dh goes to the loo three times a night

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He doesn't think there is anything unusual about this. I think it wakes me up all night, and it's driving me nuts. Been going on for years and I really just want to move into the spare room. Aibu not to share a bed and also a bit worried about him??

Possible sign of prostate problems.

Or drinking too much in the evening.

Nocturia

If I drink a lot within an hour or two of going to bed, I get up 2-3 times a night to pee. I've been to the doctor but it's just me. My bladder can never seem to handle a lot of liquid - been like that all my life!

He should pee sitting down.

And go to the GP to get his prostate checked.

Not normal

And I hope he never stays in youth hostels, or other shared accommodation!

ILove

Can I ask why pee sitting down?

Is there a medical reason why he should pee sitting down?

Presumably if he sits down it would be quieter and less likely to wake op?

Yes, doctor. Could be prostate issues, overactive bladder, diabetes - all sorts of things. It's not normal.

Sounds like he needs a trip to the doctors.

Needs to see his GP

Ah, thought it might be that (assuming en suite bathroom). But the getting out of bed part would wake me up ...

My last post was in reply To ItsAll

Sounds a bit more than usual. My DH sometimes needs to go several times a night but that's to do with the medications he's on.

YANBU to want to move into the spare room. I did years ago - DH snores too, and likes the lights out earlier than I do. There are occasional threads about separate rooms - lots of us do it and have happy marriages despite (or because!) of it.

If I have a couple of pints of water to drink before bed, I can easily get up two times to wee eg if I've had a late sports match. Is he drinking too much before bed? He might also be in the habit of going so much, and you kind of train your bladder to signal full when it's not really. Probably worth a trip to the dr though.

If you wee sitting down you empty the bladder more effectively. (I think that's why, I've heard it somewhere).

Could be prostate, diabetes or just too much fluid after dinner.

How old is he?

Definitely should go to the GP.

If it's been going on for years, it sounds like this is normal for him, so probably not a medical issue.
He needs to drink larger amounts and more often during the day, but stop an hour or two before bedtime. Avoid caffeine.
It sounds like a habit.

If it is a new thing, or he feels like he needs to wee but struggles to, then definitely see his GP.

GP

Thanks Everyone. Will show him this thread and tell him I love him but I need my sleep!!! Hes 34 btw.

he doesn't by any chance suffer from any kind of anxiety? there is a spastic bladder disorder thing related to anxiety which my brother suffers from when a period of depression hits. I hope very much for him it isn't, but add it to the list of what to investigate.

Does it bother him? I get pissed off if I wake up to pee at all during the night, never mind 3 times a night every night!

When he goes does he actually have a full bladder or has he got into the habit of needing to empty a small dribble every couple of hours?

Lots of possible medical problems could cause this or it could just be a combination of drinking a lot of fluids and getting into the habit of going too often. Either way there are probably medications that can help.

The peeing sitting down is simply to make less noise.

But even if he has been like this for years, there could be a medical reason that ought to be checked out. If it is habit then he can retrain his bladder, but there's no point doing that if there is an underlying medical condition.

Does he wee as frequently uring the day?

I am not sure but will enquire! Thanks for all replies, very helpful