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To think this is rude?

42 replies

Nooneelseisallowedafergus · 12/04/2013 09:54

On the phone to my mum, who lives in another country, who I v rarely talk to (last time was middle of march). I pass the phone to my toddler so he can say hello, he accidentally presses the off button. So try to phone back....engaged......wait for her to call back......nothing......try to phone her again.....engaged. Me and my son are waiting to finish conversation. After some minutes, text her. Her husband is now using the phone! Half an hour later it remains engaged!!!!
Is this not as bad as cutting into someone's conversation at a party and making it all about you, leaving them and their former conversation just hanging. Rude rude rude.
Can't be arsed anymore, off out. Aaarrrrrgh.

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Nooneelseisallowedafergus · 12/04/2013 10:02

Anyone?

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MrsMangelFanciedPaulRobinson · 12/04/2013 10:03

Well you did let your toddler put the phone down on her.....

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/04/2013 10:04

Someone maybe called them? Or he had an urgent call to make?

livinginwonderland · 12/04/2013 10:06

is it really such a big deal? if the phone rang once your toddler hung up, they can't then tell the next caller to piss off! yabu. it's not rude. don't let your toddler hang up if you care so much.

kinkyfuckery · 12/04/2013 10:06

It was hung up from your end, not hers.
Maybe her husband was waiting to use the phone and took the opportunity. Maybe he can't get other person off phone. Maybe he's speaking to his child.

Annoying, yes, but not particularly rude.

IYoniWantToBeWithYou · 12/04/2013 10:08

I don't think its rude. The phone probably rang when the phone cut off. No big deal really.

WilsonFrickett · 12/04/2013 10:09

You cut her off (albeit by accident) so I think from her pov you were the rude one!

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Nooneelseisallowedafergus · 12/04/2013 10:10

We were a only about 2 min into our phone call. It was just pissing annoying that we then had to wait around in vain, wondering if she was going to call back, trying to call her, assuming it was engaged due to crossed lines.......all the while someone else had merrily barged in and taken over.

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Nooneelseisallowedafergus · 12/04/2013 10:11

Apparently, he received the call, but did he have to witter on for well over half an hour?

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 12/04/2013 10:11

You cut her off......mind you, when my sisters kids were toddlers she used to put them on the phone to me. It is very tiresome trying to talk to a toddler on the phone so your mum was probably glad they got cut off :)

Rude rude rude.
Can't be arsed anymore, off out. Aaarrrrrgh

You obviously have other problems with your mum though.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/04/2013 10:12

Maybe it was an important call

pictish · 12/04/2013 10:13

I don't think it's rude. That's just the way it goes. Chill.

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Nooneelseisallowedafergus · 12/04/2013 10:13

Yes Betty I do.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 12/04/2013 10:14

Sorry to hear that. Hope you can sort it out.

Lottashakingoinon · 12/04/2013 10:16

Nope not rude at all. And in any case I can't count the number of times when I think I have put the phone down when it has bounced (slightly) back off the cradle (one of those retro phones with a plastic coil wire) so it sounds like my line's engaged for ages.

And obviously I know this isn't the case here...your Mum is probably thrilled to talk to her dgs and rightly sp, but am I the only one who gets bloody irritated when people put their totally unintelligible sprogs on the phone to 'chat' this clearly does not apply in the case of my granddaughters who have the sort of wit and sparkle that would put Victoria Coren to shame and anyone would be just delighted to chat with them for hours on end

LovePickles · 12/04/2013 10:16

'Don't let you toddler hang up if you care so much'

Are people on here really serious, it was probably a slip of the hand, an accident. It's hilarious how people sit and talk to other mothers on this forum. 'You let him hang up, you haven't got the reflexes of a cat, so you're a bad person...'

I'd think it a bit odd that she wouldn't wait for a second to see if you would phone back, but then there's other reasons like other posters have said ie: urgent call etc...

VeryObviousBeforeNameChange · 12/04/2013 10:17

Hmm some people are odd, and i am not talking about your mum....

LessMissAbs · 12/04/2013 10:17

How terrible, OP!!!

LovePickles · 12/04/2013 10:18

Tiresome trying to talk to a toddler on the phone?

Grandparent who never sees grandchild may be glad they hung up?

What world am I living in?

Lottashakingoinon · 12/04/2013 10:19

X posts Betty (re toddlers on the line)

Apparently, he received the call, but did he have to witter on for well over half an hour?

Oh please...this is clearly one of the those irregular verbs:

I have a chat
You go on a bit
He witters on for well over half an hour

Grin
kinkyfuckery · 12/04/2013 10:19

I'm guessing you also have ishoos with your SD?

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 12/04/2013 10:19

Love - a realistic world!!!

Yes, it is tiresome trying to have a conversation with someone who is not yet capable of holding one. Doesn't mean you love them any less!

YoniDaChillOut · 12/04/2013 10:19

"but did he have to witter on for well over half an hour?"

it's his phone he can talk on it for as long as he likes!

belfastbigmillie · 12/04/2013 10:21

This is not about a phone call. This is about you not feeling loved so you are hurt and sad.

LovePickles · 12/04/2013 10:24

I live in a realistic world too, one where we know a life is short and spending 1 minute on the phone to a loved one isn't tiresome, it's a gift. I know toddlers I'd rather speak to than most adults - like those harping on about how 'tiresome' it is to have to bother talking to children in the family.