To ask you to give me a push?

[HerrenaHarridan]

I really want to ask someone out and I'm getting myself worked up. Someone tell me it will be ok.

It's the first time since me and my ex split.

We met through a dating site and she contacted me first so she's probably interested right?

We've had messages going back and forth for a few days and she sounds lovely. I really want to meet up with her and need someone to tell me to woman the fuck up and ask her. Oh god what if she says no?!?

Do it! She contacted you first and it's a dating site...you've exchanged messages so seems very natural next step. Good luck! and report back

Woman up! :)

Seriously though, what's the absolute worst thing that can happen? She says no, you're briefly embarrassed, you forget about it in a day. Compared with best case scenario - says yes, you go out and have a great time - it's well worth taking a chance.

I'm literally biting my nails ( I never do that!) ffs
My hearts racing!

How do I even causally say it?

"fancy meeting for a coffee/drink soon?"

Go for it. People don't message back and forth on dating sites unless they are at open to meeting up. Definitely ask her. You're going to get a nice date out of it.

Ohmygodohmygodohmugod!!!!!!!!

Right, phew. Ok I'm going to do it. Eeeeek!

She will say yes! Report back

Oh fuck! I've done it!

Now I've got to wait on tenter hooks!

What if she says yes?!? What will I wear? Where should we go?
We are about 50 miles apart in two neighbouring big cities? Maybe there is somewhere we can meet in the middle or should I do the travelling because I asked?

Oh fuck!

Breeeeathe

Get the reply first then come back so we can tell you how to live your life help you decide what to wear and do. Good luck and well done.

While you drive yourself mad until she replies, I will tell you a joke to take your mind off it, your title reminded me of it.

A man is at home on a dark blustery night. It's late and he's getting ready for bed.
Suddenly there's a knock at the door, he opens it and there is a man, drenched.
'I'm so sorry to disturb you, but I need someone to give me push, just to get me going. I've been up and down the street and knocked on a few doors and no-one is answering. I saw your light on so I thought I'd try here. If you'd come and give me a push you'd be doing me a huge favour.'
So the first man sighs and says sure, let me go and get my shoes on.
He follows the other man into the street and says, 'alright mate, where are you?' To which the man replies 'I'm over here on this swing'.

Boom tish!
Thenkyewvairmush.

Oh dear!

Still no response according to the site she went off line just before I sent it!

She has probably gone to work and left me to sweat

She's replied and I'm scared to open it

She said yes!

Now what?

Should I offer to travel to her or propose we meet in the middle?
Coffee? Dinner? Drinks?

Fuck I need to reply, what shall I say

What do I say?

Suggest a mid way meet up during the day, lunch in a pub or the like. Tell someone in RL where you are going. Get them to call you after 30 mins to tell you something bad happened so you can leave if you want to. When you get back from the date, don't forget to tell the someone in RL you are home and safe

Have a fab time, but be safe.

Whoop! I'd do lunch somewhere cool.
You could impress her by telling her my joke.

I love the joke!!

Will memorise joke its bound to impress

Late lunch Saturday, still to decide where?!?

Thanks btw

If you are in a city a pleasant walk from lunch to bar would be nice too.

I want a date now!
looks pointedly at DH