breakfast,instead of their usual Rice Krispies or Cornflakes. She went on about spoiling them,and said next time make sure that they just have cereal. She didn't even say thank you.

AIBU to think that there won't be a next time with that attitude? Or am I just being a grumpy sod?

OP posts:
BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 18/09/2013 15:53

YANBU - she is an ungrateful cow!

iloveweetos · 18/09/2013 15:54

i would've been jealous if my DCs had been given pancakes!!
YANBU!

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 18/09/2013 15:54

If you are willing to have my kids overnight when I am I'll you can feed them ice cream for breakfast if you really want!

TessTackle · 18/09/2013 15:54

OP, think it's a bit of both really. She was v. ungrateful to not thank you and or appreciate you taking the twins off her hands. But at the same time i think you're being a little grumpy

KoalaFace · 18/09/2013 15:55

YANBU.

I assume she took out her feeling so rotten on you because there's no need to be so rude when you're doing her a favour.

aturtlenamedmack · 18/09/2013 15:56

Nope yanbu and what you gave them sounds more nutritious than cereal anyway.
But that's beside the point. She was ungrateful and rude and I wouldn't be doing it again for her.

Original poster
Pancakesforbreakfast · 18/09/2013 15:56

I don't expect praise,but a simple thankyou would have been nice. Btw not that it really matters,but there was no added sugar in the pancakes,only the natural sugar in the banana. And cereal is sweet too surely?

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DoJo · 18/09/2013 15:56

I would have told her to jog on if she had been that ungracious! Anyone with a friend who looks after their twins whilst they are ill should be glad that they are being cared for by someone and consider it a bonus that they ate anything for breakfast, let alone a delicious home made treat. Perhaps she feels bad that she never has the time/inclination to make them food like this herself but even so it's the height of bad manners not to say thank you so to pick on the breakfast you made them is downright rude.

Bakingtins · 18/09/2013 15:56

YANBU - she is ungrateful. can I come stay at yours?

Groovee · 18/09/2013 15:56

She sounds very ungrateful. I'd be grateful and not bother about what they were fed.

BrokenSunglasses · 18/09/2013 15:57

YANBU. And your breakfast was healthier than Rice Krispies.

Redlocks30 · 18/09/2013 15:59

I'd have told her I was sorry she felt like that and there would be no next time!

Lilacroses · 18/09/2013 15:59

Wow! Am amazed that even one person suggests you've been grumpy! What a total cow! She is absolutely completely ungrateful and that would be the last time I'd have her kids for her. What a delicious breakfast anyway!

PedantMarina · 18/09/2013 16:00

YANBU and can I please stay over at your house?

And YY to the sugar content in cereal - even cornflakes has silly amounts.

When she's recovered from her lurgy, please do have a "did you mean to be so rude?" word with her. Her response will inform whether there will be a next time.

LividofLondon · 18/09/2013 16:01

YANBU. You should have got a thank you at least. She should've been grateful that you were able to look after her children, not moan that you didn't give them her choice of breakfast. Does she make a habit of not saying thanks or do you think this was a one-off?

Rollermum · 18/09/2013 16:01

YANBU! Agee that banana pancakes are healthier than sugary cereal. But either way you deserve a thank you whatever they ate!

tripecity · 18/09/2013 16:03

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/09/2013 16:03

I would have said, "What next time? If you can't bother your arse to thank me as well as bollocking me (for cooking your children a healthy breakfast), I shan't be offering to have them again!"

KellyElly · 18/09/2013 16:04

There's nothing wrong with a banana pancake for goodness sake. How ungrateful! YANBU.

MoaningMingeWhingesAgain · 18/09/2013 16:06

Banana pancakes way more nutritious and tasty than rice krispies
I bet she just feels out-doneSmile Sod her the rude caaaaah

exexpat · 18/09/2013 16:07

Tell her to check the ingredients list on cornflakes & rice crispies. And don't do her any favours again.

TessTackle · 18/09/2013 16:09

make me banana pancakes

exexpat · 18/09/2013 16:48

Just one more thought - the 'spoiling' comment means she is probably pissed off because she expects the twins will now start asking her to make pancakes at breakfast time, as they are much nicer than rice crispies - but rather more hassle for her.

Chippednailvarnish · 18/09/2013 16:53

How about serving her a big portion of "fuck off" for dinner?

SimplyRedHead · 18/09/2013 16:57

How do you make banana pancakes? I might try some with my lot later!

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