To not make my 11 year old any tea?

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Dd was at after school club and had a small portion of spaghetti on toast -very much a snack

Because it was a late pick up I was going to do a sort yourself tea -beans on toast, soup etc
I make it but we would all have different things, happens every couple of weeks or so

Dd doesn't want anything

I'm torn between 1 missed meal won't hurt and I really should make her eat something

I'm very touchy about dcs and eating as my sis had anorexia from age 13 and I used to secret eat - we grew up in a 'clear your plate or we all sit here until you do' type house and I always said I wasn't going to turn food into a battle

Dd is a normal weight but curvy for her age and is very body aware

Is it ok for her not to have tea?

If its one time then no it's fine I think.
Does she feel ill? Just not hungry?

If its a pattern then its more worrying.

She is not hungry. Maybe cereal later? No biggie surely as it is the exception

It's ok. She's had something to eat. Maybe she's just not hungry.

If she does this in a regular basis, then I would be concerned. But she sounds fine. Maybe let her have a small snack before bedtime.

If you haven't had any problems up to now, I would be tempted not to make an issue of it. Perhaps offer her another snack (hot chocolate and toast or a biscuit) a bit before bedtime. As my DC's are good eaters I don't worry if they miss a meal, but I can understand why you are concerned.

It's not the first time she has done it but usually I can see a reason for it, tired, not feeling well, party at after school club etc

Today she is fine but had packed lunch of sandwich, oatcake & an orange and the spaghetti on toast -she should be hungry

She needs to eat surely, she must be starving. Does she have a good breakfast?

Don't stress over it, in my house I'd rather not make a meal than end up with it in the bin because they weren't hungry. Offer her a large snack before she goes to bed. She'll make up for it in the morning.

DS2 probably wouldn't want anything if he'd had the snack you describe (but in our house we don't have a 'fix yourself' night so I'd probably plate something up for later - although he doesn't always come back for it). He's 12.
Of my three, he's the skinny one, and the least concerned with food. I think as long as you've made it clear there's food available, and you make subtly clear you assume she'll be hungry for toast or something before bedtime, she's fine.

It could be this sudden heat.

Or what Justforlaughs said.

what sudden heat?

Trust her to know her own mind. Leave out some more healthy snacks - fruit, oatcakes etc and offer them later. It's really good that children don't eat out of habit but are aware of their appetite. My DS2 has just started doing that (he's cuddly too) and it secretly pleases me that he's happy to skip food if he's not hungry. He eats plenty when he is!

She's in bed, not asked for anything to eat

Hmmmmmm

the last few days where i live ( in the uk) it has been very warm

She's had breakfast (?), a sandwich, an oatcake (like a flat biscuit?), an orange and then a small portion of spaghetti on toast?

That is enough if she isn't hungry. We eat beyond our hunger most of the time anyway.