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daftbesom · 04/04/2013 18:30

So - DH and I both ate a banana in the evening [not a euphemism] and as I tidied up I put the skins in the log stove (which was burning merrily away).

DH challenged me on this one, asking why did I not put them in the compost bin through in the kitchen? To which I replied, they will burn in the stove and become ash, and we put the wood ash on the garden anyway.

At which point he became quite upset because I had not "admitted" it would be better to put them on the compost. I said I did not think it was Bad to put them on the stove. He tried to have an argument with me about it but I just couldn't engage. He then knocked a chair over to make some kind of point about not-great things being, er, not great. At which point I told him he was going too far and I left the room for my bath.

We have been together a long time and he is not violent ... mind you I think he would be more "controlling" if I let him.

Would you have apologised for putting banana skins in the stove? I just couldn't.

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FarBetterNow · 04/04/2013 18:34

You have reminded why I LOVE living on my own.

Did he pick the chair up again?


LadyMaryQuiteContrary · 04/04/2013 18:35

Sounds like he likes things a certain way. I wouldn't have apologised, it's not a huge issue in the grand scheme of things. Your DH sounds as though he has issues though, what's he like usually?


LovesBeingWokenEveryNight · 04/04/2013 18:36

Completely ignore the point of the thread, don't they smell if you burn them?


CloudsAndTrees · 04/04/2013 18:37

It would make sense to me to put banana skins on a compost rather than on a stove, but I'm not sure why.

The banana skins aren't really the problem though.

The need that both of you have to be right, and therefore get one over on the other sound ps like its more of a problem.


whokilleddannylatimer · 04/04/2013 18:41

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RainbowsFriend · 04/04/2013 18:42

He's an arse.

Buy anyway - I thought banana skins didn't compost well?


YouTheCat · 04/04/2013 18:42

Is he 4?


EyePad · 04/04/2013 18:43

Well, it wasn't as if he was rushing to put them in the compost bin. Left it to you to tidy up. So YANBU.


JamieandtheMagicTorch · 04/04/2013 18:45

I would think this interaction was about something else, he was drunk, or a culmination of niggles.


ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 04/04/2013 18:48

I would be asking him why he was so upset about two banana skins, because it was baffling.


nenevomito · 04/04/2013 18:53

Sounds like one of those days.


natsmum100 · 04/04/2013 19:09

I think he would be more "controlling" if I let him. Grin


daftbesom · 05/04/2013 19:33

Thanks for the replies - he has to be right and I'm afraid I don't rush to agree with him that I'm in the wrong - my main feeling was "yeah, two banana skins, and????" ... with a side helping of "get off my case". I can't be arsed apologising because frankly I would and will do the exact same thing again. Prob not in front of him though. Grin

He's away from home tonight (not because of BananaSkinGate I hasten to add) and I am eating a bunch of grapes; guess where the stalks will end up later!

Re the chair - next morning when I got up it was still lying on the sittingroom floor and I righted it without comment. I do a lot of things without comment.

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catgirl1976 · 05/04/2013 19:41

I could not be with someone who gave a monkeys toss where banana skins went. I really couldn't


He is overly concerned with your composting arrangements.


SoleSource · 05/04/2013 19:43



Wishiwasanheiress · 05/04/2013 19:48

Oh I'd comment on the chair, loudly under my breath to be heard... U answered on skins but not the chair? Struck me as strange.

Big ol glass o wine to u!!!!


LemonPeculiarJones · 05/04/2013 20:45

Petulant little dick of a man! FFS, imagine him in a crisis.


CockyFox · 05/04/2013 21:03

You shouldn't compost banana skins they just sit there all slimy on top of your lovely compost.


LunaticFringe · 05/04/2013 21:11

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