to think stbxh has good timing?

[BrittaPie]

Every time I am starting to miss him, consider inviting him round for drinks, etc, he does something arsey.

Do they all do that? It is like some kind of safety valve. 90% of the time it is all "I really miss you, I would do anything to just be near you" but then just when that starts working, the 10% of "I hate you and think you are an idiot" pops back up and I am reminded of the cycle I was in with him for almost the last decade.

Sigh.

Thanks :-)

I'm just being pleased that he is doing all this 300 miles away and not here in my face. I have my lovely house, I have it really nice, the kids are happy and see him whenever he decides to. He's actually being ok about the amount of time he sees them, well I would like him to have more and be more regular, so the kids have some idea of what to expect, but he is being as good as he can be considering the fact that he has just accepted a job hundreds of miles away from them SIGH.

Long story, boiling down to us planning to move together, back to our original town where all my family and friends are, and him arsing me about so much (to extreme levels) that I just moved myself and the kids. He was also a general EA twat who liked me being isolated and scared.

Now he has rented a house in the same road as my new house, but also accepted a job in our old town, because it is apparently too amazing to turn down. It is public sector, but only entry level and part time. I suppose it lets him do the whole "poor me, I have to rent a house hundreds of miles away just to see my kids" thing because i didn't let him have the "ex is taking ALL my money to buy gin" thing that was his first assumption, and I had offered to bring them to see him regularly and give him more time with them than he even had when we were together (as he was too busy being in the pub) so he couldn't say I was cruelly snatching his children away.

Oh, and apparently I just always wanted to be a single mum. That was my ambition. Yeah

I should add, he has been offered full time work, at the end of our street, working with friends. But apparently taking the public sector job is to show how sensible he is now

Last night I had DD in my bed as she had a bad cough, and I was looking at her sleeping and how much she looks like H and really missing him. Proper, aching for his arms mills and boon stuff.

Why am I so stupid sometimes?

Early days? Just guessing. It will get easier.

Yes, very early days.

I hope it does get easier.

I really miss him

It will, just concentrate on you and the DC, then you will stop missing him little by little. You already don't miss the EA.

. You're bound to miss him after so long together. It's hard to adjust to being single. But read what you've posted - is this the person you want to be with? How long would it be before you wanted out again.

Stay strong and you will come out of the other side.