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Names people choose for themselves

28 replies

WidowWadman · 18/04/2013 19:53

So when someone chooses wether to not change their name get married or to change their name, it's without doubt bloody rude to not observe their choice and call them by the name they have not chosen for themselves, and I've never heard anyone disagree with that.

So why is it ok to call Osborne by the name he's been given at birth rather the one he chose for himself?

Does the etiquette only apply to surnames?

(btw - no big fan of him, just wondering in general)

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Flobbadobs · 18/04/2013 20:02

Funnily enough I thought this when reading the other thread, I suspect people would call anyone else by the name they are known by but being who he is he's an open target.
He changed his name when he was 13 ffs, it's childish!

Flobbadobs · 18/04/2013 20:06

Ahem...
It's childish and ignorant to refer to him by his old name. Even his political enemies are capable of usuing his actual legal name!

tabulahrasa · 18/04/2013 20:07

'it's without doubt bloody rude to not observe their choice and call them by the name they have not chosen for themselves, and I've never heard anyone disagree with that.'

But they're being rude on purpose in this case - aren't they? Isn't that the point of doing it?

Portofino · 18/04/2013 20:10

I am always a bit bemused by the hatred for individual politicians. I don't believe they are all evil incarnate. There are party policies and a democratic vote for changes in law etc. it not like one old Etonian gets to decide ON HIS OWN what is going to happen. Ditto all the Thatcher stuff.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 18/04/2013 20:10

Erm, yes, the whole point is to show you don't respect him......

Bowlersarm · 18/04/2013 20:10

OP they are deliberately being rude because they don't like him. Although I much prefer the name Gideon to the name George so i like them doing it.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 18/04/2013 20:11

Bears also shit in woods

Bowlersarm · 18/04/2013 20:11

Agree Porto

WidowWadman · 18/04/2013 20:13

"But they're being rude on purpose in this case - aren't they? Isn't that the point of doing it?"

You could argue though, that those who call someone who chose to keep their maiden name by their spouse's name are rude on purpose, too. So where's the difference?

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EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 18/04/2013 20:13

It's done deliberately to take the piss out of him. Hth.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 18/04/2013 20:14

Gideon deserves mockery and shame, that's the difference.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 18/04/2013 20:16

Sorry, i'm not following Widow

I think, in the second case, they may be being rude, they may have just assumed someone has changed their name when they haven't, or they may have forgotten.

In Osborne's case, it is definitely rudeness

HumphreyCobbler · 18/04/2013 20:16

it is ok to say anything about a tory, didn't you know?

(I am not that fond of George Osbourne either btw)

Startail · 18/04/2013 20:17

The whole of that thread is unnecessary and in very poor taste, whatever you think of the man in question.

As for names, I have never answered to my full name and would instantly judge anyone who insisted on using it.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 18/04/2013 20:17

Withing reason, and the law, and general good taste

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 18/04/2013 20:17

Within

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 18/04/2013 20:19

I like Gideon too. Wonder why he changed it?

Bowlersarm · 18/04/2013 20:21

Do we know why he changed his name? I know he was about 13 when he did it, and that it was him not his parents

Flobbadobs · 18/04/2013 20:25

The guy looks like a pink frog, has the largest forehead on the planet and the only way people can take the piss is by using part of his name?

HazardLamps · 18/04/2013 20:27

It's no more acceptable than to purposefully call someone the wrong surname. It's deliberately rude and very childish.

Bowlersarm · 18/04/2013 20:28

Flobba You are wrong. My DH has the biggest forehead on the planet

Flobbadobs · 18/04/2013 20:28

Bowlersarm Grin

TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 18/04/2013 21:42

It's rude, childish and, if done in real life, bullying behaviour. I hid the thread.