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To refuse to agree to stranger in my house?

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DebbieReynolds · 16/09/2013 13:31

So .... My cleaner just texted to say she has her employee with her today & is it okay If she comes into the house. Says she has been police checked. I didn't know she employed anyone, and I've only known X, who does the cleaning, 4 weeks. I can't get there to see employee's CRB check. Would you refuse or take it on trust?

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CoffeeTea103 · 16/09/2013 13:33

I wouldn't. You can't just take your cleaners word for it, what if something goes wrong. Yanbu

captainmummy · 16/09/2013 13:33

Dunno - I'm the sort who gives keys to the builders/plasterers/general workmen, on the assumption that they are trustworthy and nothing in my house is worth the badwill.
But if you have any bad feeling about it, don't do it.

Ifcatshadthumbs · 16/09/2013 13:34

Well you either trust your cleaner or not. She has asked you first so I think that is a good sign that she is professional.

wannaBe · 16/09/2013 13:36

I probably would. She checked with you first, if anything goes missing it's going to be pretty obvious isn't it? She's not likely to take that kind of chance.

And police checks are a bit worthless anyway just because she has one doesn't mean she's never committed a crime and if she didn't have one wouldn't make her a criminal.

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DebbieReynolds · 16/09/2013 13:37

I'm usually like you captain, but also think, if she has someone else there, maybe she's goi g to pass on the cleaning to them & I'm not keen.

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WorraLiberty · 16/09/2013 13:38

You've already got a stranger in your house - your cleaner.

And since CRB checks only prove someone hasn't been caught breaking the law, I can't see a difference here.

DIYapprentice · 16/09/2013 13:38

I'd question why she is bringing her employee, it sounds as though she wants to hand over some of her work to the employee, including your cleaning job. She wants her there to show her what to do. If that was never your intention, just say no.

MariaLuna · 16/09/2013 13:41

If she wants her to take over the job, she should be discussing it with you before presuming it's o.k.

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DebbieReynolds · 16/09/2013 13:42

I hope I don't sound precious it's just that I was so chuffed with X, and at one point earlier in the yeAr I had a woman (who didn't even tell me she operated as an agency) send 5 different people over 5 successive weeks. It just doesn't feel right having people you don't know root around In your drawers. It's more the privacy than security thing I'm bothered about, and the fact that she's good, & her employee might not be.

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DebbieReynolds · 16/09/2013 13:43

DIY that's exactly what I'm thinking. Taki g me ages to type on wretched iPhone.

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wink1970 · 16/09/2013 13:44

she's asked you for permission, so I agree with Ifcatshadthumbs that it's a good sign of professionalism.

maybe she is showing a new person the ropes so they can clean other houses for her? My cleaner has a very specific schedule that works for her, maybe your lady is the same and wants to pass her knowledge/standards on.

I'd say yes

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Ifcatshadthumbs · 16/09/2013 13:47

I'd say yes but then ask for clarification that she is still going to be your regular cleaner.

phantomnamechanger · 16/09/2013 13:49

presumably that makes your cleaner the boss, trying to expand her business -? so, she is willing to take on this person, has interviewed them, got references, and CRB checked them (whatever the heck that's supposed to prove). She presumably wants to train them up/watch them where they are going wrong, so that her customers will be happy with her service and spread the word. Bad cleaner will get her a bad name.

Unless you think she is letting her light fingered friend in for a coffee and a rifle through your nick nacks, don't give it another thought

topicsactiveimon · 16/09/2013 13:51

No, that's not on. You didn't even know she had an employee, you're not happy for work to be handed on to someone else, and you're not happy to authorise someone else in your house without meeting them. None of that in unreasonable.

You need to have a talk with your cleaner about why she wants to bring someone else around your house, and what your expectations were about her being the one who comes and does the cleaning. If she wants to hand on the work, she needs to be upfront with you. If she is trying to get the work done faster by having an assistant, this may or may not be something you approve of.

Just ring her and ask what's going on.

squeakytoy · 16/09/2013 13:51

very very few cleaners root around in drawers, they get on with their work because they want to get the job done and get to their next one as quickly as possible

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DebbieReynolds · 16/09/2013 14:00

Thank you Topic. I've come over all assertive now & will just ask her & say I'd rather she did it than passed it on.

My battery is low so thank you now everyone in case I'm not back.

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