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AIBU?

To think that having a wild party when...

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bowlingforsoup · 16/06/2013 03:11

Hi

Been at a ball tonight in my parents home town. I'm 39 weeks pregnant and have a 4yo DD. DD was being looked after by a family friend and I came home about 9.30pm. We are staying at my parents tonight. DD was still awake and i finally managed to settle her at 11. I went to sleep not long after and we were woken up at 1.30am by my family and at the very least 20 other guests that nobody knew from the ball. My brother has an important job in the town over the next week and he decided to invite whoever he could find back to the house (it's a flat, 4 in a block) and have a party. We woke up to screaming, shouting, glasses being smashed, my laptop being smashed and general rowdy behaviour. I'm not a killjoy and love a good party when I'm there but I am so so angry about this.

DD was terrified crying and begging me to take her home. I lost it and shouted at everyone to get out and go home there was a young child in the house. I was ignored and my dad gave the guests the keys to his caravan which is in the drive.

The caravan has been trashed. Beer cans, smashed bottles and glass all over the drive and garden.

We are stuck in the bedroom because it's all kicking off.

Please reassure me that I'm not being unreasonable tonight and that they are completely out of order.

I'm so upset I'm actually thinking about phoning the police. I'm not sure why the neighbours haven't done it already I've noticed everyone's lights have went on

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caia2507 · 16/06/2013 03:15

YANBU call the police. Hope you're ok x

welshfirsttimemummy · 16/06/2013 03:23

Can you just get a taxi home? Or are you too far away?

YANBU I would not be happy with all that going on with my 4 year old in the house.

HoveringKestrel · 16/06/2013 03:23

YANBU. Thats such a terrible situation I would just call a taxi and invoice the parents.

bowlingforsoup · 16/06/2013 03:26

Ive got my car most people are leaving so we should be able to get out the house. I've got a 25 mile drive and im shattered but I'd rather get home and get DD settled than stay here and be scared. It's ridiculous I'm so angry that we are being made to deal with this

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LoopyLooplaHoop · 16/06/2013 03:27

Who are these people and why haven't your family calmed them down? Being there is one thing, destroying stuff and scaring people is a different matter entirely.

LoopyLooplaHoop · 16/06/2013 03:27

What sort of kicking off?

Are you able to drive alcohol wise?

bowlingforsoup · 16/06/2013 03:33

Im 39 weeks pregnant so haven't touched alcohol since last September, I'll be fine.

My family are just as drunk and think karaoke and arguing is an acceptable way to end an evening. It's embarrassing and i wish i hadn't bothered. We are heading home now i cant wait to get to my own bed.

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caia2507 · 16/06/2013 03:35

Has it quietened down now OP? You sure you're not too tired to drive home?

caia2507 · 16/06/2013 03:37

Oops cross post. Poor you. Hope you get home ok and get some shuteye. People can get so unreasonable when they've had a few drinks. Safe drive x

amazingmumof6 · 16/06/2013 03:39

please do not drive!
you are heavily pregnant, angry and upset and tired.

you could go into labour with your DD in the car or worse.

call the police or get a cab if you must.

I hope it will settle soon.

your brother is a dick btw!

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 16/06/2013 09:52

Hope you out & home safely

maddy68 · 16/06/2013 11:37

Actually I think yabu. You are a guest in there house. They are having a party. Their choice.
I think you are over reacting because you are sober and they are not

HoneyDragon · 16/06/2013 11:40

Maddy....they've smashed her laptop. Should guests accept that?

StuffezLaYoni · 16/06/2013 11:44

God you're having a bad time of it lately, aren't you?
It sounds an absolute nightmare - there are parties, and then there are "parties" where you don't feel safe and just want to get out. I really hope you're home safe now.

bowlingforsoup · 16/06/2013 12:00

We got home about 4am. I won't be going back there this week.

My laptop is ruined but i know who smashed it so he will be sorting it.

Maybe I was being a bit unreasonable i was tired and quite annoyed at being woken up at that time of the morning.

They were at a function and came back to the house afterwards there was never meant to be a party in the first place and if i had thought for a second that my parents were going to allow it i would never have stayed here I would have went home earlier in the evening with DD instead of her being upset by the drunken carry on

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manticlimactic · 16/06/2013 12:05

I wouldn't be going back at all..never mind this week.

Xiaoxiong · 16/06/2013 12:07

No you were not being U in the slightest.

When I was 35 weeks with DS my DH came back very merry from a fancy dinner with a friend of his - they proceeded to put on a DVD of Wagner's Das Rhinegold and sing along with the Rhinemaiden's trio at the top of their lungs. At 4am. No amount of texting and calling DH's phone telling him to shut up would stop them.

Their fun was abruptly terminated by me waddling out of the bedroom and pulling the TV and speaker plugs out of the wall, then marching back to bed. I was furious and DH grovelled for ages afterwards.

Now DS is 18 months I would be even more furious if anyone did that and woke him up, especially if he was scared.

ReginaPhilangie · 16/06/2013 12:12

Jesus Christ! Is this normal behaviour for your parents and brother? That's some pretty awful fricking behaviour on it's own without a heavily pregnant woman and 4 year old in the house! I would be raising merry hell, and as for the person who trashed your laptop I'd getting enough money off them for a brand new one!

ENormaSnob · 16/06/2013 13:42

Is your dad frank gallagher?

bowlingforsoup · 16/06/2013 14:06

Absolutely not.

This was out of character for the family which is why I never thought a party like this would happen. It was the guests making the mess and having the carry on but my parents weren't doing much to move people on.

I've had an apology but i dont think we will be back for a while.

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hurricanewyn · 16/06/2013 14:11

Why did your parents want a party like this? I understand being tipsy & thinking it's a great idea to bring everyone home, but letting them trash the place?

No wonder you were livid. Just try & keep calm until baby's here and see how you feel.

PunkHedgehog · 17/06/2013 08:52

"We woke up to screaming, shouting, glasses being smashed, my laptop being smashed and general rowdy behaviour."

That's not a party, that's a riot.

"my dad gave the guests the keys to his caravan which is in the drive."

After they'd smashed all the stuff in the house? It's his business what he does with his stuff, but that's nuts.

"Please reassure me that I'm not being unreasonable tonight and that they are completely out of order."

YWNBU. Calling the police would have been a perfectly reasonable reaction, and if you ever find yourself in a similar situation in future, please do call them. For the sake of the neighbours as well as yourself.

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xylem8 · 17/06/2013 09:12

It does seem odd behaviour.But at the end of the day it's their house , if they want to allow people to be noisy and destructive in it, then it's up to them- why would the police get involved?
(sorry about your laptop though)

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