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Original poster

To insist he uses the toothpaste

71 replies

TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 23/05/2013 08:07

This is trivial, but DH wants the Mumsnet opinion.

I bought some Arm and Hammer baking soda toothpaste, which he says he Does Not Like and Will Not Use. I don't like it much either, but it would be a waste to throw it away, and you only have it in your mouth for a minute at a time. A tube lasts about a month in our house.

Earlier in the year, I accidentally bought some lemon-flavoured shite that made me gag. I still used it, and by the end of the tube had at least learned to tolerate it.

AIBU to tell him to suck it up for 2 minutes a day, or is he BU to throw it away?

OP posts:
Sirzy · 23/05/2013 08:08

I wouldn't use a toothpaste I really don't like.

IneedAsockamnesty · 23/05/2013 08:09

Yabu. He's a grown up that means he gets to choose this for himself

StuntGirl · 23/05/2013 08:09

You use it and he buys a new one?

Kittenkatzen · 23/05/2013 08:10

Unless money is an issue I woul just buy a new tube of toothpaste tbh! Maybe give the A&H someone who does like it so its not wasted?

Startail · 23/05/2013 08:10

Bin

lookingbusy · 23/05/2013 08:11

I would have to be very broke to use toothpaste I didn't like. I'm amazed you think you could possibly force your DH to use toothpaste if he didn't want to. Surely he'll just go out and buy more?

purplewithred · 23/05/2013 08:11

Exactly how much did this toothpaste cost? £2.50? So for the sake of £2.50 you would make your and your DH suffer four hours (2 mins x twice a day x 2 of you x 30 days) of yeuch?

YABVU

EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 23/05/2013 08:13

Yabu and controlling. You use the toothpaste if you don't want to waste it, your dh can use whatever he buys for himself.

BunnyLebowski · 23/05/2013 08:14

YABU.

Use it yourself if you like but you have no right to expect him to.

A tube of Colgate is 99p.

I can't understand how you can give this much of a shit.

Pascha · 23/05/2013 08:14

No. You can't force him to use it. Just chuck it away and move on.

alienbanana · 23/05/2013 08:16

YABU. And a bit weird.

You use it up if it bothers you that much.

NewAtThisMalarky · 23/05/2013 08:16

YABU. Even if you are broke, you could buy supermarket value toothpaste for just a few pence.

What kind of a relationship is it if you think you should be able to insist on what products he uses?

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 23/05/2013 08:22

For goodness sake - this is quite Confused

My DH regularly brings home samples of toothpaste I don't like from reps. I don't like arm and hammer - tastes salty. I don't like sensodyne - tastes sweet. They both make me feel sick. He's just given me a new Colgate electric toothbrush - dont like it, it's shit.

I would be Shock if the then tried to force me to use them. I'm an adult - I'm allowed my own opinions and tastes. He's not very fond of mashed potatoes but I don't force him to eat them on the basis it would only take him two minutes to do so.

Bumply · 23/05/2013 08:28

Ds1 didn't like minty toothpaste, but I had to force him to use it when he outgrew the baby strength ones available in different flavours.
I wouldn't want to use a toothpaste I didn't like if there were other suitable ones I did like available.
I wouldn't experiment in buying different things if I then felt I had to be a martyr and use it up however disgusting it was. This is not normal behaviour. If you're so skint you can't afford to not use it then you should only be buying stuff you know you like.

RubyOnRails · 23/05/2013 08:32

OP, you are either skint or controlling. Now, which one is it? :)

FredFredGeorge · 23/05/2013 08:35

Can't be skint or you wouldn't be buying expensive toothpastes... so YABU.

Wishiwasanheiress · 23/05/2013 08:39

Do u baby ur dh in every way op or just in regards to toothpaste?

Weird and yabvvvu

samandi · 23/05/2013 08:42

Depends how much he doesn't like it. I can happily use a toothpaste I don't like a little but not one I really don't like.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 23/05/2013 08:42

I'd just tell him to go and buy the brand he likes and keep that one for myself.

Two tubes used by one person each will last as long as one tube used by two people so it's not like you're even saving money by trying to get him to use one he doesn't like.

It's going in his mouth so he gets to choose it! Grin

HazleNutt · 23/05/2013 08:42

Does that apply to everything else as well - if you have bought some food he does not like, he should eat it anyway, not to waste it?

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TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 23/05/2013 08:45

I'm really surprised, but fair enough, I'll have to use it. I don't see it as important enough to constitute martyrdom, the amount of contact you have with it is so limited. Would you really waste a whole tube just because you didn't like it? We're not so skint that we couldn't buy a new one, but that's not the point. It's bought, it's perfectly ok, it does the job, and within a few days he'd have got used to it.

If it was a small child, I'd change the toothpaste rather than put him off brushing his teeth for life, but a grown man?

Going to work now, not hiding Smile

OP posts:
ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 23/05/2013 08:46

How is it being wasted though? You'll use it.

littlewhitebag · 23/05/2013 08:46

My DH buys toothpaste he likes and i have stuff i like. Where is the problem? If you use it up the money won't be wasted, it will just take you longer to finish it.

Shesparkles · 23/05/2013 08:48

Buy another tube and keep the arm and hammer as an emergency back up

Sirzy · 23/05/2013 08:49

If you purchased food you didn't like would you eat it all just because you have paid for it?

The taste of toothpaste lingers in your mouth for a while after and is really strong whilst you are brushing - why would you want to carry on using it if you don't like it?