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To never want to come out this room again

43 replies

KittyLane1 · 31/03/2013 20:10

Am currently holed up in DH's aunties bathroom. Visiting his family for Easter. I received horrible news recently about a family member on my side, I have been feeling awful and teary but still decided to come tonight.
Having been feeling so down I decided to cheer myself up by getting all dressed up, tight dress, heels and full make up. I am only 20! I have a fairly normal, curvy figure (14) and I am happy with how I look

We arrived and everyone said how sorry they are at my bad news, I thanked them and turned to put my coat in the other room, before I had even left I heard MIL and her mum laugh at me, saying what did I think I was wearing and what do I look like!

AIBU to think you don't console and then slag someone in the same breath?! I am very upset and don't want to face them again :(

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Piemother · 31/03/2013 20:13

Can't read and run. Can you go back in and get very drunk? It's probably how I would handle it. Thanks

NumTumMum · 31/03/2013 20:13

Oh that's dreadful! Did they realise you heard? I might be tempted to say to them that I heard, let them feel terrible instead of you. Can you go home or are you too far away?

CocacolaMum · 31/03/2013 20:13

what utter shits!!!!

I'm sure you look fine x I hope your MIL and GMIL get warts.

kinkyfuckery · 31/03/2013 20:15

Guilt them! Tell them very clearly that you heard their disgusting comments, then walk away and ignore (if you can't leave!) Shame them into behaving.

Salmotrutta · 31/03/2013 20:15

Oh that's horrible!

I'm sorry you have had bad news and yes, that was spectacularly mean of them to slag you off.

Could you be brave enough to take them to one side and tell them you heard?

Then tell your DH? How would he react?

NotHoldenCaulfield · 31/03/2013 20:16

You poor love. What a couple of sweethearts. They are jealous old bats who wish that they were 20 again and able to pull off a dress like that.

You ANBU. They are horrid. You look great. Dry your tears and get back out. Don't let them upset you. I can never understand why some women are so unkind to others. Xxxx

weblette · 31/03/2013 20:16

Kitty I bet you look lovely, you're worth a zillion times more than their shallowness. Hold your head high xxx

cocoachannel · 31/03/2013 20:16

I would be tempted to let them know I'd heard and make them feel the cruel, hurtful people they are. Is your DH with you? Did he hear?

Dylanlovesbaez · 31/03/2013 20:17

What a paid of bitches. Tell your partner and leave. This has enraged me!

GypsyTart · 31/03/2013 20:17

I'm sorry that you've had some bad news. And what you overheard was horrible. Unfortunately there's only one thing you can do and its get on down there and brazen it out. Don't let those miserable bitches know they've hurt your feelings.
And no doubt you look perfectly nice dressed up. They wouldn't have mentioned it otherwise. x

whosiwhatsit · 31/03/2013 20:17

You sound gorgeous and they're probably jealous because you're 20 and beautiful and they're not (and I say this as a forty year old myself). Try to put yourself in the frame of mind of pitying them as they must be quite miserable themselves to be so nasty about you.

Happy247 · 31/03/2013 20:17

how horrid....just ignore and try to enjoy your evening.

mistressploppy · 31/03/2013 20:17

I agree with Kinkyfuckery (never thought I'd say that sentence Grin )

cocoachannel · 31/03/2013 20:17

Oh and Thanks

Salmotrutta · 31/03/2013 20:17

x-post!

I'd deffo tell them- but I'm a lot older and have reached that stage of confidence.

You could do it icily politely and put them on the back foot.

mistressploppy · 31/03/2013 20:18

I think you SHOULD let them know they've hurt you, actually, Gypsy

ekidna · 31/03/2013 20:18

Gosh I wouldn't stick around after that. Nasty ladies. Poor you. Hug.

McPheetStink · 31/03/2013 20:18

What vile people

I my recent experience, people will say the most awful things about you that they wouldn't have the guts to say to your face. That makes them weak and cowardly. Ignore and pity Smile

ujjayi · 31/03/2013 20:19

Hold your head high and then tell them you heard. Nasty, insincere women. Show them up for what & who they are.

catinboots · 31/03/2013 20:19

Horrible, jealous cunts.

Get your coat and DH and get out of there now

(Hugggggs) WineWineThanksThanks

HumphreyCobbler · 31/03/2013 20:20

What a couple of bitches. I would tell them I had heard actually. And then fuck off home.

landofsoapandglory · 31/03/2013 20:21

I think you should tell them that you heard what they said. Say it in a loud voice in front of everyone else and watch them squirm!

Jestrin · 31/03/2013 20:21

I agree with the others. You need to go out there and they'll them that you heard what they said, found it very hurtful and then I would probably leave!

Happy247 · 31/03/2013 20:21

are you ok? i bet you look fab.

ScentedNappyHag · 31/03/2013 20:21

How horrible! I'd wait until everyone's there, and then casually ask 'So what exactly did you mean earlier when you asked what I thought I looked like? It's so sad when insecurity presents as bitchy isn't it?'
Thanks for your loss OP.

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